although you may want nothing to do with him maybe she does not having a father in your life is not something i would want for any child

The court has to render this decision in writing. If you have an attorney, let him take care of this for you. Also, keep a certified copy of the court order with you at all times. If the kids father calls or shows to visit. show him the court order. If he does not comply, call the police. Do it legally and do it right.

im not sure what a b/c is but if its not to serious please for the sake of your child dont deny him access

I am probably going to crap for this, but I dont care, I watched my nephew cry to many times when, my brother was supposed to show up, and didnt. My brother would only go see him, when he was feeling guilty, then promise him the moon. He never got one thing, that he was told, over and over again, he tortured this kid. I would rather he not be in the picture at all, then to stop by every few years and destroy his hopes and dreams. Go to court and have his rights terminated, for abandonment.

What difference does it make to you? Not trying to be funny but if he isn't trying to see her I wouldn't even be trying to figure it out. My children father hasn't seen his kids since May 2006. Think I care! Never talked about him to them because they found out on their own just how much of a loser he is.

stop already all of you!look at the big picture,this is a child we are talking about her dad sounds very unsettled the mother has custody and is settled whats moving to another state got to do with it what the hell has child support got to do with it whats a picture got to do with it get past your own feelings and be a bit compasionate, cmon stop being angry we all muck up dad will always be dad life is to short to miss these oppertunities he just doesnt realize it yet

None of us really know the whole story between you and your daughter's father, and of course that story is your business. It is for a lot narrow-minded people to rush and judge a man whom they know not and tell you words which show sympathy for you but perhaps unfairness to him without knowing all of the facts and the reason(s) why he decided to stay away. It is very difficult for a lot of men to have to go to a third party--an stranger--and request or be granted "permission" to see his own child. Having this stranger in front of you--with a condescend and assuming an air of authority--telling you when you can or cannot see your own offspring. You realize, with a bitter taste in your mouth, that this stranger has more power over your own child than you; and he/she knows that you know that. How those people came to have more power over your child than you? Now, the reason(s) for this father staying away from his child could very well be an antire different set of circumstances and not necessarily the one I presented herein. But I threw this one in here for you to consider as a possibility.

Men, particular those well under 30, often have trouble with fatherhood. It scares the hell out of them. This is because they don't reach full mental, emotional, and hormonal maturity until age 30. Females reach it at age 24. This is why it's not a good idea to have children, cohabit, or get married under these age. For a young father, it some times takes time for them to come to grip with what they are and that there is a child at stake. You can deny him, but the real person you will be punishing is your child, not him. The worse he could do is commit suicide, but for your child, the damage can be life long. Do you want to jeopardize your child's future? All Children Deserve Two Parents Georgia Supreme Court Chief Justice Leah Ward Sears has noted, children born to unmarried women and to those in cohabiting relationships “must often overcome increased risks of poverty, education failure, child abuse, delinquency, emotional distress and mental illness.”…….the lack of a father’s guidance in children’s lives is a major cause of their suffering. “Marriage is the best child welfare, crime prevention, anti-poverty program we have,” http://www.barnesville.com/archives/266-gem-from-jim-octuplets.....html Fortune Magazine - Fatherless Families & Crime “Ominously, the most reliable predictor of crime is neither poverty nor race but growing up fatherless.” http://money.cnn.com/magazines/fortune/fortune_archive/1992/08/10/76732/index.htm Stanford University - Divorce, Nontraditional Families, and Its Consequences For Children "We know that children of divorced parents have more emotional and behavioral problems and do less well in school than children who live with both their Parent." http://www.stanford.edu/~rmahony/Divorce.html Fatherless America : Confronting Our Most Urgent Social Problem David Blankenhorn http://search.barnesandnoble.com/Fatherless-America/David-Blankenhorn/e/9780060926830/?itm=1 Stupid Things Parents Do to Mess Up Their Kids Dr. Laura Schlessinger http://search.barnesandnoble.com/Stupid-Things-Parents-Do-to-Mess-Up-Their-Kids/Laura-Schlessinger/e/9780060933791/?itm=12