I gave that question a lot of though and from as many perspectives as I could many years ago. To me unless a woman is a total lesbian I can understand. I do not know what a woman who is totally lesbian does or feels. I can more with a bisexual woman for some reason. I think you should think about what you as a woman want but also think about if you were a man how would you approach your lover. Having that flexible approach, that to me makes a good lover. Gentleness and the ability to be aggressive in a manly way and a feminine way. They do have differences. I only respond to feminine aggression or submission not manly from a woman. Think of it like dogs and cats. Dogs sniff get aroused and hop on. Cats are much more slow and deliberate, teasing, gentle, playful. So you can be both, depending on how she reacts to your advances. Also which role do you play? Do you take turns? Are you both totally female? Does one of you take the aggressive male role? Or even an aggressive female role. It's complex. Something as simple as coming up behind her, pressing your body against hers, cupping her breasts and kissing her neck is a totally aggressive male thing for instance. As for techniques on cunnilingus, there are many books and web sites to read about it. Just google it.

Not ask duplicate questions.

Give her flowers and pay her compliments.

privacy and sensation stimulation,,, oils candles soft music and an any thing goes mentallity with ur partner. no part of ur partner shouldnt be tasted and or explored... look for unmenchionables thats a shore way to make a impression.

Lick their Buttocks and thigh. Lick her pussy.

I think whatever pleases you would have a high likelihood of pleasing her too.