Why do I dislike most people I come in contact with?

because you don't live in Vancouver hehe, the people here are so nice.

Because most of humanity sucks.

You're still at school right?

I think that's a lot to with it.
Fact is, most teenagers are vile - its because that time in your life is so competetive, a lot of them end up being truly horrible to each other. Good news is that they grow out of it (or most of them do!)

Also, in school, you are pushed together with a peer group you may have little or nothing in common with. This is less so once you leave- you have some choice in the industry you work with, and are more likley to end up with something that suits your personality and interests- and will therefore involve more people you'll be inclined to like. You also have more power to avoid the people you dislike (not always possible, but easier once you're an adult!).
So give it time- you'll eventually find people you like and enjoy spending time with (I didn't get on with many people until I was about 19 either)
In the meantime, is there something you could do to help you meet a wider cross-section of people and thus increase the probability of meeting people you like. Not sure what you're into, but concerts and gigs, dance or music clubs, writers groups, language learning classes are some options you could think about. Or get a part time job. See whats going on in your local area that you could get involved with.

You may fear that people do not like you. Give people a chance.

Perhaps you have set a high standard for others.

People are assholes. At this second, I pretty much hate the lot of them. They are judgemental, thick and rude. Most people think they are better than you, and tell you what to do. They feel it is perfectly fine to criticise you, even when they do not understand fully. They are miserable, whine, bring you down and make your life hell. I am so angry right now I could scream! If ever you see my friend Rob (though I doubt you would), poke him in the eye, spit in his face, slap him with a white glove and tell him if he dares insult the way I treat my father again, I will grab his scrotum and ram it down his throat! Good day to you!

It sounds like some kind of phase of your spiritual development you are in. Sometimes people can feel this way for a while, but eventually, you will probably grow out of it.

Wow, a lot of you sound like hateful, horrible people. You all need to realize that YOU are so, so far from perfect and you most likely do a lot of things to annoy others too. And you think other people are acting like they're the best? Thats what you are doing! Sulking in your pessimism, hating everybody, you don't see what's wrong with that? No one deserves to be treated and looked at as if they are the dirt beneath your feet. So get over it and stop making the world an even worse place. Get over yourselves, no one needs that.

Personally, I love people in general. It hurts me to hear all you horrid whiners talking about them like this. Really, what gives you the right to pass your judgement on everyone who walks by?

I am much the same way. I dislike most people I meet, at least initially. I don't like anybody who intrudes on my space... which means practically anybody I don't initiate contact with.
I have little patience for those less intelligent than myself (statistically about 70% of the population) because they bore me. I have little tolerance for those who waste my time, unless they can do so amusingly enough to offset my annoyance.

In short I dislike most people because I am (or can be) a negative person it is easier for me to find something about them that annoys me than to find any redeeming qualities they may have.
That said, it is also relatively easy to overcome that first impression and make me like you unless I am in a particularly foul (possibly homicidal) mood if they can demonstrate that they are actually worth dealing with before I write them off as a waste of time.

Well, Aunte Em put it quite well, but I would like to simplify it a little bit.
1. Life is about looking at the world at being at a specific influence to your life, you may make life out to be an environment of failing people, erased morals, and deliberately disjuncted situations. If your do, this explains the first part.
If you see a private school boy giving an overcomplicated speech to a college graduating class do you think:
1. In this country people can be who they want to be. It is great! OR do you think:
2. What a load of shit. Why the hell do I have to listen to this overeducated, useless individual who does nothing but deprive this world of the baseline simplicity needed to sustain a conjunctive way of life.

If you are for number one, you have a positive viewpoint. Number two, a negative view. Both have limited merit, as most situations have very good AND very bad close-examination characteristics. However, you may be judging people on a very deep - but pessimist basis that only reflects a discontent with life in general, and if this is the case, I cannot really help you. Remember, you are not perfect either. If someone is a chauvinist, a bragger, a policy debater, or an overpowering, ill-brained individual, then you have more than a right to dislike them. But remember, we all go through different phases in life and each and every one of us has a story, so try to just get to know them.

I went thru a phase like this in my 20's. Dislike would be mild. I probably hated most people I came in contact with. With time I found out that most people will have some sort of annoying habit or will do something distressing in the course of a relationship. So, it helps me just to expect this and allow it to be normal. Second, some people dislike themselves, and you might be picking up on this. Third, if you can pinpoint what disturbs you about these people it can help - do you feel judged by them in some way? Is it the same problem over and over again?

because they are rude? hi.

You might have to move or change job?

This is the sort of thing I, too, run into any given week.

