by 2young4relationshps on March 8th, 2008

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GUYS: Do u think its weird if a girl doesn't like to receive oral sex? Like if u were fooling around and she said "no" to receiving it, but just wanted to give u oral sex.

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by Kizz miazz on March 8th, 2008
It's common. There are many reasons for it. Mostly hangups and issues relating to past experiences and self esteem issues.
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- I don't think that is true.
  
  I am perfectly happy with my body and vagina and don't have any hang-ups, in fact, occasionally I really like to have oral sex. But in general, it is something my boyfriend has to ask to be able to do. It isn't something I choose to have - I'd far rather have manual stimulation. My boyfriend is an expert with his fingers and can easily give me several orgasms in a row. In fact he once gave me 13 in the space of 40 minutes just with his fingers :-)
  
  It isn't weird. It is just that people have different sexual preferences. I'm met men who didn't like receiving oral and preferred a handjob. In fact I've met a couple who seemed really uncomfortable with it and moved me away as soon as I got down there.
  
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by car audio crazy on March 8th, 2008
no i would let her just blow me then
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- so guys wouldnt think that far into it, if she didnt want to that would be it?
  
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  by 2young4relationshps on March 9th, 2008
- no for me because if you go asking questions about she just might change her mind altogether and not even put out. so i would just keep my mouth shut about it so i could get some head and so of that pussy.
  
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  by car audio crazy on March 10th, 2008
- I've never had a guy comment on it. Most guys are just happy to be able to please you - the only time it will make them feel bad is if you don't show them any way to please you. If you show them another way to really get you off, they feel like they have made you happy and satisfied you and it is all good :-)
  
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  by Irisibis on June 30th, 2009
- That is selfish..
  
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  by chowdownonme on October 29th, 2011
- Damn right it is! Men want to give too! Well, some men...
  
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by Anonymous on July 6th, 2008
no its not wierd, some girls may find it awkward to have a guy give her oral.
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by Xanros on June 29th, 2009
it is a bit off putting i have been with two of those types of girls. one though that it couldnt possibly have felt better than fingering (her old partner was horrible at it), the second an ex bit her while going down bc he though she would like it and she was traumatized. I wore down the first and she worshiped my tongue however the second never let me get more than a few licks in before she made me stop. it troubled me greatly at the time lol
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- I'm another of those girls who would rather be fingered, in spite of the fact that my boyfriend is pretty good at oral sex... he is a genius with his fingers. Oral sex is nice - at times it can be more intense than fingers - but I'd still rather be manually stimulated.
  But I get it might be a bit troubling. I've had a couple of men who didn't like receiving oral at all and since I love to give it I found it a bit unsettling :-)
  
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  by Irisibis on June 30th, 2009
- exactly your bf is "pretty good". Im one of those guys that girls will date simply for the use of my tongue (seriously, an ex once told me that if i wasnt so good at oral sex the relationship wouldnt have lasted nearly as long
  
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by Anonymous on March 15th, 2009
That is definitely weird. Makes me think of the saying "There are starving kids in Africa." She should appreciate that you wanna give her a pleasure better than actual intercourse!
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- But it isn't better than intercourse for all woman. When I'm really aroused, I don't want foreplay. I find clitoral stimulation annoying and I just want intercourse. If intercourse isn't an option, I want to be fingered and have my g-spot done. People just like different kinds of stimulation. Far too many men have come to rely on giving oral to the detriment of everything else because they think it is the ultimate for all women, when actually it isn't.
  
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  by Irisibis on June 30th, 2009
- Then what is Irisibis?
  
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by guesswho on March 9th, 2009
It's up to her, she just may need the right person to try gently on her. But then why worry, if she wants to give are you complaining, I imagine not. She may just have had a bad experience or really not like it, we are all different and there is not one rule for everyone.
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by Bugs-Bunny on March 9th, 2009
I think it is quite common actually. A lot of girls are very sensitive down there and oral sex is actually uncomfortable unless done absolutely perfectly.

