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by Sugar-licious a bellydancing rum maiden on March 24th, 2008
Yes, I believe it is perfectly proper as long as no one you are dating believes that you are in an exclusive committed relationship.
by FaerieWhings on March 24th, 2008
dating isn't a relationship and I think that's where a lot of people get confused. dating is when two people go places together to find out if they are interested in the same things and compatible enough for a relationship. Yes, dating more then one person is proper and acceptable.
by miRi hates social norms and regulations on March 24th, 2008
as long as everyone's on the same page and everyone's okay with it, i guess. personally i'd not deal with that, but some people don't care, so whatever works
by jehan60188 on March 24th, 2008
It's ok if 1) you can manage it, and 2) you let both people know
by Penal Colony is wicked marrying Andy on March 24th, 2008
I don't know. I think it would definitely depend on the level of seriousness. You could go on a date with Jane, and then a date with Suzy the next night, if they were both very casual dates. Once you go down the road to any kind of emotional attachment or exclusivity, you should stick with one person though.
by Wilders on March 24th, 2008
No, although its an online relationship you may accidently say something to the wrong one. For instance: Hi, Elizabeth How r u? Huh? Elizabeth?? This is Angie... U = screwed. Another thing is you should stay with one at a time because if you truly love someone you'd stay with only that person. If they found out about you and someone else they would think that you couldn't be trusted and you'd be a possible cheater in the future. Then they'd dump you most likely.
by PerfectlyPink on March 24th, 2008
This is a very contiversal subject!!! I believe that you can only truely date one person at a time. To me, dating a person is to see how things are going and whether they can progress into something deeper and more meaningful... and who can and would want to progress in a relationship which involves multiple relatiohships? But then again it's all in the agreement that each couple had with one another... is it an open relationship? and if so, are both parties involved with others and how many feelings will be hurt once you determine one person is right for you and how many partners does each person have and ahhhh!!! Disease creaps into my mind and how honest with each partner are you being about the others you are dating...
So to me... No, too complicated and just ick...
by Andy Is Wicked Married to Penal Colony on March 24th, 2008
As long as you are honest about it, I don't see why not.
by Lord Knows on March 24th, 2008
Only if you refer to dating as Dinner & a movie and have it stop there, there than I don't see anything wrong with dating more than one person at the same time.
If your version of dating consists of overnight stays with one another, sexual encounters, talks of future plan making & saying "I love You" then defiantly not.
Dating to one person may mean something totally different to another. I mean heck my daughter dates guys in school at that only consists of him carrying her books and limiting their conversations at school.
by SAGE2 on March 24th, 2008
My original anwer to your question was 'Why not?" What I meant was it is purfectly normal to date several people at one time as long as you are not engaged or married to one of them. ' Cause How are you going to find 'the one' by dating just one person indefintely.
by DiSTurBiA on March 24th, 2008
I had 4 bf's at one time, and we all agreed it was a open relationship, and we all knew each other, and they........erm shared me...........LOL
by Drastic on March 24th, 2008
I wouldn't.
by Nninee on March 24th, 2008
No. Well, unless you want to end up breaking someone's heart that is.
I guess it would be okay if there is no deep emotional attachment, but you also have to make sure tha other person(s) don't have a deep emotional attachment either.
Trust me. I'm going through this right now, and I feel like the worst person ever.
by RAM on July 30th, 2009
YOUR HEART WILL GIVE YOU THE RIGHT ANSWER..
by schmee2369 on July 30th, 2009
Yeah, I think you can do it...but the minute you really know you start diggin somebody and got a connection I would drop anybody else.
by andblack on June 9th, 2009
yea
by bowlermommy07 on September 3rd, 2008
No unless it is made clear during that relationship that both parties are free to explore other possibilities (open relationship).
by RosieGHM Jetpacker on March 25th, 2008
Sure..that's what dating is...date a variety of people and make comparisons among them. However, you must make that very clear to those whom you date..it would not be honest to have one of your relationships exclusively date you and you only if you did not disclose to him/her that you also date others! :)
by SAGE2 on March 24th, 2008
why not?
by R U Sirius on March 24th, 2008
Dating to me is like in the old days.......when you're courting someone. Doesn't sound exclusive to me. I don't see anything wrong with more than 1 as long as you're up front and the other person knows.
by SAGE2 on March 24th, 2008
why not?
by Abbyguy on March 24th, 2008
I'd say no. It is generally a one on one thing. Someone will end up getting hurt almost for sure.
by Roo For You on March 24th, 2008
If the other person is aware of it or you have agreed your not exclusive. :)
by .....----- on March 24th, 2008
well i cant say what is proper or not but for me that would be cheating and i would never dare to have more than one relationship at a time, is just my opinion and i'm sure i bunch of people disagree but thats how i feel about that situation.
by scubaduba on March 24th, 2008
As long as you are open and up front about it then it is fine. IF however, you do that, and one of the relationships seems to be progressing into something more serious, then I think you have to end all other relationships at that point.
by sjane23 on August 24th, 2009
thats what dating is meant to be like but i couldn't ever do that, you'll know after a couple of dates whether you like the guy or not and i can't understand how someone can date 3 or 4 people and always give each of them a full on kiss!! I know you aren't commited, but still, i couldn't do it.
by Uncle Floyd on August 24th, 2009
If you want to. Just be sure to keep them apart.
