How do you have time to date? When my wife gave birth, we didn't do anything for a year. Anyone that says the father should not be in the picture is wrong. Period. If the new boyfriend starts to believe that crap, you need to get rid of him. Baby is number 1 now. Even above your happiness.

Thank for the child's needs, not hers.

Maybe because she thinks it will complicate your relationship with her son (and it can). Does the father know he's the father? If so, there may not be anything she can say about it. If HE wants to be involved I don't think the courts will disagree, unless he has a record... even then... If not, it might be best to "let sleeping dogs lie". Ultimately, the decision is yours and your family's. Your current boyfriend's mother has little say in it. Your boyfriend SHOULDN'T have any say in it, but he can give you his opinion and advice. I know of someone in this situation (a bit older, but...). The family and she decided not to tell the father. She and the boyfriend are no longer together and she's raising the child alone with the help of family. She IS going to school, but it's difficult. I know of someone else who WAS in this situation (pregnant 17yo... without a bf). They never told the father. She gave the baby up for adoption. She gets depressed every year around his birthdate, wondering where he is, how he's doing, etc. She's listed herself on a number of adoption websites, hoping he will look for her. I only tell you that so you know some options and comsequences. Good luck. ;-)

Maybe she is one of those controlling crazy moms. I know in highschool, I had this friend... Her mom was so controlling about everything. She was living life through her daughter. She would want her to do things that she shouldn't have done. She was nuts. She would talk to her daughters friends AND boyfriends about personal stuff. It was so weird. Maybe she wants that baby to be his baby. Sounds crazy I KNOW, but their are people out there like this! *Make the decision that is best for your child and maybe when she starts talking about your personal stuff, change the subject or let her know that it is none of her business.

Your new boyfriends mother has no business in this situation. It is not her grandchild, and she needs to stay out of it. That is between you, your parents, the dad, and the dad's family. Maybe she wants to feel like a grandmother, or has told people it was her son's child. Either way politely tell her, that your child will know his/her biological father.

We could speculate all day and still be wrong about her reasons, you will need to ask her if you want to know them. Ultimately she has no say over you or the baby or who you choose to allow in its life. The father would be financially responsible anyway so woudl be in the baby's life whether she likes it or not. You say he isn't a bad guy then doesn't the baby have a right to find this out as well?

As controlling as she's trying to be, she's not going to respond to the polite approach. The best thing to do is tell her it's none of her damn business and she needs to back the fuck off.

She probably is worried that her son will be hurt. If the father gets involved you might decide to go back to him.

You shouldn't be dating the father of your child any more. You should be MARRIED to him. Since you're pregnant, underage, and unmarried, maybe the new boyfriend's mother thinks you're a slut. Are you?

She has no place or right to say anything like that and she is out of line. You need to do what is best for you and your child. You never know where your relationship with your new boyfried is going to go, but be careful of her -- she sounds like she could be the mother in law from hell.