So my best guy friend is very touchy feely with me like tickling, he grabs me from behind to hug me, he has been known to tackle me to the ground and pin me like a wrestler. My question is... Is he flirting with me or is he crossing a line?
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lol that is up to you if he is crossing the line, you decide that. Whether or not he is flirting, i would say he is but idk maybe thats just how he is. But no one can decide if he is crossing the line except you, and if he is then tell him.
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do your girlfriends grab you, and throw you down.....? so, um...i may be old but hell yes thats flirting. crossing a line? sounds like there was no line to me
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It's fairly common for "playfighting" to be a way that someone shows their dominance, or that they do/can have some kind of power over another person. If you don't like that kind of physical contact, then go with your gut. Certain kinds of physical contact can be confusing because people often excuse it and say that it's just a joke, or that they're playing around or flirting, but no one should invade another person's physical space and touch another person when they don't want it, or it makes them feel uncomfortable. Here's a definition to think about: Sexual harassment is any kind of sexual comment, action, or physical gesture that is unwanted. So if a person doesn't want a certain kind of touch, comments, etc., and it feels sexual, than that would usually be considered sexual harassment. It usually leaves someone feeling embarrassed, or like they're ashamed of what's happened. Even if it doesn't feel sexual, it's still a boundary violation and that's not OK.
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i would say this is a huge sign saying i want to be more than friends or he is just jenuinly stupid and doesnt realise that he is being an out and out flirt
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I'm of the opinion that it could mean he doesn't at all see you as anything other than friends or he definately wants to get with you as more than friends. I think it could go either way. But, it's definately one of these extremes.
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Wern't you that girl who was confused if her best guyfriend liked you or you wanted to date your best guyfriend or something? YES! HE IS FLIRTING WITH YOU! And you're just tearing him up inside because he wants you so badly and cant have you.
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OK.... I would say he's flirting. Whether or not he's "crossing a line" depend's on where you've drawn that line.
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By the way, I'm just going to post what I said to you before about this. "Believe me, the only reason guys have friends that are girls is that they were attracted to the girl(you) but for some reason either didn't have the guts to go after her as a girlfriend, or the girl(you) didn't like them as a boyfriend when they first met. So he settled as the "guyfriend" Was that what happened with you?"
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Both...?
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I am guessing he is flirting. If you think he is crossing the line, tell him. Only you can answer that part.
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i would says he just flirting but if u dont like tell him and he should stop
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**UPDATE** He changed his mind. He doesn't want our friendship to change. So we are not going out on Friday :( I think i am done. So sad right now!
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I think he's preparing to go into the WWF but tell him that they don't allow tickling during wrestling matches................
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It sounds like he's kicking your ass! You gunna let him get away with that?!?
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he's not crossing the line unless it makes you feel uncomfortable, and if it does then you'd have to tell him i'm sure he's just flirting, sounds fairly innocent.
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How long does he keep you pinned down? What does he do to you while you're pinned? Does he put his hands on any part of your body? What does he say to you? The answers to these questions should tell you if he's flirting or not.
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it sounds like he likes you... he is definitely flirting and trying to make it as obvious as possible... he touches you alot pins you to the ground... he wants you to know he feels something
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Yeah, he is soooo cruchin on you!!!!! But next time remember right cross , finger wave, 5 punches to the head, and then a leg drop.... that's match.
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whenever i was about 13 i did that with the girl i liked. if you like him back, tell him and you will be alright.
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he is so flirting with you - if you like him tell him
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LET the whiny downrating begin... Totally flirting, which may be considered crossing the line by most women. GO WITH IT! Don't be a prude!!! FEW THINGS are as irritating in life than prudish friends who recoil and retreat because of their crappy, puritanical, bullshit beliefs about friends and coital interaction.
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It's definitely flirting and he's only crossing a line if you think he is.
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Sounds like he's saying he likes you A LOT, without actually saying it. The "pinning on the ground" can be considered crossing the line, but if it doesn't bother you... (NOTE: I COULD bother someone else, and THEY could cause problems for him, if he continues.) Next time he tickles you, turn around and try to tickle him... Next time he grabs you from behind for a hug (where are his hands? LOL), turn around and hug him back, saying "THIS is how to hug me!"... Next time he tackles you and pins you there (again, where are his hands? Does he kiss you then?), reach up, grab the back of his neck, and pull him down for a kiss. Then, when he's distracted, flip the pin, and keep the kiss going. Then tell him, "Isn't this more fun than the rough-and-tumble-wrestling you've been doing?" NOTE: ALL of this is if you wish to take the "best friend" relationship to a different place, and become "more than friends", or "BF/GF".
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It seems like he is flirting with you and hes only crossing a line if you feel uncomfortable when he does it. Only you can really answer that part though.
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If it were anyone else grabbing you, tackling you and pinning you like a wrestler, you would not have any difficulty telling that a boundary had been crossed. That's really, really creepy and I'd definitely let him know... if this is his good behavior, what would he be like if he was being bad and mean???
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Well you're the one that decides if he's crossing a line or not. But he is definitely flirting.
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He's defintely flirting.
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i think that depends on the closeness and the level of your friendship....are you the only female friend he does that too? and if it bothers you then yes, he is crossing your boundaries and you should let him know..if he is a good friend he will respect how you feel....
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harsh
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ok if he likes you he will ask you out right? besides youre the one who can let him cross the line or tell him to back off.
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Ok; You are a male ... IF YOU think he is crossing the line; then it is up to YOU to sit him down and TALK with him and let him know how you feel ... On the other hand ; IF you are enjoying the attention of his touching and rough housing etc ... kinda flirting etc that is going on ... don't say a thing and let thing go where they may ....
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I hate it when guys treat girls like this. It is so disrespectful and rude.
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I would say he is flirting with you just take the hint and do the same things back to him maybe?
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My best guy friend is just like that too! He grabs my phone out of my pocket (big phone, small pockets, he's not reaching far, hugs me lots, holds my hand, pokes me frequently, everything. So, as long as you're comfortable with it, I think it's fine. He is flirting, but he may not be meaning to. It may just be all in good fun.
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wether or not he is crossing a line is up to you.... if you like your relationship as is then it is in no way crossing a line. he could be flirting... or he could just be very touchy feely
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He may be flirting, but only you can tell if he is crossing a line or not.
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i think that you shoult tell him to stop because he is not respecting you and if you keep leting him do whatever he wants he will keep doing those things and maybe do something worst tell him to stop.. if you want more advices ... send me an e-mail at rkelvin80@yaoo.com
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