My boyfriend was cheated on in the past. He worries I will do the same. When I say or do certain things it reminds him of her. Is he comparing me to her? Does he still have feelings for her? Does it sound like he is having an "emotional affair"

i dont think hes comparing you to her but sometimes people do recognise simularities with other relationships its just really hard to get over something like that my boyfriends first girlfriend cheated on him and hes cheated on every girlfriend since even me i always swore id never stick with a guy that cheated on me but i love him and he really has changed with me we had a serious talk talking is the best way to handle things to me

when someone in the past hurt you, it is hard to forget. You have to talk to him and reasure him that he can trust you. Make agreement to always be straight forward with each other - should be able to both openly say what you think. He needs to stop dwelling on the past and focus on relationship with you.

Being dumped and cheated on, leaves emotional scars that take a long time to heal. you have your job cut out for you and him. its up to you to gain and hold his trust. it will take time for the memories to fade, but, based on your question, i feel you are just the person to give him first aid.

Make your opinions and feelings known upfront. clear the air, that you are not the other woman and will not be compared to her.

This may not work for you or him. but, at least give it a try. make your own memories together.

You are now.....she is past!

women get more upset usually about their man having an emotional relationship with another woman than a sexual relationship....men are just the opposite.....but, as long as you do not cheat on him, i do not really think that you and he should have a problem....i realllllly hate cheaters.....take care....Brian.....

Sounds like you are a rebound girl, he needs more time to get over his past GF, it is to soon for him to be dating again!! Sounds like he needs to "man up" move on stuff happens, stop being an emotional weakling!!! If I hear about an ex and they have no children together, she gets booted to the curb!!!

Honestly, and i mean seriousley, Just loose the suspicion. Hes not comparing you to her. And hes definately not jumping to an emotional affair? I never could understand how women can derive a suspicion from when a guy is hurt or afraid that he doesnt want them or is falling for soeone else. My ex did the same. Comfort him and love him. Trust me hes scared sensless. Without being re assured he will probably be worried for a long time. And of course all right minded people think about their past hurts and stuff. How else would we learn from it?

your key is complete reassurance. It will take time for him but you need plenty of words of positivity and show him that you care about him way more than that last slag that he went out with. good luck xx

I have the same issue with my fiance. I don't have the best past and he knows where I came from... so it makes it hard for him to trust me again. But I have earned his trust by doing everything I can to reassure him that I'm always going to be here no matter what happens. I gave up a lot for this man ... and I stopped doing things that made it look to him like I was doing something wrong... or I was doing something I had to hide. Eventually I got his trust ... and you will get it too. Just try to show him that you are not like all the other girls.

Time for a new boyfriend!

It doesn't sound like he's having an emotional affair to me. It sounds more like he's insecure and afraid that he'll be hurt again.

cheat on him and then let him find out cuz he will keep cheating if he isnt still cheating