If your girlfriend wants to stay at home and raise "her" child, how much time should you give them before they go back into the world and get back into work and school?
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Until the child moves out. There is nothing better a mother can do than stay home and raise her own child. My husband works hard so that I can stay home and raise our kids- not because I'm lazy, not because he's "indulging" me, but because both of us believe kids do best when mom is at home. Homes are happier when there is a mom at home full time. If you want to stay with your girlfriend, I suggest marrying her and supporting her and your child while she stays home and raises the child and does the cooking and cleaning. It sounds as if your relationship might be bad in other ways, though. If you're not going to make it work, I wouldn't string her along.
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It doesn't always make sense to go back to work. It cost money to work!!! ...car, gas, car insurance, less home cooked meals, convenience items, work clothes, dry cleaning. I recommend The Complete Tightwad Gazette book by Amy Dacyczyn and Jonni McCoy book; Miserly Moms. Amy describes why it is more frugal to stay home then to work. There was a TV program that added up the value of a stay at home mom.... it took all her responsibilities and calculated how much it would cost to hire a professional to do the same jobs... maid, cook, courier, dog walker, lawn care, grocery shopping, childcare, etc. A stay a home mom (or dad) is a real job! When a child is in school full time, then she might want to consider a part-time job or volunteering for SOCIALIZATION, adult conversations! http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0375752250/002-9059801-5035233?v=glance&n=283155
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As much time as Christian needs.
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I have been a stay at home mom for the past 8 months....it has been delightful to spend time with my children. I've learned things I never thought I would...about them..about the world..and about myself. I am graduating nursing school and going back to work in a week. My children are 4 & 6. If I could do it over again, I would stay home from their birth to kindergarten. Children need their mother, not daycare!
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As much time as she needs to feel that things are secure with her children and until she feels that the house won't fall apart as soon as she leaves it.
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Have you ever been to a daycare center? Even the expensive ones just don't compare to a kid being at his own home with his mom. She has the rest of her life and his to go to school and work. Give them this early time together. At least until the kid is in school too (like kindergarten or first grade)
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Wow, um "her" child? Personally, I hope that your girlfriend dumps you. My partner's kid became like my own kid once we moved in together, I would NEVER put parenthesis around the kid's title like that, we can all see what you're thinking here, and it's pretty disusting.
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I think she should give you a breakdown of the costs of what you're going to end up paying in child support with that attitude. Reminds me of a commercial where this kids is running rampant through a grocery store and after about 30 seconds, it shows the Father looking at the kid in despair and then up flashes the ad for condoms. Should have, could have and now he knew if he knew then WOULD HAVE USED THEM.. Wish your parents had done the same.
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I would at least three to months.
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If it is a financial strain for you, talk to her about it. She can go to school online and at home. If she has a child, try to be a positive part of their world.
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