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  • that's like me and my partner. I think it can change over time but if you have been together for years and he's much older and ready to have kids (age wise) then I dont know how confident i'd be in this situation.
  • I don't know how old you guys are but if you are older than late 20s then it probably take a lot to change your partner's opinion. I have observed that it is harder for men to make a decision to get married. It seems that if there is such a question in the relationship then it is the man who is still undecided about the issue. Children is a different thing. My wife wanted to have children a lot more than I did. It turns out that my children is the best thing that EVER happened to me. (Just my 2 cents) Good luck!
  • I wouldnt count on it. Is your desire for children going to fade in time? Probably not. And neither will his thoughts against having kids/marriage. So it really depends on how big a thing this is for you? Would you be able to live with this? Better to get out now if it is a huge deal. And ask him. I could be wrong (and hopefully I am.) He might be thinking about kids/marriage. Who knows. Hope everything works out ~+~
  • Tough one. I am facing a problem sort of like your's but not exactly. People do change, however it's your choice. Do you want to risk it by putting more years into a relationship that you are not sure about? If you do decide to stay, you should no that your mate could change their mind, but it is possible that he/she may not. I asked a simular question and no one really has a answer to this. It's all about choices that we have to make. Hopefully you will make the right one.
  • sweetie, who cares! just get older with someone who wants the same things. start looking now. (he may or he may not! don't gamble your youth)
  • The more important question is will YOUR opinion change as you get older. Do not wait for any man to change his opinion about something. If you are ready for committment and children and he isn't, I would suggest looking at some other options, i.e. breaking up with him and finding someone whose future life pattern more closely resembles your own.
  • It is unlikely. You can only change yourself and not him. Are you willing to change to conform to his wants? If not, the relationship seems doomed to me.
  • People only change if they want to change regardless of their age. If your gambling getting what you want on the remote chance that he may change his mind as he gets older, and he doesn't ~ you lose. You're older too and that much further from what you want. IMO. Good luck.
  • Continuing a r/ship that is contingent on such *big* issues is fraught with danger. Hoping someone will change their mind is a gamble at best and at worst, a source of increasing resentment with each passing year. Kind regards.

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