How come everyone seems normal until you get to know them?
by 
Zack Be Gone - All Hail Firebrand.
ANSWERS: 18
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In all of those cases there were two important inseparable elements in play, namely, you were present, and someone was abnormal. ;)
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Innocent until proven guilty.
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If everyone seems "normal" until you get to know them, it's probably because you have an expectation of what people should be like. No one is going to exactly meet your standard of normality in every respect of their character or behavior. In other words. there is only a "normal" when you generalize. When you consider people are individuals, you quickly realize there is no "normal".
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Because "normality" is a myth. There's no such thing. We're all wierd little quirky people who do a ton of wierd shit, at least if we're not putting up a front. Socially, there is also no such thing as "normal" behavior, only "safe" behavior. We just prefer to play it "safe", which, incidently, is BORING... Of course, once you've developed a degree of trust with a person, you "let them into your wierd quirky little world." If you're hoping that one day the people around you will be just like you, give your shit up. It ain't gonna happen.
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Meaning???? you saying your friends are abnormal? .. well i would agree, we're all a bunch of nutters here! haha.
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You get to learn how screwed up everyone is and learn all their little nuances, habits, phobias and other ridiculous neurotic behaviors. Yes, and you get to learn more facts about that person than you actually ever wanted to learn. Ah, to be human.
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Define Normal! I mean, I know *I* am, but are you?
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More often I'd find the reverse to be true!
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Because, you only see what's on the surface...but then once the excess baggage comes out...and the drama...along with the pettiness...backstabbing...(this is only with some people)...then you realize...why did i waste my time with this person? i've had that happen to me too many times...
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Let me know when you figure it out, I have often wondered that myself
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people get more comfortable with acting completely themselves once you get to be friends. they're not as afraid of pushing people away.
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Cuz everyone's fuckin' crazy!
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I think that "normal" equates to "average, ordinary"..which translates to mediocre. As you get to know people and you relax and they relax the onion layers start peeling away and you begin to learn about their idiosyncracies..some you may find charming..some you may share with them..some may push you away. We all have dealbreakers..they vary from person to person. :) So you choose the people you want to be in your life based on your perception of who they really are down deep, underneath all those layers. :)
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I would say that everyone is normal. It's just that people are generally so worried about offending other people, that they tend to keep their innermost thoughts to themselves. Therefore, what we deem as normal, is still normal, but so is who the person really is deep down on the inside. Well, that's my opinion on the people in our society anyway.
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I think when you first meet someone they are hiding who they are.
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Because getting to know someone means they open up to you, so you get to see the real person. "Normal" is subjective. Anyways, we are all weird. No one is "normal" because there's no truly "normal" standard to compare us abnormal people to! LOL
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LOL....i know what u mean.
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There's nowt so weird as folk. Weird is the real normal - we're all a bit screwy, one way or another. Your idea of 'normal' is the thing that's out of step with sad reality, I'm afraid!
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