by Don Gorgeous George on August 12th, 2009
What is proper, according to who? It can be okay, but it is less acceptable in today's society.
by Nice Guy In Bay Area on July 30th, 2009
That depends on what you mean by "dating." I believe that you can date anyone at any time, as long as you are not intimate with any of them.
by happiness on July 30th, 2009
If you are single and all relationships do not involve sexual activities. Go ahead.
by fantasy child on July 30th, 2009
as long as your not having sex with them all.. just dating you should date whom ever when ever
by caseyg on July 30th, 2009
In the first stages of dating, I think it's not only proper but I recommend it - you shouldn't put all your eggs in one basket, and this way you'll get to have more fun and experience things you wouldn't if you're just with one person. Until it's exclusive, I say go for it!
by Crazed_Wiseman on June 9th, 2009
the guys would
by Trypaw on May 22nd, 2009
Are you in a relationship with these guys? (serious or not its still a relationship) Is so then it is wrong. You should only hold one relationship no matter how un serious it is.
If you are not in a relationship with either of them then it would only be polite and honest of you to tell the other guy about who you are with (vise versa)
by AK First Blitz on May 22nd, 2009
No you should be able to date as many guys as you want. You are not going with just one or plan to marry just one right now. Play the field is ok.
by Nicole on May 22nd, 2009
If you are not committed to either one I don't see a problem. Just be honest with the both of them if the issue comes up, and of course once you decide to committ to one of them you have to let the other one go.
by BROADWAYTHECAT on May 22nd, 2009
if you haven't led either of them to believe that you are dating him exclusively, you are doing nothing wrong.
by HoboJoe on May 22nd, 2009
Unfortunately, it is hard for a girl to play the field in a small city. You will lose both guys if they find out. Now if the guys are from different citites, it might work and it will give you time to choose the one you like more.
by Randy on December 14th, 2008
Do you like it when your date keeps answering his/her cell calls from last night's ,tomorrow night's dates?
by Dmitri on November 21st, 2008
It might be proper in the mind of the "player", but I doubt it ever can be to those being played.
by moonchild wears a COAT of shadows on July 20th, 2008
If your not seriously involved then it is a choice that you both make,but be careful,it doesnt mean you have to hurt each other,dating is one thing and a relationship is another,take it slowly and find out what you want first
by dizzy boy on July 20th, 2008
i believe a couple should agree on the parameters of their relationship as is progressess. everything should be discussed. if they decide to have an open relationship or an exclusive one. it is important to rememnber that it is yours..do not be afraid to talk to each other. honesty and trust
by Yarnlady is happy every day on March 24th, 2008
Many of the other answers lead me to believe that dating must have changed a lot since I was doing it. Dating used to mean spending time with a friend, or friends, to find out if you wanted to get to know them better.
Most of these other answers seem to be about a relationship that has gone way beyond the dating stage and well into the "going steady" or even engaged stage.
by Firebrand on March 24th, 2008
As long as all parties are aware that it is just a casual relationship.
Truth is what is important.
by Anonymous on March 24th, 2008
I don't see why not. Until there is commitment to a monogamous relationship there's no argument for cheating.
by curious on March 24th, 2008
I dont think it is, my opinion that would be cheating. I dont share so that would be a big problem for me.
by Slim746 on March 24th, 2008
I don't know about 'proper', but I have done so many times.
by hey-lo on March 24th, 2008
Yep! I personally don't find the desire to date more than one person at a time, but not to say I shouldn't or couldn't!
People either date because they like it (to have fun, etc) or because they're looking for someone to settle down with. In both cases, people (who feel comfortable doing so) SHOULD date multiple people!!
Dating can be practice, it can also let you get a "feel" for the sorts of people there are out there.
You, OF COURSE, need to be open and honest. It's not like you have to say (right off the bat), that you're dating several/a couple/a LOT of different people.. but if things proceed/progress, you definitely need to speak up!! You have to communicate and let the other people that you're not being exclusive with them.
If/when you find someone you like (more than the others) and want to only date them, let them know! Especially if they're dating other people as well.. you should talk and find out if they want to be exclusive too.
I, personally, think it's sort of wasting time if you're just casually dating one person and you're looking for a serious, committed relationship. You should be trying to meet and get to know a few prospective 'mates'. If you were casually dating someone for a few months and realize that it's not "eternally compatable" or not good for the long-term, then you end that relationship and start again. If you were casually dating 3 people, you can end those relationships that aren't going anywhere, and keep moving forward with the one or two that are (of course keeping your options open as far as more/new prospective people to date). When you find someone worthy, you cut things off with the others you are seeing.
It can be a lot of work -- but if you're seriously looking for a long-term-partner, you can't expect them to come looking for you!! (Not to say you wont find someone if you're not looking/dating... but it's more rare!)
Just be sure to be honest and open with the person/people you're dating. If it's known that you're being casual while getting to know someone, then there isn't much pressure and people aren't going to go "all in" with their emotions and get hurt as easily if/when it doesn't work out with that person.
(Just don't sleep with them all! lol!!)
by LoyalTubist-CountryClub Life in Mindanao on March 24th, 2008
Only if polygamy were a legal option.
by Mojo-JoJo on November 21st, 2008
I guess it's up to the person doing the carrying... and those being carried. How much 'stuff' can you carry at once? Do you wanna risk dropping it all and breaking them?
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