Try to give new people a chance - and realize there are a lot of good people out there (as well as many very selfish people). Surround yourself each day with people who might share your common interests and your likes.

SB

because you see people for what most of them are.you have reached a level of superior ethics by where you navigate with truth,clarity and justice not ego intemperance and desperation.i know how you think.

Because you don't like people. Find a cave, move in, meditate, and find happiness in solitude.

Could it be you and not the other people? My mother-in-law had this same air about herself. i loved her, but she could down a person, just by looking at them. after many years of knowing her, she changed and became a very respectable person and mother-in-law.

So, maybe its just you and not everyone else.

Could be you're coming in contact with the wrong people? Or maybe you've been burned a few times and are sensitive, so now you start new people you meet at 'less than average' rating. Try starting people out neutral and give it time to see if they 'sink or swim' (don't start off with them sinking as soon as you meet them). Does this make any sense? Trying to help.

Someone answered you, 'You may fear that people do not like you.' I, however, believe you may possess a high level of Discernment.

Maybe you mix with the wrong people or you could just be anti social.

Wow I'm very much that way even after I get to know people. Generally I like people when we first meet, then but as I get to know some of them, they start to annoy me and it gets worse and worse with some people.

I just realized that most of the people I love or really like being around are just accepting. They don't judge...this might be because I'm rather judgemental. But today, I realized maybe I should be less judgemental. I'll work on this. At the end of the day, we all like to be loved and accepted. We're human.

BTW, some people have gotten WAAAY too bent out of shape on this matter. Take it easy people.

Most people we meet are not like us (to varying degrees) and that's why we don't like them. Occasionally you will meet people who you view as very similar to yourself (mainly in terms of your values and the way you think). These are people you 'click with' or, if you're really lucky, you find are your 'soul mate'.

Sometimes you will meet people who you perceive as being totally different to you but you will get on with them because you can make allowances for them as they have some quality that you admire, aspire to or perhaps they just make you laugh.

The answer is that you must use your energy to scrutinise youself, with the aim of making yourself more attractive to other people (in terms of personality, rather than looks). Rather than using your energy to find fault with other people look at yourself. You will find things about yourself that you don't like (and which other people won't like) and things that you do like (and which other people will like)

If you do this then you will find yourself making allowances for more and more people, and thus disliking them less.

It's not necessarily a flaw to not understand some people, to have little patience with some people or to find some people annoying; even to hate some people. That's natural and it occurs throughout the animal kingdom.

However, the difference between humans and other animals is that we can generally use our superior intelligence to 'make allowances' so that we can successfully interact with other people - however different they might seem from ourselves.

I'm a social worker - obviously I work with people. I would say that the majority of the people (service users) that I work with initially 'hate' me. This is because I spend a lot of my working day telling people what they must do in order to live succesfully with other people.

My area of work is Child Protection. This generally means that I'm giving parents (often unwelcome) advice on what is and is not an acceptable way to treat 'their' children (or, more accurately, the young people who they are meant to be guiding towards becoming members of society). The advice is rarely easy for parents to hear and even less easy for them to do.

The other main part of my job is trying to intervene and mediate when parents have 'failed'. In these cases the young people also generally hate me at first because I dictate and enfore rules and boundaries which their parents have been unable, or unwilling, to do.

I try to help people to learn how to interact successfully (by successfully, I mean in ways that are not emotionally or physically detrimental either to themselves or to other people).

Many of my clients are rude to me and some are even physically violent. In my life I very often come into contact with people who I have very little in common with and who profess to disliking me intensely. However, I can work wih these people (and sometimes I find myself liking them) because I can make allowances for them.

There are some people that I work with, or come into contact with in my personal life who I really do not like. I often get really tired of people. When I come home at night I sometimes have to switch my phones off and ignore the doorbell in order to have some 'me' time. There's absolutely nothing wrong with liking your own company.

However, the vast majority of us have to live in some sort of society in order that we (and our offspring) can survive. Hopefully you will learn 'the rules' in your early childhood and be able to adapt easily. It's natural that when you hit late childhood/early adulthood and encounter the associated emotional upheavels you will have periods when you really can't bear other people.

The bottom line is that you either need to live as a recluse (a minority of modern humans are able to do this), or you have to find a way to make 'allowances' for other people (as the vast majority of us have to do) in order to live successfully and with varying degrees of happiness in modern society.

I would posit that you may be focused on the negative linkages that run through people instead of the positives. A good technique for mitigating this is to try to look at people and put yourself into their shoes - as a thought experiment - and wonder what sorts of life circumstances have driven them to the point where they are now. This is the cognitive precursor for compassion and helps out immensely with misanthropy.