That depends on the laws where you live. It also depends on what the judge decides if you end up in court. Child support orders are designed to protect the interests of the noncustodial parent (the parent without physical custody of the child) as well as the custodial parent. Generally speaking, and again that depends on the laws where you live, any money you give to the custodial parent that isn't ordered by a court is considered a "gift", NOT support. If your local law says that she can seek back child support, then the court can make you pay within the extent of what the law allows. That's why a support order benefits YOU, as well as the custodial parent of the child. You can't "decide" not to pay, because the state will simply take the money from your paycheck/bank account/whatever and she can't decide to take you to court because she's angry with you unless you've violated the order in some way.

do you have any written down record of your child support payments? do you have any kind of agreement in writing? is there any way you can prove you have been making those payments? those payments might be deductible from the total that is owed.

so I have to pay Back support? and yes i have records and no its not in writing. it was a verballed agreement.

Yes she could. NEVER PAY SUPPORT EXCEPT THROUGH THE COURTS If you want to learn how to do all this go to Dads House in Yahoo Groups. Upon joining, you will receive a link for downloading a free 200 page educational manual that can teach you what you need to know. Take the time to learn what you can and should do. http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/DadsHouse/ http://tinyurl.com/GiveKidsAChoice http://www.fathersandfamilies.org/ http://www.parentalalienation.org/ http://vids.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=vids.individual&videoid=27395259

This should have nothing to do with your ex. You should always take care of your children no matter what, and BTW sounds like you should pay a bit more. What is $100 a week getting them anyway!

Sorry, but if you can shop well, $100 can help. My kids are 25, full time cop, has his own home, paying off a tuition. Daughter is 21 and MY EX told her to stay in school so she can make extra money in the future. The mom somehow got to them, both children will not have any contact with me. They don't return my calls, thank you's for cards and gift money, and get this, The EX & her lawyer, this week informed me we are going to trial. Behind my back, I got NO information my daughter needed medical atten. To this minute, I still have not been told the problem, EX wants me to pay ALL medical bills and told her lawyer it was MY TURN to pay for school and is demanding $9,000. The 3 of them won't let me know anything, for 21 months now for the children, the mother & I, well, I left after she gave birth after the daughter was born. For the childrens' entire exsistance, I've been pulled back & forth thru courts,it's a sport for the EX, she & her new spouse combined earn a healthy $153,67.78 (4 yrs. ago.) Husband is a 50 yr. old retired cop, she's a bank vp asst. and he also works fulltime because of bordom, and my $17,000+. This is spite, not money. My long point is, is the COURT says what we have to pay, not her. But YES, she puts it out there to keep us in the loop. Did i mention ONCE I won.She started to cry for more money & the judge humiliated her and told her to knock it off, tears don't work, slammed his gavel, and she got NO increase. Hope she cries, my Ex learned the hard way, no tears. We always thought it was her sob stories, but courts decide. I wish mine was $100. Picture 2 indepentent 20 something year olds, one with a MORTGAGE getting NO money from his MOMMY and I have enough money for groceries every 14 days. She's killing my wife with stress. She just won't leave. She promised when I would never return to her she'd make my life hell. It's the only thing she kept her word on and didn't lie about. I'd love to have DNA's. So my new friend, Blame the court. We're hoping the judge will see I almost have to sell or render my business just to buy grogeries and keep our house & Health Insurence. I do feel for you. Hope she stops at their proper age, 25 yrs. old and I'm fool enough to pay it. My son told me he was unaware, must have asked the Mom 'cuz shortly after that, all communications stopped w/the kids. I NEVER speak to her, all she wants is to fight me.