Well it's the traditional way. But I believe in equal opportunity: if guys can do it, girls can do it too!

No. It's a different world now.

I don't know that girls SHOULDN'T. I think if the girl wants to, she should go ahead. For myself, I'm waiting for a man who will chase me.

na! u might miss out on sum1 special, my ex was really shy and never would of asked me out so i did.lol.nothing wrong with either doing the asking/chasing. if ur confident go for it, Ur mums views are old fashioned ;) (sorry) times have changed. !girl power :)

well, it's not the 1950's anymore so... no i don't agree

Sort of, but I don't agree with the chasing thing. I think that the man should persue the chick and court her. But she needs to be a lady about it as well. I am a bit old fashioned for a tattooed pierced chick. I did however make the first move on the guy who I wound up marrying. We now have a baby girl.

It depends on if the girl wants to settle for the guys who ask her out. I actually prefer the traditional way as a social mechanism, but I enjoy it when a girl has the confidence to ask me out. In a real relationship, particularly marriage, there is a need for both sides to make moves, to plan events, to work together. Just recognize that in chasing, you are also giving up the power(s) associated with the "traditional" role of being chased.

To an extent - I don't feel that anyone should chase anyone. If you find someone that seems dateable ask them out.

I would hope if a girl knows a guy and likes him she would make the first move.

"The only thing a girl should chase is her vodka" enough said.

Absolutely your mother is correct. It is all about respect. Men should earn the respect by being respectful. But then I am probably old fashioned like your Mum. I still open and close car doors for my wife. Pull out her chair to sit down etc.

Somehow it always ends up just like that anyway.

The older I get, the more I agree, with the proviso that this is one of those rules that can be severely bent if necessary. To give a VERY rough example, if a girl chases the guy then she finds it harder to say "No" when he puts the hard word on her. ("Well why are you chasing me then?") Like I said, it's only a rough example. Many traditional ideas have very good reasons for existing. I've discovered some of those reasons by disobeying 'the rules' and finding out by experience, or just by keeping my eyes open to what happens to those people around me (ironic, since I will normally tell you that I ignore everyone and live under a rock!) They say that all is fair in love and war but I think you're best off listening to your mum, even just a little bit. Better still, sit back and have a cuppa with her and see if she can provide examples that led her to that conclusion. She might not think of anything in the beginning, but I'm quite sure that after a while she'll have lots of stories to tell. Forewarned is forearmed and all that. Like I say, it's a rule that should be followed but can be bent if circumstances require it. If girls didn't do a certain amount of chasing then I would have missed out on a bit!

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Yes, i agree, when a woman chased me, i always ran. To me it seemed abnormal. A man can tell if a woman is interested, and then he will chase her if he likes. But from my experience, i don't believe a woman can tell if a man is not interested.

I think it can go either way;) It is 2008 ;)

old school.