No. While I, personally, wouldn't inter into an relationship with a person that much older than I am, love is where you find it. Good luck, I hope it works out for you both. Don't expect your family to jump for joy when you tell them about it. Give them time to adjust, and if he treats you well, they may come around.

What really counts, when all is said and done, is that you love each other and are compatible. That's my take on it. I know two couples with a significant age gap - and they are two of the happiest couples I've ever known.

If you were about 10 years older, I would not give it a second thought. At 20, though, I DO feel it's quite a large age difference. Would I approve? Probably not, to be honest. Would I accept? Yes... If both of you are obviously happy. That said, love doesn't see age... Love sees what the heart says to see. Good luck. ;-)

The only problem I see is that because the age difference is so great, you guys are in COMPLETELY different stages of life. I don't think it'll work out in the long run. Good luck to you!

I have about the same age relationship with my S/O. I can tell you, there are a LOT of challenges with that kind of age gap, to add on to the challenges any relationship faces. As time has gone by, we've learned a lot about how to deal with them. But the problem you're pointing to -- the opinions of others -- is particularly painful. The bottom line is that people will judge you and say harsh and nasty things. They'll get self-righteous, they'll posture and point, they'll snicker and interpret your relationship in all sorts of disgusting ways. It will hurt, and you'll probably get angry, and you'll wonder if they're right, and all of that. One of two things will happen: either you'll learn to trust your own judgment and tune them out, or you'll give in to the notion that others are right and you're wrong, and end the relationship. There's no good middle ground -- so you might as well get started early. What I learned to do was sort everyone in my life based on their reaction to the relationship -- those who can keep their opinions to themselves are allowed to remain in my life, those who insist on judging based on nothing but age difference are welcome to take their judgments elsewhere, I have no use for them. This was a difficult posture for me to take, because I like people, and I like having people like me. But it just became clear that I have to follow my own heart and mind, and tune out those who don't know any better. You'll have to do the same if you want it to work. Every relationship is unique. I don't know if your relationship is right or wrong, but I do know that nobody else can answer that question for you. You're both adults, you should keep your eyes open, don't doubt that the age gap will cause problems, but realize that a powerful love is worth holding on to if you find it. That's what choice and personal responsibility are all about. Let 'em talk.

The older you get, the less it matters. My husband and I are almost 3-1/2 years apart--which is nothing now, but when I was in high school and he in college it drew a lot of attention. Trust your gut. I have a friend from high school who married a man significantly older. I won't say I wasn't shocked at that 10 year reunion, but their marriage has outlasted many more closely aged couples.

Not if you love prunes..

I too absolutely love a man that is 48 years old. I myself am 22 years old. I haven't told my family how old he is. They think he's 38. I honestly don't know what I'd do without him. He's absolutely wonderful, knows me almost better than I know myself. Which is scary sometimes. We can talk for hours with no interruptions about anything. I didn't think that I would fall so hard for someone.

Wrong?? As far as what? You're both OVER the age of consent. However...have you considered the FUTURE of this "relationship?" Are you ready to attend his 30-year high-school reunion? (If it hasn't already past.) How are you going to look "in the mix?" Does this bother you--everyone thinking that you are his DAUGHTER? So, when you reach your "sexual peak" at 40--he'll be 68. Think he'll be up to "the challenge?" If he ISN'T--what are you going to do, then? Hmmmm...

It doesn't matter what we think, how do you feel when you are with him and vice versa. But if you are afraid, you should address that. Is he a good man, with a good job. Does he have skeleton's in his closet. What's so bad about him other than his age.