If I were in your shoes, I would be alarmed too. Its especially cause for alarm if she tells you that she's going to bed or signing off, and then signs on with the other name for a long period of time. But my question is, how did you find out about this screen name? If you were spying on her that's not a good start. Maybe you stumbled across it on her computer when you were using it? Maybe someone told you about it or you got the screen name through the AIM 'Find a Buddy' option with her e-mail? If you are suspicious of her being unfaithful or going behind your back then maybe you should talk to her about it. But remember, just because she has another screen name that you don't know about, or rather you aren't supposed to know about, doesn't mean she's cheating. Sometimes people just have seperate screen names that they don't want anyone to know, or she just uses that screen name to see if someone she's trying to avoid signs on or to talk to some of her friends privately. Usually the signs of unfaithfulness include sudden changes of attitude, dishonesty, excuses not to be together, etc...(I suggest checking out an answer by Andersen777 in this same section under the 'telltale signs of a cheater' question). Having a secret screen name doesn't mean she's cheating at all. If you found out her screen name through another way, such as some 'profile enhancements' that record people's screen names when they look at your profile, then you probably have nothing to worry about. She probably knows that your profile records screen names and wouldn't be stupid enough to look at it if she really didn't want you to know she was being unfaithful. Just remember, it takes alot more than just a secret screen name to be unfaithful. There's no reason to think she's being unfaithful unless you really beleive that she is. You said she seems loyal in your question, so let me ask you this last question, and if you can answer it yourself it should be able to put your fears to rest: Do you TRUST her?

Since neither "secrecy" or "amount of time' are defined here, this is a hard question to answer. What might seem secretive to you might not be to her. She might think that an hour a day is a reasonable amount of time to spend on AIM and you might think 15 minutes is too long. You have only dated her for 1 month, so you probably really haven't gotten to know her/her habits fully at this point. I think it is important to remember that when feelings of suspicion creep up on you. I have to wonder how you managed to find out about this ID. I know MP1116 was curious as well. Spying? I hope not. If so, why? Is there something that makes you suspicious of her? Have you been cheated on in the past and you're still a bit gunshy? Whatever you do, beware of letting your imagination run away with you. Another persepctive. I have done the same thing and I was not cheating or trying to be secretive. I have dated all kinds and sometimes a girl just wants some privacy. Especially at the beginning of a relationship when she doesn't know you well and for all she knows you could be a psychopath. Think about it, most messenger services show when a person is logged on/off their service. To some degree it's a way that somebody could potentially track a person/their schedule. Plus, sometimes it is just nice to devote ones time to others and having this ID allows her to do that without feeling tracked. For example, I dated a guy who was a bit too enthusiastic and if I didn't return his calls the second I walked in the door, he was "hurt". God forbid I had dinner, a hot bath, and decided to log on and chat with my Aunt for awhile. He was all over me. . ."you didn't call me back, but you were on the computer for hours!" Or I would be doing research for work online and couldn't get through it from him IM'ing me to death. Frustrating, annoying, and rude. I instituted a new rule after that--no boyfriends get all my AIM IDs. They get one and family/friends got another. But, I was not cheating. :) Relax! Hope this helps.

Here's my two cents on this question. "Hungry Guy" is my own alter identity that I use because I write extremely kinky erotic stories for a hobby and post them on sites like ASSTR, Literotica, and Storiesonline. I'm not cheating or doing anything even remotely unethical, but it's not something I would reveal to a new girlfriend right away. I would reveal my "dark side" to her gradually, over a period of a few months to a year even...depending on how I sensed she felt about really kinky sex...

Don't be worried-DUMP HER. There's plenty of other fish in the sea. Why waste your time worrying about a relationship that has trust issues? Bottom line: You'll need to ask her. Good luck in your quest to find THE PERFECT WOMAN!

No. Why would you be worried about that? It could mean that she's hiding something, but that doesn't mean you should worry. It's not like it's your fault she didn't tell you about it.