Why do married men cheat?

espeically ones that just got married. if you arent ready to be with one person, why even get married?

If he is "happy" why would he go cheat?

[i know girls cheat too...but im a girl and im wondering why guys cheat?]

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• She stated she knows women cheat aswell in her question
  But +4 for your answer, well written!

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  by DannysUlto on July 23rd, 2009

• Thank you

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  by Chubbychaser84 on July 24th, 2009

• yes, ++++ for a well-reasoned answer.

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  by overeducated on July 28th, 2009

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• Never would or let? so your like holding them back from what you and they want to do and that is have sex with another person...truly it's just human nature of males to want to reproduce as much as possible.
  
  Mentally your not thinking that way but physically your loins are.

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  by Badcube on May 17th, 2009

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• how can step mom and step dads be linked to cheating??? what does that mean, explain.

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  by Anonymous on July 23rd, 2009

• What I was referring to is that we teach our kids that cheating is okay in those instances where cheating got them a new step-mom or dad. The kid begins to like SM or SD and thinks that cheating helped. Thank you for the points. +3

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  by dancer on July 28th, 2009

• You should of explained it better because alot of marriages did not end up thru an affair.

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  by Anonymous on July 28th, 2009

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• me too

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  by ladyshakespeare on July 28th, 2009

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• You and me both wish and pretend it is not really like that, but it is and i doubt we will be able to change human nature.

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  by Heather108 on January 3rd, 2009

• Nah!!!

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  by dancer on July 23rd, 2009

• Actually barbie, my answer was from personal experience and not from anything I read in Cosmo.
  I've been hit on by several married men in the past couple years, turned down two and accepted an invitation from one of them.
  He works for the college that I attend and his marriage has turned out to be a big disappointment, like he was just there to father a child and then was no longer needed except for putting his pay check in their checking account.
  We don't sneak around to get together or have an ongoing secret affair but I have attended several out of town meetings with him over the past year.
  Each time because his wife had declined the invitation to go with him. He also attends church service every Sunday and she will not do that with him either.
  One of these days when this very nice guy meets a similarly neglected female and she shows interest in a relationship, he will be gone and wifie will not have a clue that it was all her doing – or not doing as the case stands.

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  by Heather108 on July 28th, 2009

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• except at some point we ceased being beasts and gained the ability to temper our actions with reason.

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  by overeducated on July 28th, 2009

• Your comment is clearly intelligent, a sign of true overeducation, and you are most definitely part of the population that has ceased to be beasts.

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  by SuzieQ on July 28th, 2009

• sometimes we dont want to hear the truth but fact is that we are still evolving, we still have many aspects of our former animal beginings such as war, territorial, and lets face it sex. It is a natural and overpowering drive that dominates media and advertising for a reason and that is our primitive instincts thrive on it, even those "educated" and "sophisticated" people are not immune, we hear daily of politicians, priests, and high ranking officials that succumbs to these desires. So like my answer or not , its just the plain truth, I was born into this world I didnt make it.

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  by newyorkguy on July 29th, 2009

• Ah, it's all opinion anyways and (in my opinion) there are many truths. No offense meant NYG.

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  by SuzieQ on July 29th, 2009

• yeh, no offense NYguy--you make a good point. it's all around us so evidently we're still operating on levels somewhere below full consciousness where sex is concerned! and no way I'm ever going to say that being educated or 'sophisticated' or influential people are immune! I know better than that. I know I'M not perfect...
  but I don't think anyone should just give up on himself/herself and their search for integrity just because of sad, genuine truths.

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  by overeducated on July 29th, 2009

• I agree, in my experience I noticed that with age (im 35 now) you learn to control yourself alot more, maybe it has to do with less hormones, maybe with smarter wits, but sometimes for some men it just becomes a habit that they cannot break, unfortunately many get hurt in the process, I have been on both sides of the fence, my first wife cheated on me and I worshipped her, my present wife I cheated on her a few times and caused her great pain, but now we are doing good. Life is a dice roll I guess.

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  by newyorkguy on August 8th, 2009

• Ya, but will you cheat again?

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  by SuzieQ on August 9th, 2009

• I agree cheating (and lying and other non-gender specific vices) can just become a habit, and society can encourage a single vice on one gender or the other, but hopefully most of us wake up one day and take responsibility for our actions, partly by recognizing where they originate from.

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  by overeducated on August 10th, 2009

• i would like to say i will never cheat again but many people say this and act different once a situation presents itself, right now sitting in my chair i would say no. It does not benefit anybody , its like war, all sides lose.

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  by newyorkguy on August 17th, 2009

• good way to put it, and from someone who people might actually listen to!

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  by overeducated on August 17th, 2009

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• You are correct many men are like that, just a physical thing.
  Some even do it before they are married.

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  by I can fly on July 27th, 2009

• I never cheated on my wife because I really respect her and would never do anything to cheapen our marriage. Although I had many opportunities to do so. +5

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  by Corgingus on July 27th, 2009

• Well.......................Drawing a complete blank, don't know where to go in thought on this.

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  by I can fly on July 27th, 2009

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• And you believed that...I'll give you +5 just for believing that

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  by stagood on July 22nd, 2009

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• It MAY have been "love" - when you truly LOVE someone it can become very difficult to define the boundaries of what you are - and are NOT - willing to do or accept in a person. Love can make even things you considered wrong seem alright. If she LOVES him she can certainly stay with him even after he's been with you sexually - he was with you sexually BEFORE they got together and it didn't effect how she felt about him - why should she CHANGE the way she feels about him after having sex with you again ? I don't think marriage - let alone LOVE - has to mean exclusive sex ! Sex is PHYSICAL - love is EMOTIONAL ! It's true that the BEST sex is when there's BOTH the physical "chemistry" AND the emotional bond - or love. But even LOVE doesn't stop you from being physically ( or sexually ) attracted to someone else - it's not "sick" - it's LIFE ! I love my wife for who she IS - not who she's had SEX with - and if she met someone who she was sexaully attracted to tomorrow and "gave in" to the urge to have sex with them it wouldn't change who she IS - or how much I love her. Can't you "understand" that ?

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  by Anonymous on February 13th, 2010

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