Sometimes, people don't miss the water, till the well runs dry. old saying, but its as true today as ever. maybe its greed. greed for sex, drugs, whatever. He has a problem. you never cast an eye to someone less attractive, unless there is a third equasion involved. Investigate this girls background and ask questions. she has something he wants and it is apparently not her looks, according to you.

Maby he was missing something from you that he found in her...

Fact is he's selfish and doesn't care about your feelings or your well-being! Face it, it's done and it doesn't matter what excuse he could offer up to you, if he's even tried, there is no valid reason for what he's done. You have been hurt and his actions has ruined your trust and love for him. You'll have to either live with it, without bringing it up every time you argue, or move on. Know this much, it has absolutely nothing to do with how the other girl looks or what she may or may not have that you don't have. It could have easily been someone with something more than what you think you have to offer. The person selected for these kinds of actions rarely have anything to do with how they look or even what they have to offer by way of money or intelligence. It's usually more about a moment in time and a lost state of concern about consequences. Like I said, selfishness, period. Your boyfriend did something for a reason beyond a reasonable or acceptable explanation. And that's all that matters, unless you're trying to find a way to fix it so you'll accept what he's done. It was wrong, and any effort you make to try to figure it out to make yourself feel better about what's happened, is only you settling for less that you're entitled to have in your life. We all want someone who will honor our love for them and return it in kind. Everyone makes mistakes, but some things are not worthy of forgiveness for some people. If you can't get over this incident, this must be your "deal breaker" and you should stick to your guns cause you're entitled to your feelings. If you share a child, then of course, he will be in your life in some capacity for a many years to come. That is if he cares about the child. Because of what's happened, don't punish him by keeping the child from seeing his Daddy regularly, as long as he's being responsible and not making empty promises to the child. Don't let him get away with not contributing his fair share of time and financial help too. Don't say or do anything to alter his relationship with the child, by being nasty in front of him or letting him hear you curse his Father. Your child will figure it out on his own, but if you sway his opinion, he will hold it against you later.

Sometimes men make the dumbest mistakes when it comes to love and relationships they never want whats best for them. Im sure its something that he thinks she's better for him but wait until reality strikes.

I had a ex bf do something along these lines, and all i can say is that the other pushed for it and didn't respect our relationship and was selfish to push for more. Not that she is the only one to blame but oh well and seriously she looks like a pig (no joke) and he went along w/ her.

Don't ever judge a book by it's cover because they main one who you don't think can get your man is the main one who could. Comfortablility: simply put. When guys cheat with a women they have known for years, it's comfortablility. He knows that more then likely, the friendship would bounce right back and he won't have to pretend. She already knows him. Sadly, also how she makes him feel. You don't know what she provides for him emotionally. She may be the friend who knows all his dirt yet don't judge him. She may be the friend who sees something in him that many miss. There is always a reason, even if you think there wasn't was.

cause alot of dudes will hump anything with a pulse. Some dudes are out to bang anything they can get their hands around. Irt could be that some dudes really enjoy big women. I am not one of those. These supposed individuals who cheat on you with those with looks that fall short of a trainwreck, are only looking to please themselves and love is certainly not involved. its more about itching a scratch that is hard to get.

She puts out more than you do

i dont think looks have anything to do with it. whether he likes that look or not, maybe she was there for him when he needed someone to talk to. maybe he felt close to her and when the mood struck, he went for it. or maybe he was just really horny and she was there and you weren't. DO NOT take me as saying this is your fault. That is NOT what I am saying...he is the one who cheated! He could have talked to you , but he didn't. whatever the reason, there is no excuse for what he did. What did you do about it? Did you leave him?