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by thunda_kat on August 18th, 2006

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I am at a lost when it comes to my sexuality. I love men but sometimes I want to enjoy sex with a woman. No, I do not like or want a relationship with a woman, I just like the sexual aspect. Does that make me gay, lesbian, or bisexual?

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  • by Anonymous on January 22nd, 2007

    Anonymous

    My advice is not to worry about it too much. There is as yet no law which requires you to put a label definition on your sexuality by a certain age, if at all. So you feel attracted to men and women, but the prospect of a relationship with a woman doesn't currently appeal to you (This is actually pretty common, perhaps because we see less examples of female/female relationships so we find it less "natural" to envisage)? There's nothing wrong with that- you may find the phase of being attracted to women passes after a while, or you may find you meet a woman who you DO want a relationship with, or things may stay as you are. In many ways tehre's as many sexualities as there are human beings- we don't obsess about how we're sexually drawn to tall, dark men, but our boyfriend is short and blond do we?

    Don't worry about it. You are you. And that's the important thing.

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  • by Joanne-s on August 18th, 2006

    Joanne-s

    No it just means you want to experiment, from the age of 16 I knew I liked girls and boys because I kept thinking of the person I loved the most. Mostly boys with me but the girl I'm with right now I knew i wanted a relation with her from the start.

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  • by mysticvisions4me on January 22nd, 2007

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    Not at all! It means you are human and even though most people don't admit it, they have had the thoughts of curiousity. You are one that is secure enough with your own body and feelings that you can be open enough to feel for either gender. If the feeling is strong to experience making love with a woman, go for it! Sex is good for the body and soul regardless with a man or woman or just yourself. You are not at a loss, you are normal and human.

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  • by ptrask on October 31st, 2006

    ptrask

    Sounds to me like you are bisexual. You seem to be a bit opposite of the bisexual women that I know. Most of them want a relationship with a woman, but like to have sexual flings with men. It sounds like you want a relationship with a man, and sexual flings with women.

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  • by Nam1310 on January 24th, 2007

    Nam1310

    No i don't believe your bi or gay i think you just want to experiment. I'm a young woman and married but i still wouldn't mind experimenting with another woman i think it's curiosity.

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  • by Lori K still ignores stalkers and trolls on October 27th, 2008

    Lori K still ignores stalkers and trolls

    If you simply want sex from women with no strings or relationship --- that probably makes you a man.

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  • by altgirl84 on March 16th, 2007

    altgirl84

    gay-homesexual man, lesbian-homesexual woman, bisexual-attracted to both genders

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  • by Nomasain on January 24th, 2007

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    For starters, it makes you very interesting.

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  • by Answerbag Stuff on January 24th, 2007

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    If you're a young woman then I can understand such feelings. You may be at a stage where you are questioning your sexuality.

    Remember, only you can understand your sexuality. Having sex with the same sex once doesn't make you a lesbian.

    Many straight people have "experimented" and many have had same sex fantazies but that doesn't make them gay or bisexual.

    Anyway, you shouldn't be in any kind of hurry, with time you're bound to know your sexuality.

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  • by timetogetserious on January 23rd, 2007

    timetogetserious

    I would say you are simply bi sexual.

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  • by 4LivingCreatures on November 12th, 2009

    4LivingCreatures

    Not everybody can answer this question without imparting their own desire to be accepted as they are without being viewed as an anomaly.

    I am a straight man. I am only 33 years old. I have no interest in a sexual relationship with another man. None. That doesn't make me any more normal than anybody else nor does it make me an anomaly. Humans experience a wide range of a spectrum best defined as fondness. For some, ometimes that fondness is felt best expressed through sexual encounter. That may not always be for the best, because sometimes it is being expressed without regard for another's feelings.

    Do not presume to know the will of God. God once allowed and even favored multiple wives for men and even used multiple wives as a reward. Now, it is viewed as poorly planned out behavior and a form of deviant sexuality. If is is wrong in God's eyes, allow God to do his thing on his schedule and don't badger yourself too much over it.

