ANSWERS: 66
  • No. My father would spank us when we misbehaved, but using a belt is a bit too much in my opinion.
  • Absolutely not.
  • No, that is abuse!
  • No, in fact it's a good way to teach sadistic cruelty, abuse of power, and/or an unhealthy reliance on authority figures as opposed to genuine self-discipline.
  • No, My father hit us with those and plenty of other things. He scared some of them to sickness but I don't think it did what he intended to do.
  • Using punishment does not teach discipline. It only teaches fear. My Father used a belt once in awhile. I don't think it's a good idea. Discipline is when the child chooses to do the right thing even if he won't get caught or punished, simply because that is the best choice.
  • I know my parents used physical disipline on me.. i know what was right from wrong eventually .. and i've turned out fine. At first they will "hate" you for it.. but sooner or later they will understand you did it for the right reasons
  • No, nor a wooden spoon. There shouldn't be anything separating the parent and child. They should both know what kind of contact is happening:-)
  • My parents used belts and other tools to punish me and "put me in my place", I now see a therapist because I am paranoid and emotionally destroyed. I used to be prone to abusive relationships because I just took the abuse without a word like I did at home.
  • If you have to use a belt, you have already lost control. My father had a tongue that could maim at 50 ft. We hated to be chastized by him. He never needed to stike us. OF course that might not have been as painful!
  • No. A 150 lb (68 kg) adult has no business using violence (and it is violence, not discipline) against a 50 lb (22.6 kg) child. It would be like a silverback gorilla hitting that same adult. My mother ran a daycare, and I've helped raise children for 10 years. Never once have I even been tempted to use violence against a defenseless child. Anyone that does is a coward. If you can't control your children with words, then you should re-evaluate your role/ability as a parent, because you aren't raising functional members of society- you're raising delinquents that readily resort to violence.
  • no!! nothing should be used to disclpine any kid except a open hand on their bottom ...NEVER!!!
  • The question does'nt ask if it's the moral thing to do. It asks is it a good way. So if you were to look at the state of affairs with kids today compared to 30 years ago then I would say............yes.
  • Kid no, boyfriend yes
  • Absolutely not! But whipping yourself might be a good way to teach your self how to spell whipping.
  • It is a very archaic method, I do support a swat on the bum, ( but not hard) but I do not support something that is so obviously tortureous
  • Hitting a child with a belt seems a bit extreme, though often times a child may become numb to the verbal chastizing or simple grounding. I as a child never fully felt sorry for a wrong when I was verbally chastized, but I sure did learn a lesson when I got spanked. I think for severe misbehavings physical force can be used within reason
  • No, I don't think that it is a good way to teach discipline. It doesn't teach children discipline, it teaches them violence. They do something wrong, they get beaten. Is that the way you want them to grow up and live their lives? Someone does them a wrong and they resort to violence. I don't think that beating or whipping a child is acceptable.
  • Not a good way to teach DISCIPLINE, for some offenses it may be perceived as an appropriate punishment,but i doesn't teach the child discipline by being an punishment,it just teaches them not to screw up again, more fear than discipline. And notfear of the parent, but fear of the conseguences of crimes. Discipline to me is knowing why not to misbehave and how to do it.
  • A tall person beating a short person with a belt doesn't accomplish anything but violence, anger and rage. Internal discipline is acquired from the consequences of the individual's ACTIONS not the consequences of OTHER people's.
  • There's a term for that: Child abuse.
  • Nope, It IS a good way to teach them to hate you..
  • NO, and I've talked to child protection, and they agree that it is child abuse, and if you whip your children you have to use your hand and nothing else
  • no that mcuh to inhumane, i loop the belt around their neck, pull it tight and drag them down the stairs.
  • Maybe not wipping with a belt but a spanking or whack now and then is a good way I believe. Too many people today try to go the peaceful talking way and look at all the brats running around because they were never taught to behave. Child abuse?!? I think not. If you think that way I wouldn't be surprised if kids are suing their parents soon for just touching them...people these days...
  • I think that a child needs to be disciplined and however a parent decides to do it is their business. but I will say this, there is such a thing a child abuse and those who use a belt to spank more than the bottom of a child is wrong. some people believe it and some dont.
  • I know they use paddles in school. I have a paddle in my home as a scare tactic, but she only laughs at it...lol.... I got whipped, but my kid never gets whipped. She gets the traumatic count down. 5....4....3....2....1......5.....4.....3.....2......1....lol...............
  • I am a firm believer that a kid needs a good smack on the ass so to speak every now and then. My son is only a little under 2 so that hasn't came in to question as of yet, but when he gets older, as long as he knows what he did, he may get a couple of smacks on the ass with a belt or a smack on the hands with some flip flops if he touched and broke something that didn't belong to him, but not an all out anger raging beatdown that some parent may do. We need to remember they are small so we need to have self control because we are the ones to mold their little minds.
