IS IT A GOODIDEA TO HAVE A CHILD AT THE AGE OF 18?SHE IS MY BESTFRIEND "FOR NOW SHE SAYS",She also want to go to college,Anotherthing is i will have alot of support from family and friends.I would be able to provide for a child,im gone to b 19 when she 18

I had my 1st child at 19, it was hard. The father and I did not last through pregnancy, and I was a child raising a child alone. I think you should wait, sure babies are cute and sounds like a good idea right now... Then they cry ALOT (especially when you are trying to sleep) And it is very hard if you are not financially prepared. And the having support from your friends? You will be surprised at how quick the friends have other things going on, and how quick the phone calls from your friends stop. Wait until you are ready, it is not fair to have a child unless you have the means to care for it 100%.

THE RIGHT AGE
Leaving out the opinions on this, I’m going to cover the facts of what’s it’s like to be in a “LONG TERM” relationship.

First, it is a statistical fact that relationships involving people who co-habitat and/or get married prior to age 24 have an 85% failure rate. Biologically, this is when females reach full mature on the physical, emotional, and hormonal levels. At this point, a woman is fully prepared to have and handle children, as well as a male that is still not fully mature.

Males don’t reach full physical and hormonal maturity until age 30. This is also when they reach their peak emotional maturity, but not to the point of being fully independent. Half of the male emotional health comes from a woman. The biochemical frequency range of the male brain adjusts itself to match that of the female, developing an emotional symbiotic relationship.

Couples who begin cohabiting and/or get married prior to age 24 can find themselves drawing away from each other as each reaches full maturity. Their whole view of the world, and each other, changes. This doesn’t happen to all couples, but clearly it is a factor in most relationship breakdowns.

In a couple, who has made the right choices, and found that person who truly compliments them, a symbiotic relationship develops also on the physical level. There is a reason why humans were designed to be monogamous. It comes down to the sexual experience that goes beyond pleasure and reproduction.

Seminal plasma (fluid carrying semen) and vaginal fluids contain addition chemicals that the other sex needs. Chemicals in seminal plasma help strengthen the Uterine Wall, not only making it stronger for the carrying of a fetus, but also because the uterus provides physical support for other organs, such as the bladder and the intestinal tract. For males, vaginal fluid reinforces their immune system and affects future production of semen. But, there’s a downside.

The human body adapts to the specific molecular makeup of the seminal plasma and vaginal fluid. The two bodies develop a symbiotic relationship that becomes dependent upon the other. Having multiple partners keeps these functions in constant disarray, always trying to adapt to a new molecular makeup, affecting the overall health of the individual.

This is one of the reasons, and benefits, of developing a long term monogamous relation. For men, there are additional reasons.

A married male lives 20 years longer than a single male, on average. Aside from the physical symbiosis, because a woman provides emotional support, he has less stress, an overall cause of frequent death in males.

For a female, her reproductive and sexual health last longer, not only with the ability to reproduce into her 40s and even 50s, but also continue the ability for sexual pleasure well into the later years.

A monogamous couple become a single, symbiotic unit, standing ready to take on what the world throws at them. They provide the umbrella of strength for the family and the protection of the children. They are core from which the children draw their knowledge and experience of what a family should be, so that they may follow the example of the parents, when they reach maturity and venture out into the world.

This is what it is truly like to be in a relationship, when you make the right choices.

This question is confusing. Is she your best friend or girlfriend?

In any case....There is a chick who works at the laundromat I go to. She is 21 and has 2 children, one of them a 5 yo boy (maybe 6). She works full time and is going to nursing school. She has a lot of support from her mother. Yes, it is possible to have a child young and be successful.

As far as whether it's a good idea to have the child, that is for each person to decide on their own. And that decision should be made before the conception. Otherwise, you have to take the responsibiity of choice. Either way, it's the mothers decision. If the father wanted to insure no children, there are these wonderful things called condoms. They have been around for decades.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Condom

If you have doubts, for sure, you're not ready. It's hard at any age and it really helps to have as many things on firm good ground and solid foundation as possible, meaning good family structure like a married couple, good secure employment, enough financial security for medical emergencies and living, good support system with family and friends.

Not a good idea. I'm 19, and would even THINK about having a kid right now. That would be ridiculous. Even if I were financially stable and all, no. I'm still developing on a psychological level, so are you. Grow up first, try being young while you're young. Personally, I would wait till the late 20's at least. By then you should have developed almost enough patience for being a parent. That, and you've had some time to really get to know and learn how to work with your spouse. That's also pretty key in a parental role. The mother and father should learn to get along and have a good relationship BEFORE having kids.

You sound too young to take such an action that will affect the life of three people - you, the mother, AND the child.

What do your parents, or people with children whom you respect, say? Have you done any research with them to see what a huge amount of work this is?

I don't see anything in your question about why you WANT a child. What need is this fulfilling, other than the sexual?

Stop. Think. Wait.

Good luck!