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  • No doubt your mother wants to share adventure and her heritage with you. Technically, you're an adult and don't have to go, but I imagine it would make her very happy. Maybe you could sit down and discuss it with her. Does she know you didn't enjoy the trip? Maybe there's a way to make the experience more enjoyable. And maybe knowing you're traveling out of the country, you could prepare as much as possible for the loss of school time (if you still attend classes). Sometimes we do things because we know it will make someone we love very happy. It's called compromise. Whatever you choice, I hope you're both happy with it. Good luck.
  • I agree with Gideon on getting together with your Mom and trying to find ways to make it more enjoyable! Anon, if you do go make the most of it as you may not get this opportunity later in life. It's been 20 years since I've been back (I'm second generation) and miss that part of my heritage and family, which is much more numerous than who we have Stateside. With the costs involved and having a family of my own we just haven't been able to travel back, especially since my husband's Caucasian and I don't speak the language very well. However - I do understand you don't want to miss out on the life you have built here. Possibly you could cut the trip shorter than how long your Mom is staying?
  • Perhaps, if we know which country it was, we could suggest activities that are more appealing to someone your age. I had much the same problem with my parents when I was your age, though the trips were domestic - before then, we always did what THEY wanted to do, which was 99.9999% visiting relatives that I neither knew nor wanted to visit. The last time I went, I was finally able to convince them to take me to Huntsville to visit Marshall Spaceflight Center, which I'd wanted to do for many years...
  • Go hang out with your mom. It will make her very happy.
  • Sit down and talk to her. Tell her why you had a bad time and ll. And please stop lying to her. Act like the adult you should be by now. And then reminder her that you are an adult.

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