ANSWERS: 8
  • Yes, it makes sense. Lots of us bring "baggage" to relationships the partner has nothing to do with. It's not important how she felt when she married you, but how she feels now. Counseling.
  • So, basically, she was just confirming what she had said in the email???
  • Her response makes sense - from someone getting 'busted' and then when confronted goes for damage control. Her response to you was deflective and manipulative. But it also confirmed what she had written in the message. It effectively puts her in the victim role leaving few options for any further discussion or reassurance. Frustrating for you. Convenient for her.
  • It makes sense, though not in a good way. It can be taken in many different ways, she may be talking about economic safety, or relationship safety (meaning she married you to keep you), or possibly something completely different. Either way, you should walk with a light foot on how to approach the manner and how you take it, it could be nothing, or it might not be.
  • Sounds like you're in a loveless (at least from one side) marraige mate. Not an enviable position from any perspective. That is not a valid reason to marry someone - if you (plural) are truly in love , there is no fear of leaving. I would recommend counseling and, despite the fact she may not like it very much, considering finding someone who actually loves you. Your life at home will improve if you have someone who loves you there (whether it's your wife or a future person). I am in no way an advocate of cheating, don't take that from this, but really, take a look at where you are and where you want to be.
  • Dustin, I am so sorry that you have to learn about this now. You are a young guy, you deserve better than someone who doesn't love you fully. This whole situation is heartbreaking, I feel for you.
  • It makes sense to me. I don't think that was very nice of her, though.
  • I does make sense, to a crazy person at least. You should talk to her more about her last husband and find out what went wrong in that marriage so you two can try to fix it.

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