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  • Yes, it's possible. Appropriate? Depends on whether you or they are in a relationship. What should you say? Whatever you want. Would you like us to send it, too?
  • No doubt it's possible if you have her email address. Anything's possible. Whether it's appropriate or not probably depends on what kind of previous relationship you had with this girl (if any). Love is a decision. The best bet would be to email her and accept the consequences, whatever they may be. If you don't put the bait in the water, you'll never know whether the fish is biting. You just have to take the risk that the fish might not be hungry and accept that you have no control over that. You could make the subject line 'Hi from <your name>, remember me from <your workplace>?' (do this so that she doesn't think it's spam and delete the whole thing without even reading it), then in the text you could say something like "Hello, my name is <your name> and I'm wondering whether you remember me from <your workplace>. I'd really like to catch up with you some time. I'm not meaning to be weird or silly, and you're welcome to delete this email if you're not interested. ...but I'd love to hear from you! and sign it : ) <your name> Make it simple and don't be too intense. Complexity and intensity are usually interpreted as 'fruitcake'. After you sent it, maintain an attitude that is accepting... keep in mind that if it's meant to happen, it will, and if it doesn't, there's really no skin off your nose! Good luck!
  • I think that your making to much of a big deal about it. Have some confidence and jump in and let it happen. Don't over think it. I'll bet her reaction will short and sweet.
  • Sure... I found an old friend from college's email address (probably something sent to both he and I), and included HIM on something I sent to a group. He responded that it'd been a long time. We emailed a few times, and that was that. Others have been on my mailing list for some time, and respond now and then. You don't have to say much more than how you found or got her email, when you saw it that it made you think of her, and you were just wondering what she was up to. Don't say anything about the "crush" until you've emailed back and forth a while, and you will have to decide how and when... My suggestion is, if you don't KNOW how it will be taken, couch it something like ... "Did you know I had a crush on you back then? Ah... I wonder what would have happened if I'd have acted on those feelings!?" She may now be in a committed relationship or married. And, some people are worried about their personal security. That's one reason you don't want to toss that out there in the beginning. Besides, SOME people you "cold" email, may not even get it, and you don't want THAT email floating around in the ethernet for anyone to find, do you? ;-) Good luck. ;-)
  • I would say make it fun and friendly. Don't say anything too serious, just act like you found her e-mail and just wanted to see what she was up to. Keep it friendly and not too personal. Maybe for a subject put "what's "name" up to?" or "what's 'name' up to, an old friend wonders?" I figure if you ask a question in the subject she will open it and most likely answer you back. If not O-Well. Plenty of others out there. Good luck.
  • Why would she delete it? Just write to her and say you think she is fun and you'd like to be friends. And don't worry about how you look. "Seize the day boys! Make your lives extraordinary!." -Dead Poets Society
  • Why not? How about in the subject line 'Remember Me from (your old company's name)? It's worth a shot. If you don't try, you'll never know.
  • You could just try asking how things are and remind her who you are by what job you used to do/how you knew her. Don't say too much, she might have a boyfriend/husband by now. You could say you remember her for her helpfulness or some other special quality she had and how you appreciated that.
  • First you have to find out if it's okay with her. I would just let her know who you are and that you wantd to say hello. And then you go from there.
  • If you don't want her to think your a nut..Don't act like one. I know that may sound funny, but it wasn't meant to be..Sure it's okay to e-mail her...Just wait for a response before you send her another one..Do it, and see were it goes, Good luck! PS. And e-card can break the ice for you
  • Depends on what you say. If you've had contact you could see if she has a myspace and request her as a friend. I was always pleasantly surprised when people from my past would do that, good icebreaker for conversation.
  • That is romantic. Just be casual and write something funny. Girls like guys who can make them laugh. A healthy sense of humor is sexy (and shows intelligence). Be yourself, she may have been attracted to you as well. Good luck!
  • Sometimes you just have to put your self out there... Who cares if she isn't interested there's many fish in the sea!
  • You should ask her if you know her from someone.... and then if she dosent remember Refresh her memory and if she still dosent remeber DROP A LINE!
  • personally, i think that sending her an email would be perfectly fine. a quick 'hey how've you been?' would suffice :] its a great opening to a conversation. if she wants to talk to you, she will :P
  • Hey, I was just thinking about you, how are you anything new, where do you work well, hope all is fine etc ... etc... it'll be good, no worries you never know if you don't try
  • Yes, of course you can! Just come across as aloof and casual. If you come on too strong they'll get freaked out.
  • I don't know why writing an email to someone you like is being a stalker. That's ridiculous. Its someone who likes someone else contacting that person they like. Just put your name there and "Hello from an old co worker-John Smith" or something.
  • If I were she, I'd probably be flattered, even if i wasn't interested in a romantic way. I'd probably respond best to a casual "it'd be great to keep in touch, let me know if you want to meet up for a coffee" email. That's fairly open-ended, so she can get in touch if she's interested. If she doesn't get in touch, I'm afraid you'll probably have to let it go - otherwise she WILL think you're a stalker ;) Good luck!
