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  • If your girlfriend allow her friend's brother to do this, then yes, it can be construed as cheating. However, if your girlfriend was not giving consent to her friend's brother doing this, then NO it's not cheating.
  • It depends, you need to talk to her about this. It may well be that she was happy for this to be happening, in which case, yes its cheating. It may be however that she was so drunk, or even had her drink spiked, that she was aware of the guy taking advantage but wasn't physically able to do anything about it- this kind of thing is more common than you'd think, a girl (or guy) gets drunk, is lying in a corner semi-concious and some guy starts to touch her up and she can't coordinate enough to protest about it. You need to talk to her sensitively, not in an accusing manner, to try and figure out what happened. I've also got to question the fact that in order for this to happen- either you were there and did nothing about it, or she told you about it. Maybe you're sending out the message that you're OK with this kind of thing - perhaps you need to have a proper chat about where the boundaries of your relationship lie.
  • My feeling is no. Speaking as a woman... guys trying to feel you up is something we all encounter at one time or other. Often it is not something that we encourage or want. Now that I'm a little older I find it easy to push some guy off me when he gets grabby, but a lot of young girls don't know what to do in that situation and simply freeze up. ESPECIALLY when they're drinking. A common reaction is to hold still, ignore him and hope he will give up and go away. It seems to make more sense to just slap someone, but when they're bigger and stronger than you and you're incapacitated the last thing you want is to make someone like that angry. Believe me! In short, unless this is something that happens all the time (she gets drunk and things happen with other guys), this is absolutely not her fault or something she "let" happen. The friend's brother bears the blame.

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