it may not be something they have complete control over- it may have been a lapse of judgement, or a drunken fling it may be a loss of inimacy in an otherwise enjoyable relationship don't be so quick to judge that which you do not understand

She said I was not there for her. She said I was there physically, but not mentally/emotionally. I said I was and said she should have told me I was not there. I lost my brother and shutdown as she put it, but I thought I was there for her. She is cheating on me now. I am ending it.

i hate them to atleast have the guts to break up first..

i have no idea why... and will never find any justification for that. the grass does seem greener on the other side! if something is going wrong in your relationship you should share it with your partner, work on it and if even this doesnt help seperate and look for a new partner (and it should always be in this order!!)

Not saying it's right or wrong..but maybe it's about something the person feels they are missing in themselves. Not in their r/ship.

Yes, cheater has real issues and it's not with their partner; it's within themselves.they're real losers when they choose to cheat and not leave the person who cares for them probably because they feel as if they can have their cake and eat it too. at least if you're going to be a loser have the common decency to let the other person who really cares for you go, so they don't have to at least be associated with a loser.

Getting drunk and cheating is a false cop out. People cheat solely for the reason that they can, and it's usually driven from spite or just plain negligence of their parters' feelings because they're driven by their selfishness of satisfaction. Cheaters just adore the easy attention of their "prey", unwillingly aware that it's a hollow victory and they're not only hurting their partner, but killing themselves as well. I believe that cheaters just really have no self respect and will inevitably reap what they sow.

im not justifying cheating, but i did cheat a while ago, when my confidence had been shot to pieces, and it wasnt a reflection of how i viewed my partner at the time, it was a reflection of how i viewed myself.

hi, i have ponderd on lifes many lanes and become aware of most of lifes experiances one of them not been spelling but im working on it :P this subject comes across so many times throught your life and in so many conversations you hear and have these conversations from a very young age. So to the Cheaters witch i will say i STRONGLY disaprove !! it all starts at his very basic level and then progresses into the media witch also is drilled into you by force sluty girls boobs out adverts for normal stuff like shampoo all have slutty women in there i cant judge them coz they maybe virgins in the context that slut means "slept with a lot" but the imige they present to an undevloped mind soaking in all the information they can so thats the start of it the middle bit is actully doing it... there are many excuses for this main one is im not happy with my reationshp.... hmmmm well my advice for that 1 talk like adults if it canont be sorted leave! he/she doesnt please me sexually.... hmm well my advice is you should tell them what does do it for you sexually if they do not like it and its breaking you up ...leave! why when he/she has had a drink do they do it this is simple 1. they are not happpy with there relationship thus it slips out of there mind 2. coz there true feeling show they have less control of there emotions and phisical urges "try tell a drunk hes not getting curry on a night" he agrees then he gets it anyway!lol and Finaly the end they get STD, die lonly and old, and the more they do it the less ppl trust you you do it to you man/ woman yeh they love you but they arnt gunna put up with your actions for ever, a waste of lifes a horible feeling that always stays with you but most of all you wind it hard to trust another person relationship wise which coases a shain reaction threw many of that persons relationships if you do not trust your partner tell them why tell them the truth, if you dont like been around your partner tell the truth and move on why is it that everybody h8s cheaters and ppl still cheat your not agining anything my be extra sperm and a long painfull karmik return i hav found the three rules that aplyes for everything you do 1> NO LIES 2> NO CHEATS this next is a hard one i know but be diplomatic 3> NO ARGUING if any one ever need to talk e-mail me randomgurner@hotmail.com