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by toosweettosay on August 6th, 2006

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My ex has been sneaking around to meet me for, drinks, meals and sex for the past 5 months. His girlfriend knows we are still "friends" but has no idea. She is the one he broke up with me to be with. Do you think he desires to have me back?

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  • by leetmeat on February 8th, 2008

    leetmeat

    I wish my current ex was willing to do for me what you are doing for your's(lol). Truth is I don't know what all the circumstances of your relationship is, and it seems like he has a problem with commitment. If you are really interested in this guy for more then sex you should ask him upfront about this and explain to him that you want him to commit. Don't make him do it right there, these kind of decisions take time. Just tell him how you feel, and then let him think it over for awhile(maybe a few days, maybe a month, whatever you feel is ok). During this time I wouldn't see him, or at least I wouldn't suggest sleeping with him. If he feels he can get whatever he wants out of you without a relationship, he definitely won't want one. If he doesn't want that and you do, then you should stop seeing him and find someone that does.

    But to be honest, it sounds like this guy isn't interested in commitment, at least right now.

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  • by Rory969 on August 7th, 2006

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    I don't know. I think that he likes the idea of having both you and his current girlfriend.
    Some guys like to know that their exes still want them, still need them in someway- it makes them feel more 'manly' apparently.
    I think you should end it. Either stop the whole sex thing, and literally be friends with him (not friends with benefits); stop all contact with him, its kind of clear to see you're not over him; or just talk to him. If you are still 'friends' as well as lovers, you should be able to talk. If he blows up at you, at least then you'll know what he thinks.

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  • by Dimabin on February 8th, 2008

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    The real question is - do you want him back? If he is lying and unfaithful to his current girlfriend, and he broke up with you in the first place (maybe to be with her?), why would you want someone like that?

    He should be honest and up front with both of you.

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  • by broken_beauty17 on October 10th, 2009

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    So in other words he has his cake and eats it too. He has is current girlfriend and still get to see you. He is a selfish self-centered immature person and I would move on ASAP.

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  • by Josh_Many on September 15th, 2009

    Josh_Many

    Your his booty call, why would he want you back if hes having you and your available? Pfft.
    You seem like a pushover and he seems like a total A-Hole and a cheat!!
    And tell the woman that he's seeing that you've been sleeping with him.

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  • by emily6 on September 8th, 2009

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    first of all I would insist that he tell his gf the truth about you and him. stop having sex with him until and if he does tell her the truth. He needs to clean up his act before I would even consider going back to him.

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  • by Spirit Dancer on September 3rd, 2009

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    It sounds like he desires to have both of you, which is what he's getting while you keep going along with it.
    How can a relationship based on deceit be good for your self esteem?
    Plus - even if he did get back with you, how long before he was doing the same thing with the next one?
    Sounds like he needs to grow up and make his mind up.

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  • by dogdogcrazy on February 8th, 2008

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    Since from what you say, neither has any respect for yourselves, or for relationships, it sounds like you are perfect for each other, and deserve another chance!

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  • by 40ishVoiceofReason on December 8th, 2009

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    If he is paying for the drinks & meals, I would order my heart's desire. (and maybe hurt his wallet) I may even be so bold to ask him to fill up my gas tank!

    As for the sex, he is using you - but the revenge on the girl who broke you guys up could be worth it. That is as long as you don't fall for the creep again. And yeah, he is a CREEP. But word of warning, he may be passing on an STD, because breaking your heart wasn't enough for him. I wouldn't trust him and every extra day you spend with him is opening yourself up to TROUBLE.

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  • by AnnieB on October 18th, 2009

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    He DOES have you back! You're his side dish.

    He broke up with you for another woman. Steps out on her with you. Why would you even want anything to do with him after being rejected for another woman? Do you see what he's doing to her? Do you think he wasn't doing it to you?

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