Because they care more about what the boy thinks of them, than they do of themselves. And fear the consiquences of saying no.

Because girls are romantics and they're very emotional. They're afraid of losing someone that they "love."

They know what the attraction is.

That's a complicated question, but it probably starts with self image. Girls, from a very young age, are indoctrinated into a world where a women is never thin enough, never pretty enough, never proportioned correctly and somehow inherently unequal to a man who, she is taught to believe, values beauty above all else. Girls, like many boys, aren't taught the confidence and inner strength necessary to stand up for themselves. So a young woman comes to believe that the gift she can give a young man is her beauty and her body. Without it, he can never really love and appreciate her. Her sense of self worth becomes rooted in his sexual satisfaction. Until young women are taught to accept their bodies and until their minds are fostered to be strong and confident, some will continue to define themselves through their relationships.

Fear of rejection and lack of self-esteem.

Most of them are afraid that he will break up with them or get really mad... im afraid to have sex with my boyfreind to be honest even though were both virgins... im afraid of what he'll think of afterwards.

The "if you really love me, then you want to do it with me" line is blackmail. Those girls are afraid that the boy would leave them if they refused.

because they are afraid that if they say "no" their boyfriends will dump them

The girl might think that her boyfriend will leave her if she doesn't, and she's probably naive enough to believe that he won't lose interest in her afterwards.

well these days, sex isn't really taken as seriously. That's probably one reason. A long time ago sex was more than just an emotional connection, it was also somewhat spiritual, and showed a great expression of love. I guess so many girls think that they're in love so often that they don't have a problem just giving themselves away to their boyfriends.

because they are afraid they might loss them or their just gonna get it from someone else

Funnily enough, I thought every teenage girl was different, obviously I was wrong.

I could be mistaken, but I heard that some girls actually like to have sex.

I think teenage girls are very vulnerable and often are afraid of losing the interest of the guy she likes and feels she has to "put out" to keep his interest.

Because when you are a teenager you just want to feel loved and accepted and you feel that sex is the ultimate expresson of love and you want to show your significant other that you love them. This as we get older realize is not the case and sex can just be sex to many people, but when we are young we make many mistakes and readily having sex with your boyfriend in your teenage years is something many of us experience.

Self esteem... and wanting to be loved...

I hate to break it to you, but many teenage girls want to have sex just as badly as teenage boys.

I know I am just because of the fact that I don't want to seem like a bad girlfriend or anything like that. It's also a self-esteem thing as well.

I can give you the guy's perspective on this. I've been with a few women in my time, and as a teenager i am not proud of the fact that I have been with a few. When your making out and its hot and heavy, and you get her clothes off, many guys dont ask are you sure you want to do this. I do. Half the time amazingly, the girls would say, not really, but your such a good guy i will if you want to. And to that I'd ask, only if you feel your ready. But again i was a different kind of guy. And it might be why i ended up some nights alone, other nights i couldnt get the girlfriend off me. Many teeneage girls told me they didnt want me to break up with them. When i said that they didnt need to have sex with me to please me, they seemed to come around more and want it more. So i dunno, maybe they dont want to say no.

they are scared they will leave them for a girl who will put out

That's silly. Boys will push as hard as they can for sex, it's just the way we're programmed. But when you say no, you provide a boundary and a level of respect. Unless he's a slut, he'll respect that. Do you really want to be stuck with a slut?

for me its that when he pushes me to go further i just cant seem to get the words " i dont want to" out of my mouth. i think for some girls its that they just dont feel good enough about themselves and that they arent as good as the guy so they do anything they want because maybe by doing the things he asks that will make up for not being "as good." at the same time its different for everyone

rejection.

It has to do with the lack of confidence. They are afraid that the boyfriend will leave them for someone else. It's a shame they don't understand that if the guy leaves for that reason, then he's better off gone. Thankfully I was able to instill this in my girls. ;)

as a guy, i will have to say that it is true that teenage girls really can't get themselves to say no. i personally regret the two times i did that to my ex, but i was younger and stupid back then, and as with most teenage boys, they think with their dicks instead of their minds. now i always make sure they are ready, and if i see the slightest doubt in their face, i let them know and we wait. that's how it has to be.

girls are brought up to be compliant, to believe that they are responsible for other's happiness or unhappiness, and to be afraid to be alone in the world...they are taught other things as well that lead to this from very early on...like the Little Mermaid...disgusting message to little girls.

Mainly because they can say they don't want to when they're talking on the phone or something but in the heat of the moment it doesn't seem like such a bad idea and it would make their boyfriend happy. (Or at least that's partly why I can't say no)

I would guess it is because they are stupid enough to think their identity is based on being in a relationship. if they do not give him what they want that is at risk. stupid kids.

Because they want his approval, and not giving him what he wants does not constitute approval in her eyes.

I also can give you the guy's perspective on this. If a girl feels like she really wants to make her boy happy, she will often do things she would not normally do. Also, if it seems like the boy is anything near bored or he and she usually do the same kinds of things everytime, then they can feel a need to change it for him. Also, if they have been in a relationship for a long time, they can sometimes feel like it is what comes next because they have done everything else and then the next step would be sex. Often, girls lose their judgement on what they would do normally because of the in the moment heat, or because the in the moment desire to make the boy happy. There are many factors as to why she would do that if she is not ready and knows it normally and it basically depends on the girl, the situation, and her strength of being able to know herself and what she should or shouldn't do.

