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by justaQ on March 7th, 2008

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In a relationship, what limits are there to age? is a 19 and 28 year old together pushing it?

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  • by Williamstown on March 8th, 2008

    Williamstown

    Age really doesn't matter. I married my wife when I was 21 and she was 38 I had alot of people tell me not to but, I wouldn't change one day from the last 30 years. Your age has nothing to do with it.

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  • by Leeses Pieces is COATed in chocolate on March 9th, 2009

    Leeses Pieces is COATed in chocolate

    "Live and let live."

    No one else should be able to determine or dictate who you can and cannot, AND have and have not fallen in love with.

    Every one of my relationships -- whether it was a great relationship or a toxic one -- has taught me something, in one way or another. In hindsight, I wouldn't go back and change their course.

    Be with the person who makes you happy, and enjoy it for as long as it lasts. If you go into a relationship always looking over your shoulder, or wondering when it will end, it will most likely end prematurely.

    ... Just my life experience.

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  • by Jen-Jen on March 8th, 2008

    Jen-Jen

    I have only dated two people in my entire life that were my age. The rest of them have been 10-39 years older than me but I haven't ever experienced the problems listed here and I hope I never do.

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  • by Penal Colony is wicked marrying Andy on March 8th, 2008

    Penal Colony is wicked marrying Andy

    I do believe that age matters, to an extent. Not because of the gap between ages, but because of the stages of life that different aged people may be at. A 19-year-old is most likely still in the process of discovering the path of their life, in a much more extreme sense than a 28-year-old who may already be "settled" into a particular career and/or living situation. I suppose it's possible to make it work, but I would bet 9 times out of 10 that the 19 year old will eventually want the freedom to grow and discover where their life is going.

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  • by Jez is recovering on March 8th, 2008

    Jez is recovering

    It sort of depends on the stage of life you are in. I don't think a 9 year age difference is a big deal at all - however it IS when you are 19. I changed the most I ever changed between 19-25. However, I would think nothing of it ten years from now (a 29 year old and a 38 year old).

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  • by Sans connaissance on March 8th, 2008

    Sans connaissance

    I'm 19 and my g/f is 24. To be honest with you, It really is no joke. the gap somehow matters the way we see things it's totally different. that's just a challenge.
    We're nearing our first year anniversary now. Sure there was Ups and Downs. But im not giving up that easy. Im far sure that no matter how bad the day turns, We'd still be together by evening. holding each other's hands.

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  • by DiSTurBiA on March 8th, 2008

    DiSTurBiA

    the connection between them is what counts, age is simply a number, and has no real meaning what so ever.

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  • by brandiE on March 8th, 2008

    brandiE

    Using an arbitrary number to decide about a relationship is wrong. Focus on the individual and your connection to them. Like is way important. Love is why we exists.

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  • by DA BEN DAN yanggui zi on March 8th, 2008

    DA BEN DAN yanggui zi

    Over 18 there are no limits. It is your happiness that is at stake. Do what it takes to make your life happy (without hurting anyone else). What could possibly be wrong with love and happiness?

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  • by Elleonora on March 7th, 2008

    Elleonora

    i met my current boyfriend at age 18, he was then 27. i turned 24 the day before yesterday and we are still happy together. i think it depends on the maturity of both partners, but a nine year gap is easy to overcome in my experience. good luck with it.

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  • by aaa on March 7th, 2008

    aaa

    Definately NOT, I'd say about 15-20 years difference is pushing it.

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  • by Possum on March 8th, 2008

    Possum

    I think it's pushing it a bit if you're looking for a permanent relationship.
    But I have short-term relationships with women 30 (or more) years younger and it works fine.

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  • by sweetcheeks on March 8th, 2008

    sweetcheeks

    I dont think that is vey bad, considering that the 19 year old is now and adult,and can make adult decisions, although they may or may not be the correct ones. It would be different if you were asking me that and you are younger than that, then I would have to tell you yes.

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  • by Sweet T on March 8th, 2008

    Sweet T

    I think the age difference is based on the maturity level of the two individuals. To me age is just a number, I have met 40 year old that act like they are 20, I have met 20 years olds you act like they are 50. But, if both person are at the right maturity level for thier age, then I think anything over ten years is pushing it, because you will have different needs at different ages.

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  • by Vampyre Bat on March 8th, 2008

    Vampyre Bat

    The limits to age are those imposed by the laws of different locations. Maturity limits are based on the individuals involved if both are adults the choice is up to them regardless of what others believe.

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  • by tntitans21399 on March 8th, 2008

    tntitans21399

    It depends on the maturity of the two. I'm not saying it wouldn't work out, but their will be a gap to over come, not the age but what the age brings. Rather it is a old tv shows, movies, music, and things like that he might have remembered and listen to, even before the 19 year old was born.

    But all comes down the maturity level because if the 19 year old just wants to party and have a fling, the 28 year old might be over the party scene and flings. But if they are both in the same area and are looking for the same thing, then age makes no difference. Expect like the 1st response, as long as everyone is of legal age.

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  • by master101 on March 8th, 2008

    master101

    pushing it

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  • by leo_spinks on March 8th, 2008

    leo_spinks

    well, normally id say that age doesn't really matter as long as you guys have the chemistry goin. But when theres a big age difference, it becomes more of a difference between how u guys handle everything, and in that regard u might just not get along. But like i said, if u guys got the chemistry, then by all means make it happen.

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  • by Anonymous on May 28th, 2009

    Anonymous

    To an extent I agree, Age is just a number. Maturity really plays a role in a relationship in a situation like this. If the chemistry is there, and you both feel its worth trying, then go for it. You're both adults, and can make your own choices. You'd be surprised at the number of relationships like this one work out. Overall no, i do not see nothing wrong with it.

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