Is it wrong to leave a 2 year old in a daycare for 11 hours a day for seven months to go to school when you really dont need the money or job, its just something that you've always wanted to do and it would always be something to fall back on if needed?
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Why can't you go part time if you don't need the money? There is nothing wrong with perusing your dreams but don't leave your child in the dust to do it.
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How close do you want to be to your child? Do you favor someone else raising your child and training them other than yourself? If “I did not need the money”, I would be at home with my wife. My kids are grown – so I have lost that chance.
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Speaking as a mother, children grow up SOOOO fast, if it is not a neccessity, I would wait. I got to stay home with all 3 of my children before they started school and sure those can be tough times, but it was so worth it!
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No. As long as you give him/her plenty of attention when not in daycare. I used to work 10 hours and leave my kids in daycare (no 2nd caregiver). However, they took a long nap at daycare because they didn't go to bed until 10 PM. And, if it's only for 7 months, go to it!!!!
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Daycare shouldn't raise our children for us, we should be raising our own kids. Now I'm not against daycare- it's a necessary "evil". But if going to school for "just something to do", I would suggest taking 1 class at a time, so you can still go to school and take care of your children. 11 hours- I don't even think daycares allow that or are even open for that much time. I'm glad that this person wants to get an education, but it shouldn't be at the expense of his/her children/family.
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I think it's pretty selfish. Children like their parents more than anyone else, so daycare is a poor substitute. I feel sorry for a kid who is in day care for 11 hours straight. Could you wait a couple of years until the child is also in school? Then you could do homework together!
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It's not wrong if you plan on gaining a career out of the schooling. If the person is just going to school for funsies they need to know that there will be things they miss out with their child. One more reason to THINK before having kids.
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It's not wrong... Not needing the money or the job can change in a moment flat. If you wish to provide for the child, and school is the way to do it (becoming self-sufficient - "for needed"), then do so. It's MUCH better to be prepared for the need than to wait until it occurs and THEN have to wait some more while you take school then. THEN, I'd suggest working PART-TIME, at least, so you can keep your skills up-to-date. Be sure to spend QUALITY time with your child at home. Do things with and for them then.
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This is one of the first lessons of motherhood. Doing things because you just always wanted to isn't really an option on the table once you have children. Parenting takes a great deal of sacrifice and selflessness. This is not to say you should give up your life or lose your identity, but your child is at a crucial stage of development right now. To sacrifice 80% of that experience may end up hurting both of you. Perhaps you could look into part time education or online classes.
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I would love go part time but this is police officer training and I dont have a choice.I took this class five years ago and after seven months, failed the firearm qual. this time I have been accepted into a class where I will get paid while training (7 mths), health insurance,401k etc. I guess my thiniking is that it may be better to do this while my baby is still young. If something happened to my husband, I dont know what I'd do and I have put this goal off for so many years while I supported everyone elses dreams. If its wrong then I dont want to do it but I wanted someone to say that its ok and he wont remember when he's five.
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yes, that is wrong. What's that old saying, "Fifty years from now, you'll won't regret spending more time @work or school, but the time you missed spending with your family & the people you love."
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A few questions you should be asking yourself: 1) What are my priorities? 2) What effect is 11 hours of child care having on my child? 3) Is my motive for doing what I am doing selfish? 4) Is the desire to pursue a dream worth the possible damage that this could have on my child? 5) Which is more important the pursuit of a dream at the expense of my child or the raising of my child?
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your babies are only little once once thats done no matter how many more you have it wont be the same because each one of yur children will be diffrent. if you do not need teh money or a job ten I'd say YES it is very wron to use someone else to raise your child for you. you had them and no one but your and your husband/ wife should raise YOUR children. I am lucky enough to stay at home with my daughter and i am very blessed for that. there are things that i'd like to go back to school for but, you know what babies do tend to grow uo and go to school and i'd say when they go to school then you go back find something m,ore useful to do with your spare time while they are in school>
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when they are toddlers its the age they need you most. they need to grow and let their minds "explore". the parent should be with the child as they are developing their minds
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My only objection if I were making a choice like that, would be putting my child in daycare.
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Yes it is wrong. The daycare is raising the child not the parent. If a parent can't handle the responsibility, the parent should not have had the child. Working a job or going to school are positives, but eleven hours is ridiculous especially when the person doesn't really need the money. If anyone wants to know why kids act like they do today, with all due respect, it is because of parents not taking responsibility.
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