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  • I don't think there's any right or wrong thing to say. Just say something like "You'll be in my thoughts" or "I'll be praying for you". Don't bring up anything about the other kids she has or that she has a long time to have more kids or anything like that. Just let her know you're there for her if she needs anything, and just give her room to talk, if and when she wants to.
  • Three months ago we just lost our baby boy who lived only 5 hours, to a rare situation, CDH, when the diaphragm tears and then lungs don't develop. I think personally it is so nice when anyone asks what my memories of him are, how we are doing as a family, someone who listens is so supportive!
  • "I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Please tell me if there is anything I can do." If you think this is getting brushed off, continue with, "No, seriously. Please tell me how I can help, if you need anything - even if it's just to get out of the house for an hour or two."
  • I have been there, Just listen.
  • "I'm so sorry I have no words which will comfort you....I cannot imagine how you feel right now....please know my thoughts (prayers) are with you" In a couple of weeks or so, send a "I am thinking of you card"...not a sympathy one. Mother's Day is this weekend....a single rose, no Mothers Day card, just a note "You are in our thoughts today".
  • If you don't know what to say just listen. Don't just say "I'm sorry", otherwise they have every right to quote Brad Pitt at you and say *Irish accent*"Did you do it?... then what the fuck you sorry for"*end Irish accent*. Offer support for them, but unless you are their best friend (in which case I'd assume you know how to treat them) don't push anything on them. People don't want the whole world consoling them when they are down, it hurts and they don't want to be constantly reminded

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