Our son has ADHD so i have an understanding for it.

I grew up with ADHD and had a difficult time of procuring dates. I can imagine that someone could feel put off by some of the quirks I had. And am quite certain that I was turned down because of them.It made it tough for me, but I now have a beautiful and understanding wife. We are going into our 29th yr...:)

My boyfriend has ADHD. I've been with him for almost a year. I love him. =)

No, not at all...

What puts you off about them?

Having done it twice before, I wouldn't be put off by the ADD alone. My question would be how well they're coping with it. If they use ADD as an excuse for everything, or display the behaviors but won't come clean about it then I'm put off by that. What someone with ADDADHD has to understand is that their partner needs to know...and once the relationship becomes committed, they deserve to know the details, and be directed to places and books that can help them deal with it, unless they are a natural at it. Very few people are just going to telepathically know what you need, even if they love you very much. Of the two guys with ADHD I dated, one was not functioning as well as the other by 'normal' standards. He couldn't drive, and needed help with things like remembering when to pay bills and such, but he was a better partner than the supposedly higher functioning one. He was very decisive and brave, and I never had to wonder whether or not he liked me. Even if he was busy or dead tired, he always had a little bit left to send me a message or call. He *always* kept his promises. The only reason we broke up is that he was a bit intolerant about some things like religion and orientation. If it weren't for that, I'd still be with him and very happy, despite the usual problems. Those quirks were fine as long as the relationship was solid. I'd still go back with him if he fixed his intolerance issues. The other drives, goes to college, and is a programmer, but dating him was a slice of hell. He never did anything he said he was going to do, and treated me like his monthly shag. I had enough of that. Then I've dated many 'normal' and exceptionally smart guys...some good, some bad. Having ADD or not, or being more or less intelligent, doesn't make someone a good or bad person or a good or bad partner. What makes the difference is whether or not a person understands that relationships take work, and that they aren't the only one in the relationship whose feelings matter.

nope, unless they used it as an excuse for everything and just kept trying to play everything off, because then it's more of that's what their personality is rather than the fact that they have ADD...

I am someone with ADHD, and no it wouldn't "put me off"

No, I have ADD also.