My wife loves oral sex and she gets very aroused but not to the point to have an orgasm, what can i do to make her cum?

Get her to tell you what technique turns her on the most and then use that to you advantage. Do that move more than often when shes screaming you not to stop you know you've got her ;)

Perhaps this answer will help.
You never make love TO that person. You make love WITH that person. For the sake of the younger folks who read these answers, I won't get very graphic. I'm sure you can use your imagination.

I AM A VERY fortunate man. I had the wonderful experience of seeing my parents, both sets of grandparents and all my aunts and uncles behave as though they were constantly on their honeymoons with their spouses.
They would hold hands, hug, kiss, whisper things to each other, say, "I love you, _____!" and carry-on like many young people, who are in love, do in public.
They would smile at each other and tell each other
how beautiful, wonderful and thoughtful she was and
how thoughtful, wonderful and handsome he was!
WOW! What a great set of romance role models!

No, I never watched as they were making love in the most intimate way, but I DID see and learn from their examples and inter-actions with their spouses! As far as I know, no one ever cheated on the other.

That being said, one day my mother's father got in the car with me. I was driving him to the track. He "LOVED those ponies"! He was well-aware of the relationship I had with the lady I was dating and who would one day be my bride.

He said words similar to these:
I know your father told you what to do, but did he ever tell you how to do it?
I answered, "No".

He went on to say, "I'm going to tell you some things I don't think you'll learn from any one else. When you have sex, make love or whatever you want to call it, you don't behave like most other men. Most men are just interested in one thing and one thing only - satisfying their own selfish selves.

That's NOT the way to do it. You have to make absolutely certain she is satisfied. No matter how long it takes or what you have to do, you have to do whatever it takes to make sure she does what she likes to do best. You HAVE TO satisfy her first.

Your brain is the most important sex organ. Your brain controls what happens downstairs. When you aren't sure about what to do or how to do it, ask her what she wants you to do. She'll tell you or she'll show you. When you're making love, you think of other things - not what's going on at that particular moment with that particular lady. When you think about what you're actually doing, I guarantee you'll never satisfy the lady in your life.

He went on to explain about holding hands, hugging, kissing, caressing and taking things one step at a time. He described a lot of things I heard of but wasn't sure about.

During that ride, one of the last things he said was:
When you are absolutely sure she is satisfied, then you can do what you know is best for you - but not one minute before.

That's what I was told.

Thank you, Gran'pop. I love you. I miss you!

Some afterthoughts: You could also buy a book, on-line, called "Kama Sutra."

You could also go on-line and make the investment in some "adult sex toys" to stimulate and arouse. There are LOTS of sites.

Thanks for asking your Q! I enjoyed answering it!

VTY,
Ron Berue
Yes, that is my real last name!

Sources: My wonderful family!

"THE University of Hard Knocks"
also known as ("a/k/a") "life's valuable lessons"

Use a vibrator to arrouse her clit while you are inside her ass. That outta work just fine!

<....same way and i agree with darma dorko

I'm the same as your wife actually, and I really don't know. I think it may have to do with feeling comfortable, and relaxed, not tensing up (especially your legs). Because the woman is in a very vulnerable position. Relaxing both physically and mentally. Sometimes it's about the "stroke" of your tongue, too. Try different ways, and don't be afraid, have her direct you.

My wife doesn't orgasm when I screw her, unless she's really horny. But when I tongue her vagina, It's not long until she guides my finger into her butt hole. That's her spot for making her cum violently. Now I do it automatically, after her top hole is good and wet so I can use her own juices to lubricate her anus. Also she will flood me if I pinch her nipples while doing this. Surprised the heck out of me the first time. If yours will let you, try it.