Yes, he was fair game. If she was consistent that he was only a friend and he asked you out then you have done nothing wrong. However if you knew that your friend had a relationship other than friendship going on with this person then you should have possibly stayed away.

You are not to blame for this. She told you he was 'just a friend'. Apparently she had deeper feelings for him, but she never told you. If it meant so much to her then she should have acted first and tried to ask him out. And apparently he was more attracted to you, so neither one of you can be faulted for that. If she really liked him, then as your friend she should have told you. This way, if you knew in advance, you could have politely turned him down so as not to hurt your friend. However, if you knew how she felt and you accepted anyway, that is pretty low and I don't blame her for not speaking to you. Sure she should have acted...you snooze you lose...but as a friend it wouldn't be appropriate to accept the offer if you knew how she felt. But as you clearly stated, she referred to him as 'just a friend'. But then maybe he wasn't attracted to her at all, even if she did make her feelings known? The bottomline is we can't be faulted for our choices when it comes to situations like this...people just do what they do. Its ridiculous for her to end her friendship with both of you because you went out together. She never said anything or made any indication that she lilked him, so it was her loss and you can't be blamed. If she is reacting this way then move on...the friendship wasn't worth your time in the first place.

he fair game because she didnot tell you so you went for it.dont get upset ask her did they go out.if she says yes then apolize to her.then be friends

hmm... if she was talkin about him like she had a crush on him and didnt say it, its fair game, but if she did say it, its not. it all depends on tha kind of person she is.

He was fair game...but. I had two friends who slept together. They both said that neither one was exclusive and it was an open relationship. He wanted to see me. Eventually, I succumbed. He & I lasted 3 mos and it took ages to repair my friendship with her. It wasn't worth it.

Sounds like your female friend had feelings for your male friend and SHE was not being honest about them. She should have been happy that 2 friends had found each other at the beginning of the relationship. When you guys broke up, it was between you and him and while she should be upset that you broke up, it has nothing to do with your friendship with her or her friend ship with him. She is just hurt that you guys got together.

Sounds like your female friend had feelings for your male friend and SHE was not being honest about them. She should have been happy that 2 friends had found each other at the beginning of the relationship. When you guys broke up, it was between you and him and while she should be upset that you broke up, it has nothing to do with your friendship with her or her friend ship with him. She is just hurt that you guys got together.

Apparently, she had more feelings for him then she admitted, but hey it was fair game, so who's more important your friend or the guy?

I think what happened here was that she liked him, and thought that he might ahve liked her, they flirted a bit, and then suddenly he went for you, even though they had not defined any kind of relationship, she was upset. I'm sure that when she said they were just friends, she "meant" it, because there was nothing else going on, and said it as to not look like she was putting a premise on the relationship. Had you pulled her aside and asked her if there was anything going on beween the two of them? Not that you were required to, but if you had, and she said that they were just friends then, and not mentioned anything going on between the two of them, then he was fair game. But if there was any mention of crush, or flirting or fling, then it looks like you overstepped some boundaries. If you didn't know at all, it just sounds like she had these ideas and they didn't plan out the way she wanted, so she's pouting. Let her be for a while, and let her cool off. And if all else, remind her that she's still a great person and above all: Bros before hoes. (Nothing else rhymes. Hate me if you will. But I KNOW yall have said it!)

You have done nothing wrong! As far as knew you were just going out with someone she viewed as a friend-you can't be a mind reader! At the end of the day, she's the one with the problem and should have trusted you enough in the first place to have the guts to tell you who she liked. Her reaction to the situation furthur shows her immaturity and frankly, life is stressful wnough without added pressure from so called friends! If i were you, i would let go of any hard feelings you may towards her (having a grudge doesn't benefit anybody!) and give her some space. if she attempts to rekindle your friendship then accept her offer but i wouldn't approach her. Your ex didn't do anything wrong-if you didn't know your friends feelings towards the guy then it's unlikely he knew either! Take care XxX