I am19 and my parents are getting divorsed, my dad claims that hes never loved my mom in the last 20 yrs.they've been married I've always been best friends with my dad but now I am having a hard time loving him, what should I do,talking 2 him doesnt work.
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Spin07
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Hi Spin07! I am sure all this divorce talk is hard on you. It is hard on your folks, too. These kinds of changes are typically difficult for everybody involved. Please do not be distressed by your Dad's comments. Perhaps he is speaking the truth, and perhaps he is simply trying to hide his own pain. You may hear shocking things, unbelievable things. Do try to listen to the needs of the person speaking instead of the words, for the time being. When you are not too angry with your Dad (and/or Mom), do try to share a warm hug or a silly memory. And, above all else, remember that each of them has loved you always. Things will calm down again. Your folks may even find a way to work things out, but please do take care of yourself during this emotional time.
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And just remember, your parents love YOU, even if they no longer love each other! Sometimes parents can't work out their differences, and have to split up. Just try to see each side of the story, and love them both, because they both love you, still, I'm sure.
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It will come to pass with time. You'll adjust and maybe one day, you'll understand
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Thats a big shock and a major disappointment. I am going to assume that he stayed with your mom in order to keep the family together and be a good father. Obviously he has accomplished that. You're very upset with him but I believe you still love him. Try to understand his reasons and hopefully you relationship will eventually heal and you will be close again.
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my parents are divorced. il give you one piece of advice: NEVER CHOOSE SIDES. love both of your parents equally. trust me.
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Theres nothing you can do about his decision. Its probably true, and he has probably stayed with her out of love for you. Now that your a big boy he must think you can handle it. All you can do is keep on lovin' the both of them. Words from the experienced : When either of them complains about the other just let their lips flap, or tell them you don't want to hear it though that might be a bad idea depending on their personality. Never get between them.
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My parents divirced, too. I recommend that you base your relationship with each of your parents on how they have treated you and dealt with you over the years. I recommend you stay out of their relationship, becuse it's none of your business. Whatever has happened between them and whatever will happen between them is none of your concern. My father treated my mother poorly. My mother treated my father poorly. That's none of my business and it's not my concern. My parents have each loved me and cared for me very thoroughly, and that is all that matters. Focus on your relationship with your parents separately now. They are no longer together. Move on with each of them separately. Do not discuss one parent with the other. Deal with them separately. Good luck!
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Hello I am realy sorry to hear that your parents are no longer in love.Please try to talk with both parents as you will realise both of them love you very much and they once loved each other.Something happened between them and you will not be able to stop whatever it was that made them fall out of love but do not try to get between them and take sides try to let them talk to each other and maybe they will find love again.If not just stay in love with both parents as you will realise later both of them love you very muchand please do not get angry with them.It is sad to say that this happens in lots of cases and it just might make them both better friends in the end.Please respect both of them whatever the outcome.
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Sounds Tough: I think if you could try and understand your Dad can make mistakes like we all can. I doubt he never loved your Mom..All this is so difficult..Please don't stop loving your Dad....as you said he has been your best friend...even best friends screw up, and your forgiveness is a big part of life. We all screw up. I know you feel for your Mom ,I'm a mom so I hope I understand a little. Your Mom and Dad will do what they need to. Whatever that is..they both will never ever stop loving you.I believe. If you can let nature take it's course..find someone outside the family maybe to talk to about your pain, that might help. Your Dad from what you say will always be there. I will pray for peace of mind and patience for you.It will all work out I believe in time. Hang in there...please.
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I know you said talking doesn't work but maybe your not saying the right thing. Tell him that you don't want to hear about what's going on tell him that it's hard for me and some of things your saying is not making it easier. One thing you must do and I'm gonna make you promise this to me don't blame yourself this is between them and if you think you had something to do with it your wrong. +3 I'm waiting for that promise k ^^ and don't be hard on yourself I had to go through the same thing after my mom cheated on my dad I was 11 it was a tough time for me. I know how it feels
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