I'm really curious (being a trans-woman, this is constantly on my mind), why does it matter so much to people (both loved ones and random strangers) if a person wants to change their gender?
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I think it is no one's business but the person undergoing the transition. Of course, the decision should be discussed with loved ones, but to inform them rather than to consult with them.
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Because they love to have opinions on what is "good for you" and what is "right". Unfortunately they have no idea of the heartache and quite horrible decisions and process you must go through and they do not understand the pressing need to achieve a body that is congruent with your needs. It also gives them something to be "interested in"
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They don't have anything to do other than judge people. That's all I can think of. Personally I don't care what people do with their genitals.
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People have thier own ways of dealing with this situation some get mad and ask why others say good for you and deal with it .
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cause they are lame and want you to conform to the "norms" of society, and also because your loved ones have a set image in their heads of what you should do and what you should be like, because of who were born as...
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I don't neccessarily think that it is always about judging....I tried to think of how I would feel if one of my siblings brother was trans-gendered, and I was torn: On one hand, OF COURSE I want them to be happy....that's is a given. All I want for them is for them to live the lives they, in their heart of hearts, are destined for. Their happiness is first and foremost the number one priority, as far as I'm concerned. But on the other hand, on a purely self-centered level, I'd be a little sad. It's a big change, and it would completely redefine everything I thought I knew about my own life and my perception of their childhood in contrast to mine. I'd probably go through a period of mourning...because although the SOUL of the person would be the same, it would take time to come to terms with losing my "sister"...even though I would be gaining a "brother"...or vice versa. But would I still accept them, and love them? Oh, absolutely. But I would hope they would understand there would be an adjustment period.
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I believe it makes people feel a little uncomfortable because it's out of the norm. I guess most people believe that you should be happy and honored with the sex you were born with and embrace it. I really dont think people are trying to be unkind but it is a little startling at first.
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