Get over it.

Please I have cousins who did this to each other and the family broke up...Stay the F---K away from him..you need to stay away and find someone else..You will destroy yourself,sister and so forth..You will not have a family....And he will have a laugh..Go to church and talk to a clergy and see a therapist, they will help you..

Move to West Virginia. That kind of thing is expected of people in that state

Wow, 6 billion people on the planet and it just so happens "the one" for you is taken, and by your own sister at that. What are the chances?

It may feel as if you cannot choose who you love, but actually, we make these choices on a subconscious level. People want what they cannot have simply because difficulty makes achievement so much sweeter psychologically. This man would not be nearly as interesting or amazing to you if he were divorced and living alone.

You realize you are intentionally creating suffering in the life of your husband and in the life of your sister. Is that the best you've got? If you are a religious person, you are breaking a commandment. If you are not a religious person, you might want to talk to a shrink about your deep-seated sibling rivalry.

get a divorce because if you love someone else other than your husband, its not fair to him. then move away as far from them as possible. thats just my advice. start over. do you really wanna be responsible for destroying a family? cause thats what could happen.

I have been in love with my bro in law (husband's brother) for over 2 years, and had an affair with him for 2 years. My husband and i were seperated (after 7 years married) when it all started. His bro was going through his own divorce at the same time. Some time AFTER my divorce, my x husband found out about the affair. He was really angry with both of us at first. Ironically, my x husband has since forgiven me, and has rekindled a relationship with me. He said it's my "last chance." He has made me promise not to stray. And he says we will get remarried. Well, it has been really difficult because I love his brother, and his bro loves me. His bro calls me often, and turns me on with just the sound of his voice. When I am with my x husband, i picture myself with his bro just so i can get off. His bro keeps trying to get with me, even though he knows that i am back with his brother (my x). What i have done is committed myself to one man, my x husband, because i made a promise to him. I explained to my B-I-L that this affair must stop, and that we have to be strong. When i become tempted, i think back to the time when my hubby was drunk, trying to eat pizza, and was crying his eyes out... it's a visual thing that breaks my heart. I promised myself that i would never hurt him again. and i know this is my last chance, and i don't want to blow it. I just hope that i can continue to be strong. Just the other day, his bro about beat my door down trying to get me to answer. And i had to pretend i wasn't home, all in effort to keep from cheating. Also, when i get tepted, i just run to my hubby and give him all the affection that should be his and only his.
My advice is, don't become involved sexually, because that only complicates matters more, and will make it even harder for you to figure out your feelings. Take it from me, i have been in love with two men for a long time. At this point, i'm trying to keep us all from getting hurt.

Spend some time thinking about the best case scenario if you make a move with this guy. What do you think the impact will be on the family - that's two marriages in one family that you will be destroying.

Also, what is the situation in the family? My BF's brother-in-law flirts like crazy with me I think cause he has some kind of competition going with my BF. I have no idea what would happen if I responded to the B-I-L, but frankly, it's a family situation that I don't get involved with (beyond reassuring my BF that his B-I-L's flirtation has no significant meaning to me).

I am in the same situatin, I am married 14 years, I have been in love with my brother in law over 8 years, never told anybody, but each time he is around, I don't see anybody else in the room but him. he understands and listens to me, but that is it.

I am in love but can't do anything about it. it will just remain inside of me. I think that he is in love with me too, but doing the same thing.

when we are together, some times we couldn't hide our feelings and everybody could see how happy we are.

my daughter once told me " mom you look more happy with my uncle than with my father"

that is when I told my self that it is time to stop. and stopt talking to my brother in law.

no matter how much you love with your brother in law, you are not going to be as happy as you think you would be with him.
go back and keep the one you have and make as a best brother in law with him.

So why did you marry the wrong brother in the first place ?

Are you kidding?

You really need to talk to your hubby first and then go from there.

This question makes me feel sad for you and your family.
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