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by Anonymous on April 24th, 2008

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I have been dating my GF for 7 months, we are in a longterm relationship and im in the military. We used to be able to talk to each other all the time but now im the only one really talking at all. Is this a sign that she has lost interest?

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  • by Hammie on February 13th, 2009

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    I've been with my finacee for over a year. He's in the Army and has been gone over half of our relationship. Our conversations are boring. I get up, go to work, come home. He gets up, trains, goes to classes/work, goes to sleep. It's not that we're losing interest, it's just that nothing has changed. Our lives are the same thing every day. But don't get me wrong, we miss and love each other. There's just no a lot to say. Military life does that. If you aren't together, and you do the same things every day, there usually isn't much to talk about. I would talk to her about it. I would ask if she's having second thoughts or doubts. Chances are though, there's just nothing really going on. Good luck on everything. It's hard, I know.

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  • by Voodoo on April 25th, 2008

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    I used to go out with someone who then had to start his national service. At first I couldn't wait for him to come back on leave. After a while though I stopped caring. Were you in the military when you started dating? If so, she knew what she was getting herself into. Personally, I can't be with someone who is away all the time. I've had a really busy past couple of months, and I don't get to see my boyfriend as much as I would like, but I know that he's only 15 minutes away.

    But there may be some truth to neenie2's answer, maybe there's nothing to say! But, one can't judge relationships unless one's in them. The only person who can answer your question is your girlfriend.

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  • by neenie2 on April 25th, 2008

    neenie2

    Hard to say...maybe?
    Or maybe she just doesn't have much to say. People's routines can get kinda boring. Get up, go to work/school, go home. Repeat.
    There's only so many times a person can say the same things over and over, without getting bored saying it.
    Maybe if you sent flowers or something that would get her talking :)
    Or you could just ask *her*...
    Best wishes.

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  • by david1911 on January 12th, 2009

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    Im in the military now im just in the army reserves and dating a girl who is also in the reserves, but she has been through alot of the same things i have and shes much more understanding. You should go for someone who is or has been in the military, they are more likely to stick with you through the hard times. Most civilians are mentally weak, its a proven fact. Find someone more like you cause this girl is probably fooling around behind your back. Sorry but its most likely true, you should call her out on that shit too. Good luck man

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  • by pUmKiN on December 20th, 2008

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    How long have you been in the military? If is just for a few months sorry to break it to you... but yes, she is probably sleeping with someone else. If you have been in for years, then why haven't you learn? I am also in the military, and I learn fast that civilians can't cope with our life styles. They are needy, and we can't always be there. You need yo stick to our kind, military brats or military members. We understand the situations.

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  • by Bartman on April 25th, 2008

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    Man, I really feel for you military people. Good luck!

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  • by AnonymousGirl on April 25th, 2008

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    Not necessarily. You say you're in the military. Does that mean you're away from home a lot? How often do the two of you talk?

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  • by dee _dee on June 8th, 2009

    dee _dee

    i think its hard because she may love you alot but she can feel that she is going to loose you at some point maybe shes preparing her self for the wost im not saying that your gonna die but their is a chance and she might want to be ready when it come or maybe shes just confused she dont know if she can be true to you or something i dont know thats my opinion

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  • by CuddleBug247 on June 8th, 2009

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    Im an Army wife and having a realtionship in the military is very hard. Sometimes you just LONG to hear the other ones voice even if you have nothing to talk about. My husband and I will go through days where we can talk talk talk and then we are like uhh so what are you doing? you ok?....silence... But thats normal. It does not mean we dont love eachother any less... some times just not much had changed. When Im worried I tend to shut down so not to stress the husband out while he is deployed.. have you asked if anything is bothering her? What I have learned shutting down only hurts, you both need to be open and honest about your realtionship. Its hard always thinking your S/O may get orders that will pull you away from eachother.

    I guess I would sit her down and be honest about what to expect dating a military man, you can think you will be ok with it but once your thrust into the situation its a very scary place to be. Make sure she knows how you feel about her, and ask her the same. To be honest being in the military and having a s/o and if you got depolyed, deployment either makes or breaks any relationship. Make your relationship as strong as you can. I wish you both so much luck. Love will find its way.

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  • by dee _dee on June 8th, 2009

    dee _dee

    not all the "civilians " are like that im not like that i understand that if your military you gotta to go cuz your getting deployed at some point you cant always be with me i know cuz i was dating a military guy but it was the other way aroung he cheated on me..

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