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  • No, If he dumped you I doubt that he thinks very much about you at all. I think, however, that you will feel much better about yourself and hold your head higher if you do not contact him or follow him around like a puppy. He's told you where his head is at. Show him that you can do very well without him!
  • Yes, do not contact him. Just let him go. You deserve better & will get better :)
  • Chances are that your ex probably thinks of you at least once everyday, but the real question is in what regard does he hold you in... either he thinks of you in the context that he misses you, or he thinks of you as something that he is glad to be done with... if he broke up with you, he is more than likely in a state of trying to move past things, so he is probably remembering all of the negative things that transpired in the relationship in order to sweep any other feelings under the rug... you must remember this: people want to create the illusion that they live in a world of black and white, but in reality, people live in a world more grey than anything... it's easy to think, "well, he dumped me, so i know he's not ever thinking of me" and so forth, but in reality, it's a lot more complicated than that. but enough of the philosophical talk... i haven't answered your question... the truth is that he probably already thinks about you from time to time, but ceasing contact with him is good for you because not only will it peak his interest after a period of time since he hasn't heard from you in a while, but it gives you the opportunity to move forward with your life and be strong... you more than likely deserve someone much, MUCH better than this person, but when the dust settles i'm sure you carry a torch for him and you love him very much and want to still be with him... all i can offer to you as advice is to give it time... if it's meant to be, he will come crawling back at some point-- sometimes it may only take a few days, but a lot of the time these things take weeks, months, years to unfold-- and by that time it is unfortunate for that party because by the time they come to their senses and realize what a good thing they discarded, it is often much too late. i know it's hard, but it is probably in your best interest to let him be. take it from someone who knows what you're going through: my boyfriend broke up with me nearly five months ago, and we terminated our relationship at a time in my life where i wasn't feeling particularly strong and i was going through a plethora of troubles, so i was really dependent on him and contacted him quite often, and even to this day i still send him facebook messages ever so often to no avail... it sucks being in a position where the other person has moved on and you have not, and you don't want to be like me... it seems like the walls of my life have crumbled around me, but he's going strong... it's okay, though, i know my time is coming to be happier, though. but anyway, take my advice and move on... you don't want to spend your life waiting on someone else... often times you come out disappointed... take some time to be enjoy being single and enjoy your time to yourself because once you're in another relationship, whether it is with this person again or someone new, you're going to be going through the process of adapting your life to another person all over again... which isn't some terrible thing, but it takes a lot of emotional energy to be in a satisfying relationship. well, i'm going to stop rambling... i hope that i answered your question in all of my verboseness and all... good luck!

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