I am starting to second guess my standards for relationships. Do you think your standards can be too high? (not talking physical)
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Hard to say another's standards are "too high". I can say, however, you risk great disappointment expecting your mate to continually live up to your expectations. I wasn't successful in relationships until I decided to accept the next woman I met for who she was, not what I expected her to be.
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Sometimes I think my standards are too high, but I really want to be comfortable with someone. So I shall not lower my standards.
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Standards being 'too high', whether in the physical attraction or mental/emotional compatibility is a very subjective notion. However, there is more that can be said about standards being *unrealistic* For example, women tend to like tall men. However, only 4% of US men are 6'2" or taller. So one can argue that insisting upon a superficial characteristic that eliminates 19 out of every 20 men from consideration is counterproductive. Similarly, if you are expecting your partner to be a hard charging go-getter bacon winner during the day, but then transform into a sentimental pussycat once home from work, you are setting yourself for disappointment. The personality characteristics that are suited to doing battle in the business world are very different from the ones that make for an empathetic partner and good parent. I hope this helps.
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Not at all. Actually, sometimes I think im too far the other way.
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I think we can set standards so high that they become unrealistic. However, you want someone that comes as close to what you would like to have in a friend or a mate or a spouse so that makes high standards a good thing... but one should try and leave room for flexibility as well. It's easy to miss the Tree tops for staring at the stars... meaning we can miss out on a good thing just because we are looking for perfection.
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Yes, I think that is possible. I know that mine used to be. But I have lowered them over the years. Not very low. But enough to make me happy.
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Your standards are too high if you expect the other person to be perfect in every way.
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keep your standards the same. just make sure they are realistic. dont expect the other person to be perfect tho but try to find someone thats at least 80% what you want that person to be.
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If that means wanting someone to respect me, support me and make me happy then my standards ARE too high. I'm not going to set the bar too low either.
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No, I think you should have high standards and not settle for less.
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My opinion with that is sometimes when you really don't take a liken to that person any little thing can bother you about them. but when your diggin a person you tend to let things slide that you ordinary wouldn't.
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