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  • I'm sorry you are going thru such a hard time, sometimes people get so caught up in thier own problems that they don't see the hurt they are causing others :-( Can you talk to your mom before you go to court ? explain that you love her but you also love your dad and want to spend time with them both, and not choose ? Its hard, I hope it works out ok for you.
  • You should not allow your mother's hate to poison your relationship with your dad. Inform the judge that want reasonable visitation privileges in order to maintain a meaningful relationship with your father. Inform your mother that you understand her resentment, but you will not allow her to sabotage your relationship with your father as a means for her to punish your father for his perceived transgressions. You're a CHILD and you should not have to take sides in the matter. If she makes your life hell because you want to spend time with your father, then she is not serving your best interests and she is unfit to be your custodial parent.
  • Just be honest. You dont want to get off the wrong foot with both your parents especially now that they are divorced. Explain to your mum that its your choice if you want to see your dad and if she still doesnt see your side of the story then just let things cool between you and your mum. I dunno what your mums like but hopefully your mum comes round to the idea that you want to see your dad. Just tell her that you will always be there for her and i dunno who your deciding to live with but it seems that you dont really have a say in this decision. I have a similar situation with you but my parents decide to live with eachother becuase of money. My dad had a shop which went pear-shaped and something about the court taking possesion of our house and my mum had fought hard for the house that i live in and well to cut a long story short my mum has suffereed with my dad as my dad is an alcoholic and so be grateful becuase i hate the situation im stuck in and im only 16 which sucks cos i wanna move out. But i hope all the best works out for you and just keep the faith and be strong!!
  • Thank you all, my profile won't let me confirm it, but thank you for all of the answers! It's helped a lot.
  • I am in the same situation, well mine is a little different. I live with my mom and see my dad every other weekend and my mom HATES that i see him. She will find any excuse to keep me from having a relationship with him but I have learned that telling the truth is the best because if you dont voice what YOU want then you will never get it because your parents can't see past their own hatred. I have been trying to go to court to request that I see my parents on my own terms and that I have the choice of when I go where because that is the only way that I will be able to have a somewhat normal relationship with my father. I think that you should tell your mom the truth and believe me I know thats hard to do but explain that you want a relationship with both your parents and you deserve that! My mom thinks that I plot against her when i talk to my dad on the phone and make plans but really I just want to have a relationship with him. So my addvice is to not regret voicing what you want because in the long run only you will suffer not being ale to communicate with your father and you deserve the right to have a relationship with BOTH of your parents.
  • I have no advice for you, I just want to say that I am so sorry for what you are going through. As a child of divorced parents I understand what it feels like to be in the middle. It's not fair, is it? I'm so sorry this is happening to you.
  • you tell it how it is, its your life. Of course your mum and dad are going to be angry with each other pet. Its a difficult situation but if this is how you feel, you cant regret speaking the truth for the rest of your life. I wish you all the best and I will say a wee prayer for you xx
  • That's a usual tactic. It used in the 60% of cases where fathers are denied access to their children. http://tinyurl.com/ParentsBreakingUp
  • your mom should be more understanding be thats not always the case. try talking with you mom or maybe a grandparent first. you need to spend time with both parents ...Don't give up!.....ps your mom will not hate you.... good luck
  • you do what you need to do for you. if your mom cant deal thats her problem , dont make it yours

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