by Anonymous on April 27th, 2008

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My boyfriend always calls me a hoe and hints that im stupid/fat. He says its a joke and gets mad at me if i get mad at him for calling me those things. I dont want to break up but how do i stop it or am i just overreacting?

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by GaiasPet on May 14th, 2010
To you or any other woman in a similar situation, I give this advice...

This is a sober warning, girl:
The fact that he gets mad at you for expressing your feelings about his poor taste "jokes" should be a major, major, major, MAAAAJORRR red flag!!!!!

Regardless of how much you think you love him, please, please ,please, DO NOT proceed any further with this jerk because he is exhibiting very troubling behavior that will only get worse in time.

I very, very strongly disagree with any advice given here to try to reason with him any more than you already have!!!!! LEAVE NOW!!!

Regardless of any pleas and assurances on his part that things will be different if you get back with him, this is an old song heard by many an abused woman, many of whom ended up injured or dead! Abusive men rarely change without serious counseling and outside help. Another warning: DO NOT try to be his "therapist", that is a fool's game and you are smarter than that!! Perhaps if he agrees to counseling together it could, perhaps and only perhaps, work. Other than that: DROP HIM NOWWW!!!!

Please, GET OUT of this relationship before you get in too deep and end up with more than just your feelings hurt!! NOW!!!!!!!
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by Blondie on May 13th, 2009
i had this exact same problem! i hated it too! it hurts because you really like the guy. But i broke up with him because it was too much. i reckon you should try talking to him about it and tell him how you feel.
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- Hi, I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 25 , I have been with him for a year now , we started out the relastionship good and then until I lived with him for 4 months now. Every since I've lived with him and his family he started calling me names (bitch, hoe, whore, ugly), he makes me a feel unpretty and unhappy and it really hurts me. I work and so does he but he's always lying about he don't get his check until 3 days after the day he gets pay, we both gets pay same days and seems like he want to use me for my money before he uses his, and everytime I refuse to give him money he'll call me names, say bad things bout me, start a fight, won't take me to work and always tries to kick me out of the house. I really love this man but I don't know what's his problem is for always hurting me , I need some advice. Please help
  
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  by gorgeous88 on May 31st, 2011
- Hi, I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 25 , I have been with him for a year now , we started out the relastionship good and then until I lived with him for 4 months now. Every since I've lived with him and his family he started calling me names (bitch, hoe, whore, ugly), he makes me a feel unpretty and unhappy. He tells me my face look irritated and that I look disgusting to him and it really hurts me. I work and so does he but he's always lying about he don't get his check until 3 days after the day he gets pay, we both gets pay same days and seems like he want to use me for my money before he uses his, and everytime I refuse to give him money he'll call me names, say bad things bout me, start a fight, won't take me to work and always tries to kick me out of the house. I really love this man but I don't know what's his problem is for always hurting me , I need some advice. Please helpHi, I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 25 , I have been with him for a year now , we started out the relastionship good and then until I lived with him for 4 months now. Every since I've lived with him and his family he started calling me names (bitch, hoe, whore, ugly), he makes me a feel unpretty and unhappy and it really hurts me. I work and so does he but he's always lying about he don't get his check until 3 days after the day he gets pay, we both gets pay same days and seems like he want to use me for my money before he uses his, and everytime I refuse to give him money he'll call me names, say bad things bout me, start a fight, won't take me to work and always tries to kick me out of the house. I really love this man but I don't know what's his problem is for always hurting me , I need some advice. Please help
  
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by bagicide stayed 10 months too long on January 25th, 2009
He is testing you to see if you will stand up for yourself or not. As long as you put up with it, he'll escalate. One day, you will be the scared mom in the corner of the ER with two black eyes, two crying kids and nowhere to go.
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by Devildog on October 29th, 2008
Please get rid of this guy. this is not normal, and he is a bad person. He will never stop this and you know it. Please leave him. I beg you. it will only get worse. You are not being fair to yourself. you deserve better!!!!!!!
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by quack is whack on September 6th, 2009
You aren't overreacting, your boyfriend is an asshole.

I don't know why you'd want to stay in such a relationship.
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by Rabbit on September 6th, 2009
Why do you want to stay with someone who treats you like that? You deserve a guy gives you compliments and shows love. You are not overreacting. You should let him know that the name calling hurts your feelings. If he doesn't care and refuses to stop, move on.
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by Jen-Jen on September 1st, 2009
Okay,remember you asked for our opinion, if you put up with it, you are stupid in my opinion, if thats what you want, why b*tch about it?
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by Yhtomitzlots on January 25th, 2009
Find a new boyfriend....this one's a jerk!
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by Im Alec has abandoned this account on April 27th, 2008
Break it off. If he cannot show you respect now, what will it be like in a few years time? He doesn't want an equal, he wants a floormat. Is that what you want to be?
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by Anonymous on April 27th, 2008
You're not over reacting at all. He's an insensitive jerk who should appreciate you and show some respect for your feelings. If he doesn't care enough about you to do that, then he's not worthy of you. Go find someone who is ~ you'll be so much happier for it, if and when you do :)
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by supergirl on April 27th, 2008
this sounds mean but every time he calls you a name or makes fun of you joking or not call him baby dick and when he says something about it tell him im just joking. jokes are meant to be funny not mean and hurtful so let him see how it feels and maybe he'll stop.
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by easyrider on November 14th, 2010
if u put up with that shit, then u deserve it, you females nowadays are so fucking stupid......thank heaven for older mature females.....
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by Anonymous on January 25th, 2009
this is a sign of verbal and emotional abuse!!! GET OUT
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by Dior on October 29th, 2008
You will never stop him...He sounds like he has issues with women and has probably treated previous partners the same way that he treats you. You need to leave him he neither loves you or respects you...if you do not leave him his behaviour will only get worse towards you and he could end up hitting you, you could also end up losing your self confidence and self esteem....leave him now the longer you leave it is the harder it will get for you.
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by AnonymousGirl on January 13th, 2011
You're not overreacting. Even if he is joking, those comments are hurtful and are not funny at all. I don't see any green flags in this relationship. Only red ones. If you are still with him and he has not changed, it would be a good idea to leave him.
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by gummybearsrule on July 25th, 2010
My boyfriend called me that and a hobag. No, I don't think you are over reacting, and I reported it to the principal!
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by Linkin902 on April 5th, 2010
Yes it is wrong for him to do that to you. But some couples do say them things and do them jokingly and both laugh about it and stuff. For example my gf calls me named or says i got a lil d%$k then i pretend to be upset or i call her a hoe and fat jokingly and she acts the same. But dont get me wrong we dont do it all the time i do tell her she is beautiful all the time and mean it and she says im handsum or whatever and means it. So maybe you needa find somone new and he needs to find somone that likes to joke around like that too.
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by killdrphil - reasonable for a madman on April 27th, 2008
If you get upset when he calls you those things and he doesn't stop, then, he doesn't care about you and it's all about control to him. You should leave him now before everything escalates. The guy is a nimrod douche. Well...yeah, that sounds about right.
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by Randy D on August 17th, 2011
I don't know which part is worse;

"I don't want to break up with him,"

or

"How do I stop it?"
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by rebellious angel on August 16th, 2011
honey that shit is NOT a joke
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