Is 7 months too long to still be trying to get over an ex?
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you could find a new b/f g/f, might be for the wrong reasons but it could get your mind off ex, never know it could end up being the new love of your life and you'll think back to the ex, and think of the 7 monthes you wasted, or it could be just enough to get you out of the house and remember that you're life didn't revolve around him/her for ever. You can start over, not until you grow a pair and get away from your computer, there are more fish in the sea, not sure if thats how it goes, but its true. 7 monthes is a long time to dwell on a person whom doesn't reciprocate. Don't know your age but there are things to do and places to go. Go find someone worthy of you, you obviously have a lot of dedication.
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No, it is not a long time - it will take as long as it takes. But there will come a day, when you realize that you are over him/her.
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its been eight months for me.. and as my friend always reminds me, certain people affect you different ways.. you cant help the way you feel and there's nothing you can do except wait for that day when you stop thinking about that person. getting another bf/gf helps in the meantime, but when/if that fails, you'll go back to feeling this way if you haven't completely healed (i tried it lol) also, try thinking about what you think makes you still attached to this person. was it a first love? was it a breakup without any closure? did you get hurt like you've never been hurt before... etc sometimes these things contribute... but like i said before, certain ppl do affect you differently. and you'll never know who til it happens... and you can't help it or feel bad about it. you are entitled to your feelings! :-)
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I was with a guy for 8 months. We broke up unexpectedly and I just couldn't get over him (little did I know he couldn't get over me either). After being apart for around 6 months, he started talking to me again and that just made things worse. Me and this guy ended up dating again, but if you're seriously looking to get over this person for good stay away from them as much as possible. Avoid contact. It'll just make it harder to forget about them and move on.
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No, its taken me almost 2 1/2 years to have a better battle with a lost love. I hoped everyday that he would contact me but he never did. Yes, I cried and cried for months until i decided that i was tired. I accepted the pain and moved on but still i may think of what happened and would he happen to pop up one day. Dont sit and wait for this its just a fantasy all in your head. He/She may or my not depending on the reason for break-up. Dont stop life and I hope that you have friends to hang with so youll be on the road to recovery. It may take you years to over come thoughts and hope for you two but one day there will be a light at the end of the tunnel with the answer you need and deserve. You may realize that he/she was never really the one. You may still be in love until the heart has found comfort in someone else. Good Luck : Hope i've helped some Blkpassions07
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It is never really too long. Take as much time as you need, because rushing and regretting actions is worse
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i was always told that for every month you go out with someone, it takes a month to get over them. I was seeing someone for six months, but within two weeks of splitting up with them, i met someone else - 5 years later we are married and living together in another city. it takes as long as it takes.
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So here's my thought....have you tried at all to make positive contact with the new girlfriend? does she know all of this and if she does why is she still there...sounds to me like his mommy didn't hug him enough as a child...or maybe you need to check yourself....Or does he think he's some sort of rock star? and you are his groupie? I really hope he's not in the same band as my boyfriend with a "friend" named AMY!!
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I broke up with a guy over a year ago and he still calls me saying he misses me and asking me out.
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No amount of time is too long. You really can't change what your heart is feeling. I know its almost one of the worst feelings in the world. My boyfriend and I, broke up last march, we dated for 3 years and its march a year later and it been just recent that I'm totally ok with it all. Man, at 7 months, I was still thinking about it 24/7, like my life was destroyed. But you have to find whats inside of you that you love about yourself, and realise, there are in fact more fish in the sea. I wish you luck darlin. :)
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Experts say that you need 6 months for every year you were with your significant other.
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it's been 8 years and I married someone else
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It depends on how long you went out with the guy. I tend to suscribe to the theory that you shouldn't spend more time than you were with them getting over them.
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I think there is no time limit. you need to think about why your hurting so much . It may be the rejection . i am going through it now but think its the rejection that hurts more for me. The fact he has not called or bothere to get in touch . Why am i hurting while it appears i never meant anything to him. I think we stop ourselves moving on i am terrible at getting stuck in the good memorys when really there were not even that many. The mind is a funny thing we sometimes feel we need to torture ourselves. A friend once said to me we need to get hurt to apprcaite the right person when they come along. Life is it be lived once and we must do this . I am a childrens nurse and it was inly yesterday i witnessedd a loss of life at age 3 .. this girl will never even get a broken heart. Good Luck and stay true to you
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How long was the relationship? it's taken me 23 months (so far) after ending a four year relationship.
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Its been a year and a half since my ex left me and im with someone new now and have been with them for over 8 months now, but i still cant stop myself from talking about my ex, i have lost all contact with her now for about the last 9 months, and we didnt end well. when she ended it i tryed to make sure we could save a friendship but it seemed it wasnt going to happen. I have friends who still are friends with her and everytime i hear her name mentioned or i see a picture of her it kills me and rips me up inside, even when im out im always looking around to see if she is out. I dont know why i cant just forget about this person and move on. will i ever stop feeling this way about her? i feel guilty about the way i feel cause my current gf deserves so much better. I know my current gf is so much better suited for me, but she doesnt make me feel the same as my ex did, even though i knew me and my ex were complete opposites. I honestly dont think i will ever feel this way again for anyone and im afraid to feel this way ever again with someone else cause its to much pain to deal with in the end.
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i think it depends how long you were together. and how the person treated you. and "get over them" in what way? it took me about 2 seconds to get over my ex...but about 3 years to get over what he did to me.
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It feels too long.. im in my 7th month too after a 2 year relationship.. and I'm not over her yet:/
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No not at all especially if you were in the relationship for a long time.
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You take as long as you need. Do not let anyone dictate to you how long it should take you toget over your ex. Some people get over an ex rather quickly while some take years and others never really ever get over an ex. I lost the love and light of my life my heart and soul and main reason for living nearly 3 years ago. I still haven't gotten over that loss and may never fully get over it. I wish mine was because of a breakup maybe it wouldn't be so hard to get over then. I wish you luck in getting over the breakup. I can only imagine how hard it is for you. I hope one day you can move on and realize it is for the best and find another to give your heart to.
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Getting over an ex isn't a race honey. Some people get over an ex a week after the break-up. Others after a year. Time heals all wounds.
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everyone is different time is a great healer allegedly
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Not at all... it took me 2 years to get over my first "love" and to finally trust someone else and let them in. Unfortunately I fell really hard for this new guy and he too let me down because HE was not over his ex. Take all the time you need. Don't rush out and find someone else to take your mind off of them if you're not ready. You will end up hurting yourself and really hurting the person you try to replace them with... It will probably take me another two years to let someone else in. You don't want to do that to someone.
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never! it takes time to get over someone you loved or still do love a lot. take your time! don't worry either, different people go through different feelings and if your still getting over your ex thats totally okay!
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I'm in the same boat. You just gotta roll with it. One day you'll be ok. it'll all get better with time. focus on yourself.
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pretty long!
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