    If you really need to define yourself, define yourself by describing your traits that you know for certain and not the ones that you have difficulty understanding fully. You are not unusual for having strong feelings for other people. But do use your best judgement before taking actions that could lead you to ruin by being careless or selfish.

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  • by GibsonGuy on October 22nd, 2009

    GibsonGuy

    Enjoy being bisexual. Follow your attraction. Getting horny with another woman may help in your relationships with men. Stop worrying about sexual classifications. Whatever turns you on is what will satisfy you sexually.

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  • by Anonymous on October 28th, 2008

    Anonymous

    You sound slightly bi but pulling towards men...check out the kinsley scale...thats completely normal

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  • by LuvLiving on October 27th, 2008

    LuvLiving

    i feel the same way as you, my gay friends describe it as "bi-curious"

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  • by Redhawk on April 10th, 2007

    Redhawk

    I'd guess you're Bi...look for a woman who shares your views...but don't be too surprised if you don't find one in the Lesbian community.

    Most Lesbians have little interest in bisexual woman...they don't want to be hurt, and they don't want to play where dicky's been.

    Surely not all, but MOST lesbians want to be with one serious partner and settle down. At least eventually!

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  • by jennifer225 on January 24th, 2007

    jennifer225

    well in my opinion you remind me of samantha from sex and the city.. girl if you say ur not gay then who are we to judge.. jsut think it like you just loooove sex.. it doesnt matter to u the gender..

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  • by Alchemist on January 23rd, 2007

    Alchemist

    There's absolutely nothing wrong with experimentation. It's an instinct that we as humans need to satisfy every once in a while. Don't let it give you grief. It's much more common than you think.

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  • by anonymous on October 21st, 2009

    anonymous

    I think you are confused with your sexuality, if you try to have sex with a woman I am sure you don't want a man ever. Try both, see what you enjoy better, it will determine your sexual identity, if you like both that means you are bi.

    I love gay porn but I am not gay nor lesbian, weird hah. I don't like lesbian porn and can never picture myself doing anything with them, I just can't go there at all not even by thinking about it. When I see a beautiful women, I wish I were a man so I can bang them, but not a woman so I can lick their pussies, no, so, I am not a lesbian. When I can't be a man, I love being a woman and love penis. Confusing ???? I also think that if I was a man, I would give a girl a very good piece and girls would love me because I love sex, I would last for a long time because I know the trick how to do it and I am also a very romantic person. Ok, I am heterosexual, nothing else, I am satisfied being a woman and love a man.

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  • by GibsonGuy on September 30th, 2009

    GibsonGuy

    If yu're attracted to another woman, pursue it and enjoy the pleasure of kissing & see where it leads. Likewise with men. One good thing, another woman is not going to get you pregnant! and she probably knows how to help you get off.

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  • by Tony on February 8th, 2009

    Tony

    You are at bisexual or a lesbian just discovering who you really are.

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  • by Colt COAT of Justice on November 18th, 2008

    Colt COAT of Justice

    I would say at least bi-sexual. I am gay and have no desire to have sex with another gender.

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  • by JuJubee is wearing a COAT of chocolate on November 15th, 2008

    JuJubee is wearing a COAT of chocolate

    Don't worry about putting a label on it, just enjoy!!!!!

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  • by iwnit on November 15th, 2008

    iwnit

    I would say bisexual, if you need to give it a name.
    Many people are like this. Just enjoys life to the fullest!

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  • by chalagris on September 7th, 2010

    chalagris

    Possibly BiSexual. I tend to think that you're just curious and that curiosity lends itself to some fantasizing about sex with another female.Join the club. all of us at one time or another think about a variety of sexual situations.

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  • by AnonymousGirl on November 17th, 2009

    AnonymousGirl

    If you want a label, it sounds like you're bisexual.

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  • by Steel on Water on May 22nd, 2010

    Steel on Water

    That makes you closeted bisexual wanting to fool/cheat on a innocent guy.

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