Grab him by the ear and take him to anger management classes.

Where is the father? There is not much you can do at this point but, perhaps the father can be more persuasive.

You're his mother. Drag his butt if you have to. He still has to listen to you, because he's not 18 yet, so what you say goes.

I know, you arent going to want to hear this, there isnt much you can do at his age, he is legal to be on his own, Tell him, he can stop or he can support his self, somewhere else. I had to kick my son out for this reason, it was one of the hardest things I had to do, but two years later, he actually thanked me for standing up to him.

this may sound harsh but tough love is hard, and some day he will look back and hopefully thank you for it. You can make him a ward of the state as you are no longer able to control him as theis point in his life, hes is a child yet close to being an adult in the eyes of the law, and right now any thing he does you are responable for it, like he doesn't go to school, if he goes out and destroyed someones property, you pay not him, and if hes on pot and mad at the world..... there are work camps for kids like this, they are tough on them, makes them grow up learn to except responablity for their actions.... I have walked in your shoes, ours started at 15, but hes 27 now and doing OK and hes will tell you he was a pain and stupid kid then, so theres hope check with you local court for kids on 18 and maybe even a lawyer most will see you for free at least once. My son has ADHD and I home schooled him from 8th grade on because no school would have him, he ran away from home at 15 and in CA that is perfectly legal even as young as 12 yrs old, he was bound and determined to do what ever he pleased from drinking & drugs no matter what we tryed and he was 6' at age 14 and very strong,and unless he harmed himself cops would not interfere with him, he would break windows and anything else in his way,I was afraid of him,My sister is going though it with a 13yr old right now, finally cops took her when she threw a chair and hit her dad in the head, left him bleeding,they hope to send her to a camp for kids to help her. Till you have walked these miles you have no idea how hard it is!

G'day Anonymous, Thank you for your question. I would speak to a counsellor and see what he or she suggests. It must be very difficult to cope with and a counsellor may be able to come up with suggestions after listening to you. Regards

send him to teen bootcamp (not military bootcamp) pronto before he turns 18 and let the professional handle it. if you wait until he turns 18, well then you're kinda screwed.

At 17 he is a minor and if things get out of control you an have him admitted to an inpatient psychiatric unit for a few days for acute treatment...it's not a long term solution but it may get the ball rolling.

The first question I would ask you is: How does his anger manifest? If he is not being violent, there has to be some place where he can talk about his feelings. From a therapeutic standpoint, I would be worrying if a 17-year old did not feel anger, especially if he is clashing with his parents, because psychologically, it is this anger, and disdain with what children find wrong with their parents that essentially gives them the strength to leave home and make their own nests. Things generally settle down a few years after that if you, as a parent, do not destroy the relationship before then. If you love your child, and I think you do, try to speak with someone older to give you some tips and guide you through, because YOU are the adult, and only you can be an example of how to deal with feelings of anger in a constructive fashion. (Hauling his butt should be obviously a bad option) Anger most often is disguised hurt or fear, and if you are able to convey to your son that you truly want to understand him, his anger may melt into a description of one of those two things. In order for that to happen, though, you must take responsibility, because (and you may not want to hear this) these difficulties are FAMILY difficulties, not just HIS. You have a role to play in the game of anger, and to help you fix the situation, the best solution would be to go to a counsellor yourself, and you will be amazed at what happens if you are open to changing yourself. I CANNOT EMPHASIZE THIS ENOUGH. As to the pot addiction, it may just be a way of self-medicating the feelings he does not want, because trust me, a child is afraid when they feel anger toward their parents. Once the larger issues are dealt with, this may go away on its own, because it is not a physical addiction. Good luck

A therapist once told me that a mother nor grandmother should be raising a teen age boy. They sometimes become hyper-machoed in that kind of environment. I think Sweetbriar is the best answer you've got here.

The top answer is absolutely awful and unnecessary. I agree with sweetbriar. The only person you can change is yourself. Eliminating expectations and guilt trips may be all you need to do. It's probably safe to say that your son has a pot habit...not addiction. ;)

ok im only 14 but i do know a lot. whatever u do dont listen to what he says !! hear him out just dont listen. he doesnt know WHAT he wants. do what u think will help him, he doesnt know!! ill pray for ur problem, God bless

i dont know about the anger but when my son was smoking,he was 16 i took him to our regional jail and they took us on a tour and showed us just what to expect if he was to ever get locked up..he thought it was cool also until they were telling us stories of how they treat you if you get out of hand..how you are stripped down naked and de-liced, what you would be wearing, and the clothes they give you were worn by other inmates and if the had stains in them,,even though they have been washed you still had to wear them..he didnt like that idea..and they only give you a certain amount of time to shower after that the water shuts off and if you still have soap on u it stayed there until next day..worked for my boy..he was scared to death when he left there.good luck

Ask a cop to speak to him!

