Why do some people believe that getting married will make you happy?
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Social programming allows us to beleive what our parents tell us.
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because when you love someone and they love you, you truly believe they love you as much as you love them....and you believe that they will love you forever and you will love them forever. and you believe that you both will grow and reach your goals and change in ways that will be complimentary to each other. it's nice to marry your best friend.who could make you happier than your best friend being socially obligated to love you unconditionally? (but lets not get into why people end up divorced.)
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Do you mean that marriage makes people happy or that marriage makes people who don't have a great relationship to begin with happy? Assuming that you mean that people believe that marriage fixes some relationship problems, I believe that it's those people's fear of being alone that causes them to believe that. They are hoping that locking somebody into a relationship through marriage (or pregnancy) would cause that person to act differently towards them and try harder to make the relationship work.
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I think it's part of a Fairy Tale we learned as we grew up
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Marriage and relationships are odd things. Why is it, that the person you are with, fell in love with you for your personality, and as soon as it becomes serious, they systematically try to change you?
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Perhaps because their parents were happily married. On the other hand, some people who feel a need for fulfillment, will seek religion, marriage, drugs, careers, etc. rather than face the personal, psychological work they need to do.
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Because they are so lost in their own self created misery that they think that "things" and people will make them "happy". They find out later that it was only THEY themselves who were making life UN-Happy.
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Because it made them happy. Its not necessary that it will work with everyone. It all depends with both individual's personalities. Relationship is not all about love. It also needs care and compromises in many steps. Conflicts in relationship not only show us our partner's other side but also gives us a chance to get to konw ourselves better in that situation as well.
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It has made me happy for the past 15 years.
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Too many parents telling daughters that some day their true prince will come, nto saying thats true for everyone but since I can remember I always heard hopeful parents encouraging their young children to get married (even by play weddings and playing house...playing house can actually be productive in helping a child figure outgender roles but thats something different). Not to mention, Disney Movies never help. I mean, how many mermaids do you know that met a "two legged land creature" and fell in love? Or Native American women with a racoon and bird as their bestfriend and a British settler to sweep them off their feet and at the asme time manage to bring peace between the "savages" and "pale faces"?
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Marriage can be a source of great joy and also a fair amount of misery. It really depends greatly on the two people involved.
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It's part of the "white picket fence" ideal that has been painted as what to strive for. Problem is that for many once those goals are realized it isn't what was expected. It's not good to look at life with faerie tale eyes.
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People believe this because their parents or church or television programs tell them that marriage is the key to happiness. I've met people that think their entire life is about finding a husband and having kids and if they don't they are worthless. It's sad and silly.
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Those are probably the same people that believe that as soon as you aren't happy in marriage, you should just get a divorce.
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They are childish fantasies. Marriage wont make you happy, you have to make yourself happy, you cant expect someone else to do it for you, that is were some get very disillusioned. To be happy, you have to make happiness a priority in your life.
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Bad parenting, is my assumption. If you teach your children marriage will make them happy they are ill prepared to combat life. The should be taught all happiness comes from within, yet they are responsible for the happiness of all sentient creatures. Entering into marriage with false hope is not healthy for the relationship.
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They've been brought up to believe that happiness is the result of an outside (of themselves) catalyst ie. something/someone "makes" you happy.
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I guess some people are delusional :)
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Walt Disney
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They ain't been around.
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Because they haven't been laid in years.
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Because it can, if you marry the right one! ;-) It helps to have a positive attitude in the first place.
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Because that's what they've been told by the last generation.
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maybe because they just wanna have you know what...
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I have no idea but once its in the mind its obessive. I have a friend right now who feels she wants to get married & is forcing her partner to think twice about the whole relationship she is scaring him so much. She has books on how to make your man propose, what happened to love and just knowing that someone was right. Maybe, security they feel they dont have to worry their partner cant just get up and leave after an argument or something. Maybe, the tax relief will make them happy, the status, the ring on their finger and the fact they can say my husband / wife, jealousy of their friends / family members happiness forces this. I have known 2 women now who have wanted to get married cause their friends have & its like a competition. Its madness, its expensive and just a peice of paper. If you love each other you will both just know its right.
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The same reason why they think having kids will make them happy, or improve the marriage, etc. They don't want to make core changes to themselves that brings true happiness, so instead they look for perceived pastures of happiness to graze in instead. Marriage and having children will tend to make unhappy people even more miserable. Conversely, it tends to make happy people much, much happier. IMHO...
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It is the IF/WHEN trap.. sometimes in relationships, we LOVE the person they CAN be, or the relationship we WANT it to be, more than what it really is.(insert idea here, IF/WHEN he or she does this, he or she changes this, we have kids, we buy a house, move in, sober up, stop whatever we should stop, start whatever we should start...including getting married..)If you think IF/WHEN - - - THEN you are in trouble... If you are happy just the way you are, marriage can be wonderful.
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Why do some people believe that getting married will make ME happy? Do you mean ME getting married or THEM?
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some? some many things like this and some many of them are happy in marriage more then they were before
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Because they aren't the type that like to be alone and want someone to share their ups and downs and wish to live in a family setting. As far back as I can remember my son was always a caretaker. He is single and far from home and often gets lonely. He would like to find that perfect girl to share his life with and have a family. I was the same. Since 10 years old I wanted a family. Not because of fairy tales but because I came from a large family and loved it. My son is the same. He has friends and is fine with that but he wishes he had someone to go home to at night and doesn't want fly by night relationships. He wants the whole deal.
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