I would look into Al-Anon if I were you. It sounds like he has an alcohol issue. I was surprised when I first read that alcoholics tend to be able to stop for periods, but what gets them is that once they start drinking they cannot set down the glass. If he goes 2 months without and then binges, that's a sign of alcoholism. Al-Anon members are familiar with this and will be able to give lots of good advice on what to do next, what works and what doesn't, etc.

My partner who I have been together with since I was 17 were are now 40 insists that he wishes to drink every weekend I have allowed him to but worry about his health and also he is getting more drunk then he ever has and over the last year I have had enough of him coming in at 2 or 3 in a morning as I find that I cannot sleep and I am trying to complete a doctor degree course. Sometimes as he knows I do not agree he should drink Friday,Saturday and Sunday he will be doing a job on the house and will just disappear I know where he has gone but I always still think something else happended if you know what I mean he then rolls in again at 3am in the morning. He says that he wants to change and loves me will change only that he will spend a little less time but still has to go. His argument is that he has always gone for a pint on the weekend and his friends do to he has different friends the ones in the pub. Now he is blaming me saying that he has always done this that he works hard all week pays all the bills including mine so on the weekend he likes to drink. I think he has a drink problem I would be happier if he would do his drinking once of twice in a month but every weekend is too much. Does he have a problem. We are fighting on the weekend over this and I have also driven my friends away as they are sick of seeing me unhappy over this I sent a text to him in the pub saying what a drunken idiot he was and this text by mistake landed in my friends inbox and since then I have had a hurtful silence from friends and family over this. My sister said that the problem is 50-50, he is paying the bills for me at uni so that’s why I stay, this is not true I’ve always paid my way he just earns more than I, I hope I will earn again when I pass the course in another year. I feel very low and isolated with this problem and like no one cares but I also know its my problem. I love him I want this to work but it seems a no win situation he simply does not want to change or cannot its seems its doomed I don’t know where to turn can you shed some light for me on this issue and how things are from your perspective of the situation

My partner who I have been together with since I was 17 were are now 40 insists that he wishes to drink every weekend I have allowed him to but worry about his health and also he is getting more drunk then he ever has and over the last year I have had enough of him coming in at 2 or 3 in a morning as I find that I cannot sleep and I am trying to complete a doctor degree course. Sometimes as he knows I do not agree he should drink Friday,Saturday and Sunday he will be doing a job on the house and will just disappear I know where he has gone but I always still think something else happended if you know what I mean he then rolls in again at 3am in the morning. He says that he wants to change and loves me will change only that he will spend a little less time but still has to go. His argument is that he has always gone for a pint on the weekend and his friends do to he has different friends the ones in the pub. Now he is blaming me saying that he has always done this that he works hard all week pays all the bills including mine so on the weekend he likes to drink. I think he has a drink problem I would be happier if he would do his drinking once of twice in a month but every weekend is too much. Does he have a problem. We are fighting on the weekend over this and I have also driven my friends away as they are sick of seeing me unhappy over this I sent a text to him in the pub saying what a drunken idiot he was and this text by mistake landed in my friends inbox and since then I have had a hurtful silence from friends and family over this. My sister said that the problem is 50-50, he is paying the bills for me at uni so that’s why I stay, this is not true I’ve always paid my way he just earns more than I, I hope I will earn again when I pass the course in another year. I feel very low and isolated with this problem and like no one cares but I also know its my problem. I love him I want this to work but it seems a no win situation he simply does not want to change or cannot its seems its doomed I don’t know where to turn can you shed some light for me on this issue and how things are from your perspective of the situation

My partner who I have been together with since I was 17 were are now 40 insists that he wishes to drink every weekend I have allowed him to but worry about his health and also he is getting more drunk then he ever has and over the last year I have had enough of him coming in at 2 or 3 in a morning as I find that I cannot sleep and I am trying to complete a doctor degree course. Sometimes as he knows I do not agree he should drink Friday,Saturday and Sunday he will be doing a job on the house and will just disappear I know where he has gone but I always still think something else happended if you know what I mean he then rolls in again at 3am in the morning. He says that he wants to change and loves me will change only that he will spend a little less time but still has to go. His argument is that he has always gone for a pint on the weekend and his friends do to he has different friends the ones in the pub. Now he is blaming me saying that he has always done this that he works hard all week pays all the bills including mine so on the weekend he likes to drink. I think he has a drink problem I would be happier if he would do his drinking once of twice in a month but every weekend is too much. Does he have a problem. We are fighting on the weekend over this and I have also driven my friends away as they are sick of seeing me unhappy over this I sent a text to him in the pub saying what a drunken idiot he was and this text by mistake landed in my friends inbox and since then I have had a hurtful silence from friends and family over this. My sister said that the problem is 50-50, he is paying the bills for me at uni so that’s why I stay, this is not true I’ve always paid my way he just earns more than I, I hope I will earn again when I pass the course in another year. I feel very low and isolated with this problem and like no one cares but I also know its my problem. I love him I want this to work but it seems a no win situation he simply does not want to change or cannot its seems its doomed I don’t know where to turn can you shed some light for me on this issue and how things are from your perspective of the situation

My partner who I have been together with since I was 17 were are now 40 insists that he wishes to drink every weekend I have allowed him to but worry about his health and also he is getting more drunk then he ever has and over the last year I have had enough of him coming in at 2 or 3 in a morning as I find that I cannot sleep and I am trying to complete a doctor degree course. Sometimes as he knows I do not agree he should drink Friday,Saturday and Sunday he will be doing a job on the house and will just disappear I know where he has gone but I always still think something else happended if you know what I mean he then rolls in again at 3am in the morning. He says that he wants to change and loves me will change only that he will spend a little less time but still has to go. His argument is that he has always gone for a pint on the weekend and his friends do to he has different friends the ones in the pub. Now he is blaming me saying that he has always done this that he works hard all week pays all the bills including mine so on the weekend he likes to drink. I think he has a drink problem I would be happier if he would do his drinking once of twice in a month but every weekend is too much. Does he have a problem. We are fighting on the weekend over this and I have also driven my friends away as they are sick of seeing me unhappy over this I sent a text to him in the pub saying what a drunken idiot he was and this text by mistake landed in my friends inbox and since then I have had a hurtful silence from friends and family over this. My sister said that the problem is 50-50, he is paying the bills for me at uni so that’s why I stay, this is not true I’ve always paid my way he just earns more than I, I hope I will earn again when I pass the course in another year. I feel very low and isolated with this problem and like no one cares but I also know its my problem. I love him I want this to work but it seems a no win situation he simply does not want to change or cannot its seems its doomed I don’t know where to turn can you shed some light for me on this issue and how things are from your perspective of the situation 0 Pts Rate Answer