If he thinks he is an independent adult, treat him like one. Kick him out of the house. Send him packing and let him know when he is serious about dealing with his issues, you'll welcome him back with loving arms.

well lets see, that bedroom door of his-you own it? or at least the mortgage/rent is in your name? i would have to sell it. that computer of his..does it run on your electricity? not anymore. i am sure you must be a partial owner of his car, and probably the whole insurer. maybe that needs to go too. if his "anger problem" actually makes you physically afraid-see how angry he gets after he is pepper sprayed. i would be god damned before i would be afraid in my home, of my child. obviously the horse is out of the barn here-but you both need counseling.

I agree ^^ . You should send him to an impatient hospistal where he can get medication for his anger and while he's there he can get help for his addiction. Hope this helps =)

Get him help before he turns 18. If he is a minor it's completely up to you. you can check him into a rehab, but you have to do it before he's legal.

I'm 17. I've been dating this guy for two years, he's now 19. He has a high addiction to pot, and smokes everday. I've tried getting him to stop, he tends to get angry everytime I try talking to him about. He calls me stupid and tells me I don't know what I'm talking about. He even tells me sometimes that I should try smoking. I don't think so. Not going to happen. Anyway, he was recently arrested for being in fight, and while he was being arrested they found pot on him. He continuosly said he was done smoking and he was so sorry, I don;t think I should believe him. What I think you should do, is not get him arrestd. You obviously love your son, and want whats best for him. If you've tried talking to him & he won't listen. Try getting another person besides you he cares about, like a girlfriend, a grandparent, or a bestfriend. Don't give up on him quite yet. (: Hope that helps.

I know this sounds lame but whenever I was a pain in the ass with my Mom, she would just start taking my stuff away. TV, computer, stereo, ect... No matter how much I screamed or yelled she would just take it. Eventually I gave in.

Take your son to a drug rehab center. yes he will be angry at you and won't want to go but your his mother. keep him there for a few months i would say all summer in the end he will thank you.!

The question is, where's the boy's father in all of this?

You had better take DRASTIC MEASURES before it is too late. He is well on his way to being 18. After that you lose most of the control. Call the cops, tell them he's got weed in your house, or that he is driving while stoned - ANYTHING to get him some help. He won't have a permanent record. He's still a minor. Time is ticking................

the pot isn't what's making him angry...it's not an addiction, it's more likely that he's using it to medicate himself from whatever issue is unresolved, which is the real problem...you are a single-parent, so it may have to do with unresolved family issues, but you need a counselor to help find the root problem... if nothing else, i would try to get him to go to a counselor with you, together, or perhaps just him alone, if he is willing to do so...but if he won't cooperate with that, and you can't (or don't want to) send him to his father's, rather than call the cops or whatever as some have suggested, i would suggest emancipating him (since he's almost 18 anyway)...he would learn more and grow up quicker and learn to deal with things better that way (sink or swim) than just throwing him in a jail cell, which will only make him more resentful and less trusting of you...and since the problem could be that he is somewhat resentful of you because his father is not around (normal issues for a child with divorced parents), calling the police will only risk making the situation unresolvable... just remember, there is something that is bothering him...the pot isn't the problem, that's just his way of dealing with the unresolved issue... good luck...

put him and something that can hepl him

It's a little late now, Where were you when he was younger?

My brother was diagnosed as Bi-Polar at a very young age. He was put on medication and told to go to therapy. This is what my parents were told to do by their doctor and they listened. My brother's problems continued to increase even with the medication and therapy. He ended up being admitted to a place where they put teens when they try to commit suicide multiple times. Luckily, he never succeeded. At the age of 18, he stopped all medication and started to smoke marijuana on a daily basis. Within a few months his moods were significantly better, he lost all of the weight he had put on during the time he was taking medication (almost 100 pounds). His energy level increased and he now works out on a daily basis. My father (a former police officer) and my mother (a former teacher and now business owner) have both agreed that marijuana is the best thing for him and that they never should have put him on pills. Does this mean they should have had him smoking weed at age 10? NO! But as an adult you can treat not only bi-polar but cancer, MS, depression, etc. with marijuana. Regarding addiction, the only side affects if you stop smoking weed are headaches and anxiety. The side effects of completely stopping medication (such as ativan or citalopram) are much worse and I have seen both. He actually stopped smoking for about 3 months because his girlfriend didn't like it. Not only did he not have any withdrawal symptoms but his moods went back to how they were pre-marijuana and he was so irritable that she told him to start smoking again. All I'm saying is you should look at this with a different point of view. I know a lot of people who don't know the facts on Marijuana and classify it as a drug along with coke, meth, etc. This is a lie and the DEA and government continue to produce information specifically on TV on anti-marijuana commercials about how bad it is. I have not seen one commercial that isn't a complete lie, almost all of those commercials should be about alcohol. I even saw one where a girl "gets pregnant because she was high". That is so ridiculous my brain can't even comprehend it. I hope this info helped.

