How do you want/expect your gf to act when you all go to short trip (couple of days) together? Do you expect your gf to pay a portion of the trip? Is it a turn off if your gf wants some of your attention time to time while on the trip?

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• i'll just second that answer

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  by Jane on April 28th, 2008

• Honestly, some of these questions just make me shake my head.

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  by neenie2 on April 28th, 2008

• Sorry. I think I wasn't making myself clear at all. My bad...
  
  I went short trip with my bf's guy friends. They took their gfs with them. One was good she was conversational and cheerful. I enjoyed her company. But the other one was...hmm...basically she wanted to come last minutes and we agreed (I actually told my bf's friend to take her along! Wrong decision on my part...). She slept in a bed for two nights in a low which was going to assign to me and my bf if she didn't come. Which was okay if she was still contributing to have a good time. She didn't. The whole three days she didn't talked to anyone but to her bf. Every time when I had conversations with her, I was the one who had to initiate the conversation. She is young (21?) but hey, when I was that age I knew how to be around people. I think she only brought less than $20 in cash for this 3 day trip. She just expected her bf or everyone pay for her. She didn't even have a small tip ($6) when others are paying for her food :-(

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  by growinlove on April 29th, 2008

• She is kind of paying for her behavior though because we thought she was being a wet blanket...and I really don't want to go to another trip with her ever again or actually don't really want to hang out with her. I have no idea why her bf (my bf's guy friend) wants her as his gf. He is a good man. Oh well, sometimes those weired things happen I guess, and of course, I know it's not my business since they seem to be happy together :-p (and I don't care as long as I don't need to spend so much time with her) Maybe I'm being too hash? but I just can't stand people who is spoiled this way.

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  by growinlove on April 29th, 2008

• Ok, clearer now. Sounds like she didn't know anybody much, but her bf - and maybe she's really shy? Maybe she didn't want to go because she didn't have the $, and her bf said - don't worry about it, just come? Perhaps she felt bad because she knew she couldn't contribute $-wise as much as everybody else. Don't know. Have you asked her bf what's the deal? Not everybody's as comfortable around new people, I know I'm not. So, unless she was acting like an extremely greedy pig $-wise the entire trip (I'll have the surf and turf, and a side order of caviar...) - I might cut her some slack :)

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  by neenie2 on April 29th, 2008

• Yeah I wanted to... It probably would be easier for me if I could. I didn't want to think bad of her because that only will make things harder for me and I will get stuck with some negative thoughts. The thing is, I think I know when a person is shy most of the time. I'm pretty sure it wasn't because she was shy. Shy people still smile or giggle when they talk to me. She was like... nothing. No facial expression. Her whole face was saying "whatever." She looked completely bored and was waiting for her bf to talk to her.
  
  I don't know if there was any deal they made before coming to the trip. But I remember she didn't pay anything when we went to the bar last time and when everyone was paying rounds of drinks, she just accepted and kept drinking whatever drink people bought for her. I think she was the only one who didn't pay... I didn't think about it at all that time but I kinda know why after this trip... Well, you are right. I might need to cut her some slack... :-p

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  by growinlove on April 29th, 2008