The BEST Answer...........came from Gideon "That's a complicated question, but it probably starts with self image. Girls, from a very young age, are indoctrinated into a world where a women is never thin enough, never pretty enough, never proportioned correctly and somehow inherently unequal to a man who, she is taught to believe, values beauty above all else. Girls, like many boys, aren't taught the confidence and inner strength necessary to stand up for themselves. So a young woman comes to believe that the gift she can give a young man is her beauty and her body. Without it, he can never really love and appreciate her. Her sense of self worth becomes rooted in his sexual satisfaction. Until young women are taught to accept their bodies and until their minds are fostered to be strong and confident, some will continue to define themselves through their relationships."

Perhaps the girls you are referring to think that they have to put out in order to be loved by their boyfriends.

HEY!!!! You shouldn't be having sex as a teenager. You have no clue what it's all about. Therefore, there should be no fear to saying no.

well im definitely not afraid. ive put thyem straight before and if they dont agree then your obviously in the wrong sort of relationship. but most girls are scared of rejection. lack of self esteem and beatings from partner. also the guy may spread word of her not doing it with nhim then she could most likely be bullied etc... called frigid and wrecka

your welcome x

well some girls enjoy the attention they get when the flirt, and they get even more attention when they so sexual things girls (like boys) also compete with their friends or siblings or cousins 'if shes doing so so can i' some girls have a really low self image (for whatever reason) and they think that giving sexual pleasure will make the boys like them more or thats the only way that they feel they are liked or thats the only thing they are good at

I hope you guys can accept the fact that we're not all alike, and much of what you say is true about girls being pressured by boyfriends into having sex, but my experience has been a little different. I grew up in a home where I was aware that my parents had sex because I could hear them next door to my bedroom, and I was also aware that my mom seemed to enjoy doing it. (squeals, giggles, laughter, etc.) With this in mind, you might understand that all the negative things said about the dangers of having sex I considered as not being exactly the truth. My first sexual experience was out of curiosity, not even with a boyfriend, he was just a neighborhood friend that I had known for several years. I also discovered that because we didn't go to the same schools, I was not the subject of the usual gossip so there was no damage to my reputation. For this reason, I never had any serious boyfriends that attended the same high school that I went to and in my senior year, two of the boys I dated were in the community college. I had sex with several of them with no fear of saying "no" but also no desire to say "no". Now, three years later, in a university with 16,000 students, it's even easier to maintain my privacy and reasonably good reputation.

I think we're just afraid of being alone.

Teenage girls are afraid to say no because they are afraid to lose someone in their life. Even if that someone is a complete utter loser. I wish girls would save sex for their one true love and not throw it away for just anyone who asks for it. Whatever happen to standards?

Being a teen is hard as it is.. most girls don't want to be single or "not cool"... and apparently have sex as a teen is "cool".. I'm just glad I made it through the teen years.. it was hard.

-Afraid of making things awkward. -Not being able to distinguish what their feelings are telling them to do.

Peer pressure.

because you feel they won't accept you if you don't say yes, that they will leave you for someone else. but if they do they are nto worth your time!

incase it goes rong i kept sayin no 2 my bf n wen we did hav sex it went rong ..................x

Well many things go through our minds. We want to say yes but we're afraid that we'll get pregnant so that makes us want to wait. Then we want to say yes anyway because we're afraid that you'll get mad or feel like you're not pleasing them and not making them happy enough. It's really complicated but that's stupid to think of it that way. Learn to say no if you really don't want to and if you want to wait. If the guy loves you enough, he'll wait.

because if they keep saying no & they're not ready, their boyfrinds may get tired of waiting & leave them.

because they are afraid they will lose them and be alone

(not that it is any justification) but girls do that because they "love" this guy and they feel like if he says he wants it and they dont give it to him then either: 1) he will leave them for someone who will give it up 2) they will get a bad name around school or town 3) they have low self esteem and need to feel wanted like that; even if they are not actually ready

Well,I am a teenage girl.And i've been there.The reason I was affraid to say no was because I thought if I would say no then my bf would breakup w/me or just not like me as much.Butt,eventualy I finaly said no.And sadly the only thing he did was beg me to.& it gott pretty annoying.haha.

Fear of getting dumped.

because theyre are afraid of being pushed aside and rejected. also if he tells everyone about it then people will make fum of you and then you will have a bad reputation for being frigid. hope this helped

when it comes to teen sex girls think they have to have sex with their boy friend. and some teen boys know that girls have these pressures and in some cases use that pressure to obtain sex. so becareful he might be using girls. ps im 14

because they dont want their boyfriend to go off them because of saying no. plus a girl will often do nearly anyhting to make their boyfriend happy, even if it is something they dont want to do.

cause they actually want it, they just wont admit it

Such a sexist double standard here. Ever considered that they just WANT to have sex with their boyfriends? When I was in middle and high school, over 10 years ago, every girl in school was bragging about her sexual conquests. Myself included. Why is society today still afraid of female sexuality, still refusing to admit that women can enjoy sex as much as men?

I know I used to feel almost frozen when a boy would start making the move for sex. One time I felt like I couldn't even move, and so I went along with it, scared of some kind of rejection if I didn't give him what he wanted I suppose. It upsets me now to think that I shouldn't have given in, because obviously I wasn't ready to do it when I was freezing up like that. I think, looking back it roots itself to self-image (I had quite low self-esteem) and rejection.

Scared of losing them if they dont

if they do it rumors might spread about them being a whore and if they dont theyre afraid what their bfs will say

basically because they're being stupid. it's too special to have someone take it away from you bc you didnt say no. If their boyfriend actually loved them they'd completely understand if the girl wanted to wait until she was ready. But people are idiots. guys have alterior motives and girls fall for it sometimes. its so much nicer when its with someone you know for a fact you love and they love you and you're both ready and no one is pressuring the other. trust me.