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by dkd45805 on July 27th, 2006

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My boyfriend was cheated on in the past. He worries that I will do the same. When I say or do certain things it reminds him of her. Is he comparing me to her? Does he still have feelings for her?

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  • by Answers101 on July 27th, 2006

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    It sounds like he's comparing you to her. You need to tell your boyfriend that you understand his concern becaues he has trust issues due to his past experiences. Howeer, you need reassurea your boyfriend that NOT only are you a different person, but that you would NOT do that. How do you prove that? Easy--actions are louder than words. Eventually, over time, he will learn to trust you more.

    He probably still does have some feelings for her still, but as time progresses, I am sure that they will wane becasue they usually do.

    Bottom line: Be yourself and if he annoys you by comparing you to him, then kindly remind him that you're two completely different people & you'd appreciate it, if he would acknowledge that fact.

    Good luck!

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  • by machinerat on October 18th, 2009

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    Did his ex leave him for another person?

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  • by single now 35 on October 18th, 2009

    single now 35

    He should not be in a relationship until he is over his last girlfriend!

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  • by skyler7 on August 28th, 2009

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    he just hasnt healed 100% and so its hard for him to trust...he doesnt mean to compare you but until his heart is fixed hes going to. prove him wrong that you wont! Good luck!

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  • by AnonymousGirl on August 28th, 2009

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    He has trust issues. He was badly burned in the past. He is afraid you will do the same thing. This is normal. He might still have feelings for her, but he is with you now. It also sounds like he wants it to work out with you. This is clearly a hard time for him. It may be annoying and rather frustrating, but you know he has trust issues. If you choose to stay with him, you will have to deal with it. You may need to reassure him and comfort him a lot and show that you're trustworthy instead of just being trustworthy. He may also feel inadequate and like he is lacking in something since he was cheated on before. Show him that you're not with him until someone better comes along, but only if it's true. Actually CARE about him, which it sounds like you already do. Don't JUST care, though. SHOW that you do.

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  • by thundar1 on November 5th, 2006

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    He does not have feeling for her. He somehow thinks that it's may have been his fault that she cheated or he may even wonder if all women cheat.

    Be patient but don't let him treat you bad for what someone else did to him. It's ok for him to be insecure.

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