Would you put Your Mom Or Dad in a Nursing Home or would you give up your Job and all stay home and take care of them? Tell the truth.
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I have already had this conversation with my parents. We agreed that a good care facility was the best plan and my commitment is to stay in touch and be part of their life on a regular basis when they get to that point. We did this as a family and my brother and I agreed :)
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My mom is my best friend. I would definitely take care of her, especially after all the sacrifices she has made in her life for me and my brother, however my dad and I aren't close, so I would probably not leave work and struggle when he would get good care somewhere else....Just being honest!
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If I am able, I will absolutely take care of them at home as opposed to a nursing home.
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My dad has arranged to be placed in one himself when the time comes. I did quit my job last year to help take care of my mom who has cancer. She does not need to be in a home since she is ill and not elderly, but I wanted to hang out with her as much as possible and do what I could to ease her anxiety.
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LOL... I asked my dad about this a while ago. He says he doesn't care what me and my sister do with him when he's old, as long as he has plenty of weed. Ha ha!!
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I'd prefer to stay home and take care of them but the truth is, one can only do that to a certain extent. I'd have to make a living some other way and if I'm doing that 24/7, it'd be hard.
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that would depend on the kind of care they needed. if they needed medical attention a lot or they were violent I would put them in a home. if I could take care of them I would have them stay with me.
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I did have to put my older brother in a nursing home and it was very draining unpleasant experience. My brother has accepted living in a nursing home and I am grateful for this as I simply wouldn't have been able to take care of him in my home. My wife needs most of my attention as she is dealing with cancer that has returned for the third time and she has loss the use of her left arm. Both my parents died quickly from heart conditions when they were both home.
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It depends how finances are when that time comes. My mother is 69 later this year and I am just having my first child, so I will have to consider the financial aspect of having a child (or children) still at home or in college when that time comes. Ideally, I would love for my mother to come live with me. We have been asking her to do so for quite some time. She refuses. She is headstrong and active and independant. I think she will prefer being in a care facility for active seniors later on. If she is in need of physical care, I would have her in my home and have a nurse come to tend to her.
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I'm sending them to a retirement home ASAP!!!
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I left an overseas job to take care of my dad for a few months while my mother put in time teaching school. I took a job as a security guard in an orange juice factory (graveyard shift) so I could be home during the day. My (then) wife and daughters and I were staying with my parents at that time. Eventually, I went back to teaching and we left my parents' house. Dad died a little over a year ago of congestive heart failure.
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I had to put my mom in a nursing home cos i am not equiped to care for her.
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That is not any easy question to answer. So many things have to be thought out. Can you afford to quit your job? Do you have the energy and strength to lift them if necessary? Are you able to clean them if they have an accident ( most people can't do it). This could go on for many years and it takes a toll on the caregiver. What about the other family members in the house...it's their home too and they need to be ok with it. Sometimes ( like me ) I didn't have an extra room so we converted my dining room into a bedroom. It is 24/7 care and it's not easy. Family members say they will help out but seldom do when you need a break. Think long and hard before you take on a huge responsibility . It's easy to just say of course I would but that's the love you have for them. Down the road (years) you will be exhausted especially if your health or another family members health is also suffering. Before you jump into anything think ahead and know that you can not just come and go anymore. It's wonderful if you can but not everyone is able.
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I would keep my Mom and Dad at my home and take care of them in the best possible way ,forever ...I would not quit my job because I need the money too to make this happen :-)
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