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by ginatu on September 5th, 2006

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I had sex with a married co-worker, and things were sweet between us until I slept with another co-worker who turned out to be his best friend, who told him. Now he tells me we can't be together anymore. What should I do?

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  • by Glenn Blaylock on September 5th, 2006

    Glenn Blaylock

    First of all, your married co worker is a hypocrite. He doesn't share!?! He's cheating on his wife!!! And you were helping him! He is a rat and you should be ashamed of yourself! You should be glad that he doesn't want to continue the relationship and you should also start looking for men who are not married rather than helping men break the marital vows.

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  • by Firebrand on December 16th, 2006

    Firebrand

    Stop behaving like a slut and keep your panties on . Leave married men and co workers alone. You are infantile and promiscuous enough you must be old enough to know that MEN TALK ABOUT SLUTS that is a given

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  • by Anonymous on December 13th, 2006

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    It sounds to me like you have bigger problems than coming between friends. When people (like you) go out of their way to create this much chaos in their lives, there are underlying issues that need to be addressed. Think about it, not only are you sexually involved with best friends, but you could break up a marriage/family! And in the process, you could lose your livelihood! I suggest getting some psychological help and find out why you are acting out with such reckless behavior... oh yes, and you should stop seeing both of these men that you work with of course...

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  • by cavallerizza on September 6th, 2006

    cavallerizza

    Stop having sex with married men. & co-workers.

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  • by Edelweiss on December 13th, 2006

    Edelweiss

    Ok well I wanna try to answer this so it's kind of what you wanna hear. Sometimes you can't help that intraoffice attraction, married or single. When you are with the same people everyday for hours and hours, you work together, laugh together, go to lunch together, of course you're going to develop relationships. Maybe the married man is using your "betrayal" to him as ammo to end your affair. You're the only one who can know if he's seriously jealous of it, or if he was trying to get out of the relationship with you. I wouldn't worry about the guy situation i'd worry about your work atmosphere. Of course now that they both know they will be sure to at least tell one other person. There will be gossip and you need to be prepared for that, sometimes the only result is to look for a new job. Then again...NEVER EVER EVER UNDERESTIMATE THE POWER OF DENIAL. If rumours spread...deny deny and deny some more. The dirty deed is done, you can't take it back, you're going to have to live with the consequences of what happens...I would stay as far away from the married man is possible, if you loved him you wouldn't have been involved with another man, so it wasn't even true/genuine love to begin with. Try to keep calm and definately surf the classifides.

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  • by jenniferprofitt on September 5th, 2006

    jenniferprofitt

    He's MARRIED! You can't be with him anyways! How can he be mad at you for sleeping with someone else when he has a wife? He's no good girl - move on!

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  • by Patti jo on January 14th, 2007

    Patti jo

    You will eat crow and be talked about accept it or find another job and learn your lesson ! Cause it ain't working for you !

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  • by Dabear1234 on January 8th, 2007

    Dabear1234

    I can't even believe your asking this question. You we're in a relationship with a married co-worker and you claim everything was good until you slept with another co-worker so now the married co-worker doesn't want to have anything to do with you. And your wondering why? Think about it. Neither relationship is healthy. Don't date married men and don't date co-workers, and I use 'DATE' loosely here.

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  • by Wendora on January 2nd, 2007

    Wendora

    I think you should get tested for STDs. Your legs sound pretty wide open.

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  • by Songster on December 17th, 2006

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    entirely2muchfun gave a good answer and then followed it with the advice to call the wife. I started to add a comment, but found out that comments cannot be extensive. Here is my full comment:

    Auntie Em is more than right about not telling a spouse about an infidelity. First of all because you're probably going to create unhappiness ("ignorance is bliss" isn't just a cliché), and secondly because you never know when that will backfire on you. The spouse that was cheated on may come to the conclusion that YOU were the cause of the infidelity and YOU need to be taught a lesson, or worse. Run, don't walk, away from this relationship, and don't try to rectify anything.

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  • by Britt012 on December 16th, 2006

    Britt012

    You just need to stop because that ain't cute or right

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  • by tay999 on December 15th, 2006

    tay999

    ok well so your telling me if you were married you would want your husband to cheat on you and then find out that your husband was mad at the person he was having an affair with because they did something with someone else. seems like a real mind blower on what you should do. i mean get a hold of yourself you were stupid for doing it in the first place

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  • by Anonymous on September 8th, 2006

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    There's no way round it- your best off well out of this one. Wash your hands of both of them and the entire situation- you can't win- one is married the other is a friend of his- its heading for disaster. At best you'll end up hurt, at worst there's going to be some nasty (probably exagerated) rumours passed around the workplace. Walk away now and forget about them both: its more trouble than its worth.
    I'd leave off dating co-workers for a while too (and married men for that matter), its just too messy.

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  • by entirely2muchfun on September 5th, 2006

    entirely2muchfun

    He was a mistake...be happy that he doesn't want to continue the relationship. He needs to be working on his own relationship with his wife...he is a MARRIED MAN...HE NEEDS TO BE A REAL MAN AND RESPECT HIS WIFE, and I think you should call her to let her know what he is doing and that you want to set the story straight.

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  • by TBURG2 on September 5th, 2006

    TBURG2

    GET A LIFE YOU NUTJOB !!!

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  • by Susie24 on October 15th, 2011

    Susie24

    Find another Co Worker!

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  • by naryb69 on March 2nd, 2011

    naryb69

    OK what did you expect. Doing it with 2 friends will get you one of two outcomes.

    1. Someone will get upset.
    2. They will want you together.

    Sounds like it was door number one.

    I'd say give it time. And if he wants to talk just say I am sorry it bothers you but I am not sorry about my actions. You are married and have me and her...I decided to have a bit of you and him.

    And if you ever get the two on the same page...it could be a fun time to try the 2 guys at one time thing knowing they can't squeel on you.

    BC

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  • by naryb69 on March 2nd, 2011

    naryb69

    OK what did you expect. Doing it with 2 friends will get you one of two outcomes.

    1. Someone will get upset.
    2. They will want you together.

    Sounds like it was door number one.

    I'd say give it time. And if he wants to talk just say I am sorry it bothers you but I am not sorry about my actions. You are married and have me and her...I decided to have a bit of you and him.

    And if you ever get the two on the same page...it could be a fun time to try the 2 guys at one time thing knowing they can't squeel on you.

    BC

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  • by Rabbit on October 30th, 2011

    Rabbit

    Tell both workers they will have to get used to sharing you ! Take both at the same time reduces problems

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  • by Vesper on January 8th, 2007

    Vesper

    Find someone who isn't taken and can love you wholly and unconditionally because as a person you deserve that. Have more respect for yourself and don't lower yourself to married men. Also, the coworker love affair thing rarely works out (to my knowledge) but that may just be some radical stereotype.

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  • by dumdum on October 31st, 2009

    dumdum

    Guessing you should do about anything but what you have been doing. Guessing you will continue doing pretty much as you have been doing.

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  • by Anonymous on October 31st, 2009

    Anonymous

    Do you want to have a rep as a marriage crasher or a woman who cannot keep herself from hurting men, Married men must be kept from single women. I have seen this in workplace. I am glad I am not part of it. I also seen a marriage suffer because of it. Just to let you know, its prevalent in a workplace 90 percent of the time.

    I am not going to let you know that you will be faced with your position in danger.


    I wish you good luck in this matter.

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  • by cantfoolthewise on October 12th, 2010

    cantfoolthewise

    People always say it is good not to get personal at work, you went too far.

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  • by Dabear1234 on December 13th, 2006

    Dabear1234

    Quit your job and come to work with me!!!!!

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