  • well, ya know, talking is talking. unless you did something to creep her out in the past, she shouldnt assume your a stalker. start with friendly banter then ask her out
  • just tell her who u are and where u got her email from maybe she will talk to u who knows maybe it will work!!!
  • I have a question or two for you One: One, are you still working together? If so you might want to stear clear of any rash actions. Any strange situations could strain your work and your company or employer may have policies about relationships in the work place Two: How friendly where you? Is it friendly enough to ask to meet for lunch or something like that? What ever you say, keep it casual and brief.
  • Yea email her, an email is acceptable to test the waters, especially if you were friendly with her.
  • Just e-mail her, say "Hi. You may not remember me but I'm ________. [insert random whatevers here]" She won't think you're a stalker. =]
  • Sure, go ahead and write to her (I'm assuming that you don't work together anymore). BE CASUAL! Don't jump right into telling her you like her.. Get to know her better, consider her responses to your emails: does she sound happy to be communicating with you? Also, somehow find out whether she's already dating anybody if you dont' know already. Hope that helps : ) All the best!
  • Why would she consider you a stalker or just delete it? If this is just a way to get in touch with no wierd history I would put just that in subject line, Getting in touch! How have you been.
  • Why explain anything? If you worked with her then its not a great stretch of the imagination to think that maybe you picked up her last name while working together. Just throw her an email, ask how she is, be as 'somewhat friendly' with her as you ever were. The worst that could happen is she won't reply.
  • You could always say something like, "Hey, how've you been? I was thinking about you the other day so I decided to email to see whats up." Seems pretty casual to me.
  • I don't see why not, the worst thing that could happen is that you made her feel thought of. Even if she isn't interested it will make her feel good and theres no harm in that. You'll never know unless you try. Definitely not inappropriate to send one email.
  • You have to "break the ice". Put something in the "subject" line your former co-worker will instantly recognize as someone she should know about you and the fact the e-mail is not spam or carrying a virus or worm. Once the e-mail is opened you can elaborate on the real message and purpose of your e-mail. Thanks for asking your Q! I did my best to answer it. I hope the information helps. VTY, Ron Berue Yes, that is my real last name! Sources: Some personal observations and opinions. "THE University of Hard Knocks" Also known as ("a/k/a") "life's valuable lessons".
  • SSorry. This wouldn't post as a caomment Since I'm not privy to facts, I gave the best answer I could. You could have the subjext line state: Hi Pat! It's me - king of pain. I was 2 cubicles from you." BODY: I'm sorry I didn't mean to frighten you. I was sitting at my computer and I just happened to be chatting with Sandi. She said you were doing the same work at the same desk. I don't know if she mentioned it to you, but I really liked your smile and the way you did your work. I really admired how efficient you were. Here's my phone number: 222.222.2222. I really would like to meet you for breakfast/lunch/after work to catch up on old times. I think we would have an enjoyable meal. Would you please give me a call? Thanks a bunch! Have a wonderful day! Sincerely, king of pain Very Truly Yours, Ron Berue
  • my friend, at times emnail can work in your favor, and there is nothing worong about sending an email to an ex-coworker and simply say you would like to get together now that you are in the same building ---- you might be pleasantly surprised by her answer. once you meet, be honest with her but not to the point you sound like a stalker ---- enjoy her company, and see where it goes
  • Whenever you show interest in someone you risk putting yourself in an awkward situation, because they might not be interested back. If you don't run into this girl anymore, you can e-mail her. If you still run into her, though, it might be more awkward next time you see her if you e-mailed her instead of asked her face-to-face. (But different social crowds have different conventions, so you'd know better if that would be odd in yours or not.) When you e-mail her, just play it cool. That's the best way to avoid awkward situations. Good luck!
  • Keep it simple, Don't tell her you have/had this crush on her via e-mail. maybe it would be more appropriate to try to get together with her to do something or exchange phone numbers via e-mail. This way you can ease your way into it.
  • If you do email here, don't come on strongly. Just remind her who you are, where you worked together, and if she remembers you at first.
  • &quot;After all this time, you just stayed in my my mind..." ???
  • yes it is appropriate from what you say. Drop her a line to see what's up and start a dialog. You can say that you were wondering where she works now and if she is doing the same thing. Blah, blah,.... Then, when the dialog starts, you can say something like: oh, hey, I am going to be in that neighborhood (where she works or lives or where she is giong to be soon) in a few days, you want catch-up over a cup of coffee? That should do it.
  • Hey, I was thinking about you the other day - what are you up to?
  • ofcours it is possible..lol..it's weird though after all this time..you still think about her..lol..you could write..."heyy, i haven't seen you in such a long time?how's it going?..if she replies, then ask her if she would wanna hang out some time..
  • Sure... Why not? Try something similar to: "I was thinking of [the company you left/she's with or you] the other day, and thought I should send you an email to see how you are and how things are going, there. So, How are you? How are things going there? ;-). Since I left, [...tell her a little of what's been going on in your life - You don't say how long it's been.] Well, that's enough for now. Like I said, I wondered how you were doing, and what's been happening back there." Nothing to it! ;-) Heck, even ask her to lunch or out for coffee in there, too!
  • Why don't you just send a invition to meet for dinner or drinks at a place you know is her favorite.

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