I think you should probobly tell him that you love him and you want him to make a good disision.

Pot isn't an addiction, pot will help him relax and is usually helpful when very angry. Trust me, been through it all.

well sorry to tell you but their is not many things you can do for him. he is praticuly a adult he has made up his mind and as a 14 with he same brother problem i can relate but it was his choice not your to do what he did he only gets one life let him make it a happy one or a horrible one on his own.some things just happen for a reson

report him to the police...is he driving high? does he bring it into your home? if he is doing these things and you are not reporting it to the police, you are supporting his illegal behavior. i know i hear all the time from parents that they don't want to get their kid in trouble...he's already in trouble or you wouldn't be talking about this!

The first thing I can tell you to do is get educated. Anger management is one thing... but there is no medical proof that you can get addicted to pot. Pot is just one of those things... You can get cancer from it... oh hey you can get that from smoking... oh and the sun too. Anger manegment you can get help for. Since he is a minor you can have him admitted if you so choose and there is nothing he can do about it... but thats only if you really want him to get angry. I think that those are just things he has to want help with himself.

make him get help for anger. but you can't get addicted to marijuana. so there's no reason to make him get help for that. he'll just go right back to it.

smoke some pot with him and listen to where his anger is coming from. see if you can listen on an adult to adult level...and not as a parent. he probably doesnt see any future for himself. he needs your support, not rejection.

I know it's hard for you to handle such a situation. But you have to act and be strong. there's not much you can do as a Parent until your child is properly motivated. No Parenting technique, approach, talk, or change on your part will work until your child is motivated to listen to and follow your directions. Most children don't lack the ability to obey their parents or follow rules, they simply lack the motivation to do so. I would recommend that you should start to intervene into the matter adopting a home based intervention program like home intervention system specially designed for struggling youth. The Home Intervention System was developed by administrators of schools and programs for struggling youth and has been adapted for home use. The Home Intervention System shows you how to motivate your teen to make changes just like they do in these schools and programs. The System utilizes a simple but powerful Attitude and Behavior Modification Program. The Home Intervention System will help you deal with a wide range of problems that teens often encounter including; anger, substance abuse, school issues, self-esteem, arguing, motivation, interacting with family, and more. Source: http://homeinterventionsystem.com I hope this information helps you..Best Wishes.

On the anger I have no idea how to make someone get help when they don't want it until they get in trouble for it. As for the weed, I mean come on what's the big deal? He's 17 and smoking pot let him enjoy the time he has before he starts getting tests at work. Really it's probably best that he does smoke weed think of how bad his temper would be if he wasn't smoking. Smoking pot is no big deal.

marajuana is not habit forming but it become emotionaly dependant, I mean in order to function emotionaly he needs to get high. what made him so angry?

you can have a police officer come and talk to him. I've seen it done

you should pray about it maybe take him to church:)

I ncant answer your question but id like you to know your not on your own, my son is 17 6ft 1 and very strong, he has anger problems and on a few occasions i have had to take him to a and e for xrays on his hand, he did actually break it once and was in a cast for 6 weeks but it didnt put him off hitting doors walls radiators, luckily not a human being yet.... he talks to me like a piece of dirt and swears and shouts at me, has utterly no respect for me my younger son or our home. im at my wits end and have been to dotors to try and get help and to councillors, theres nothing in our area for his age so ive really had to fight hard to get something, which is due to start next week but tonight we have had a huge row as he has been stealing again from me, im a single mum and cant work at the moment due to illness and it was my last £20 and he took it, it broke me it really did. I want to have a happy home with both my boys but i really cant see it happening and that is so sad, its my youngest i really feel for, as his older brother now scares him. I cant trust him anymore and i really dont know which way to turn anymore. I think he needs to stand on his own two feet for a while but i dont know how to go about it, i cant physically remove him as he is far stronger than me and one minute he wants help the next he doesnt. I hope that it helps to know you are not alone and i wish you all the luck and strength.

this is serious- turn to the black market and buy some marijuana. and ask him if he wants to smoke it with you. i used to have very bad anger problems and ptsd before i smoked pot and it has helped me mellow down a lot...also might make him more creative...just make sure its weed and you get it from a trusted source.

The Police would be happy to take care of that situation.