Another reason that happened to me when I was young was simply that she had her period and therefore didnt want me down there! I figured it out eventually, but not after a few stupid "why nots?" ....
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by tpatzold on March 21st, 2008
i guess i just like giving guys blow jobs and making them happy.
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by Irisibis on June 30th, 2009
As a woman, I know I find it slightly off-putting if a guy doesn't want to receive oral, since giving blowjobs is my favourite thing.

But I am one of those girls who doesn't like to receive oral much. I HATE the fact that if you aren't that into oral, you just get people saying that you are uptight, or worried about how you look and smell down there, etc etc, as if not having a preference for cunnilingus represented some kind of deep psychological issues.

I like oral, very occasionally. But I'm not keen. I love being fingered and having intercourse, but oral is not a big thing for me. I don't have hang-ups about my vagina, I think it is great, nor do I worry about taste or smell, I am happy for my boyfriend to give me the odd lick down there. It is just that the whole thing or oral sex being like the best sex a woman can have is alien to me. I've had great oral sex, which has given me sensations that were up there with the best I've ever had. But then I've had the same from really good manual stimulation and on the whole I prefer the sensations you get from being touched or having intercourse rather than mouth and tongue.

My first boyfriend wouldn't give me oral, because he got cold sores and was terrified of giving me genital herpes. So he had become incredibly good at fingering and I loved it. That is still the ultimate stimulation for me, the absolute best. It is a shame most men focus on oral and don't learn to use their hands better.
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by digitamerxero on June 28th, 2009
I don't think it's weird only because even today, many women consider that area to be "gross".

Now, as much as I love to "eat in", if she's one of the rare women who knows what she's doing and she just wants to take care of my cock without my having to do any work? Who am I to deny her such pleasure?
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by Indyla on June 25th, 2009
Opposite for me. I love receiving it, but never give it.
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- i love giving but haven't received
  
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  by anonymous on February 14th, 2011
- I'd love to be the first to give it you anonymous. I'm very good at it. ;)
  
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by Sandman on August 3rd, 2008
I would think it's because she'd never been done by a guy who knew how.
Or that she has some vaginal infection and doesn't want to tell you.
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by GGirl on March 8th, 2011
I've known some women like that. Sometimes they just can't get an orgasm that way, sometimes there are underlying issues, and many times it's because so many guys just aren't doing it right.
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by anonymous on March 7th, 2011
i really like to give, so i would still want to give
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by answerman on March 3rd, 2009
Yes. I need to give.
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by anonymous on March 16th, 2009
I had a gf once like that. I think it was an abuse issue when she was younger but she would never tell me about it.
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by The Reverend Soleil on June 25th, 2009
Not "weird", per se -- she's probably just feeling self-conscious about her body.
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by anonymous on June 25th, 2009
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by Frederik on June 25th, 2009
I think it is rather unusual. Most girls love it and can't get enough.
But not all girls have to have the same opinion on that and the tastes are different.
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by princess69 on March 29th, 2010
Im a girl and have definately turned my bf down many times when he has wanted to go down on me but I still do stuff to him. The thing is, I absolutely love it when he does it though. Im not sure why I stop him? Most of the time it's because I feel self conscious, like I dont like to have any hair down there and especially not spikers after shaving and stuff. He says he doesnt mind at all though. its just a girl thing. We want to be perfect down there, especially if he's gonna have his face down there and be licking you lol. I dont have any issues with the way I smell and taste cause ive always had guys tell me I dont have a smell or taste at all. Sometimes I dont like to do it after his done other stuff to me and got me a bit wet cause I feel like that would be gross for him. I prefer it when its the first thing he does to me down there. But all in all, if he starts kissing me all over my body and driving me crazy then just goes down there and starts licking, the feeling takes over and I forget about insecurities and just enjoy the best feeling a girl can feel :)
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