  • No. I don't. I don't believe in physical discipline. Full stop. And whipping somebody with a belt is just downright abuse.
  • I tell my daughter to eat her peas and she responds with "I'm gonna' tell the police-cops." She's 7yrs old so it's cute right now, but if she's still saying that line when she's 16yrs......Then we have a problem....lol...
  • Spare the rod, spoil the child.
  • when i have kids i will not whip them i dont like it and i think their is plenty of other ways to discepline them
  • sure of course. i plant to do it to my kids. but they'd have to do something really bad
  • No... Spankings should ONLY be done with a bare hand, ONE - MAYBE two - swat(s), and add time out or grounding. Reason for the bare hand is YOU can feel when you're close to hitting too hard. (Can't do that with an implement.) Reason for the ONE swat or two swats is it will do MUCH less actual physical damage, to them AND to you! And if you feel the need, add time out and grounding, so they have to THINK about what they are being punished for. (No TV, Tunes, computer, phone, etc.) Keep it limited for minor offenses, but do it anyway.
    • Dokie
      A spanking that doesn't cause pain is not a spanking but molestation.
  • no it is not a good way. You are showing them violence, and we all now how kids can be in copying off adults.
  • I think it is really harsh to whip a kid. The kids is just a kid and doesnt kno better. I do believe kids need to be punished when they do something wrong but for a kid to be beaten up for doing something wrong is crazy. I was a gymnastics coach and i worked with many kids from the abused to the "caring" parents who never did anything to punish their kids. The ones who would get yelled at all the time and severly whipped turned out really quiet and pretty depressed. The ones who got no punishment turned out too hyper and annoying. I would go with something in the middle.
  • No, I believe there are better ways to discipline a child. I have been whipped and hit on the back of my knees and hands with a ruler/stick when I was growing up by teachers and they hurt. The only thing it did was turn me into a pissed off child with screw it attitude. I HATED school.
  • Whipping my child with a belt? I don't even spank them. Spanking should be reserved for the very worse offenses, and even then, it should just be a small whack on the behind. The best way to keep kids in line is to start loving them as much as possible when they're very young----when they see you love and care for them, they will love you back, and any infraction they commit will usually be followed by a good deal of guilt on their part and the desire to rectify their bad behavior as penance. In other words, gain their trust and love first by loving them sincerely and dearly. When they act bad, show them how disappointed and hurt you are by their behavior and tell them so. Take away their privileges and reward good behavior. Good parenting involves molding the child to behave the way you want through "coercion by the act of loving" .
    • Dokie
      If a spanking isn't painful, it is not a spanking but molestation. That being said, its effects are questionable.
  • No. Violence is always wrong. Even if you may hit children in some countries, you are probably forbidden to whip them with a belt in many countries since it's physically abuse.
  • There is nothing more rotten then to show your physical advantage over a weaker one. Physical punishment is a betrayal of child's trust. My parents used to beat me. Now they are 10 thousand kilometers away, and I would never ever leave my daughter (their grand daughter) with them, not for a day. I just don't trust they would use their brains in case disagreement happens.
  • Yes it is. My father whipped me good with his belt and even a horse whip and I don't hate him or feel like I was abused or anything. In fact i have a great relationship with him based on honesty and equality. It thought me how to be a responsible man and even when growing up all Daddy would have to do is reach to his belt buckle and I knew I had crossed a line. It was painful and humiliating but it did not scar me and made a good well rounded man outta me. I have used the belt on my boy when he messes up and there is no getting through to him.
  • did you like getting hit by your parents?
  • That is called child abuse or assault depending on their age. That is a form of corporal punishment, so I do not think its a good way to teach disipline.
  • You're asking if whipping a child is good? I can't believe that even needs an answer. I'm actually NOT totally anti-smacking. I think that there can be instances where it is necessary. But there is a world of difference between a smack and whipping a child with a belt. Fucking hell...
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  • Ok, I seem to be putting out the wrong impression. I'm a 15 yr. old guy. I don't have kids. I highly disapprove of whipping, in fact. I was raised that way until about 10. I can remember the pains. Whenever I was whipped, I was whipped until I stopped crying out in pain. I learned to grit my teeth pretty quick, with the exception of the one time they used something other than a belt, and I couldn't sit down for a few days. All I gained from it was a high tolerance for pain, and social reclusiveness that lasted until the 8th grade. I hate whipping and will never do it to my future children. the only reason I asked this question was to get a general consensus of what the majority of people think about the subject. I personally think it is child abuse.
  • I think spanking is okay but not with a belt, thats how i was raised and i believe that my parents may have taken it too far sometimes. Especially when they were real mad and didnt cool down before giving me my 'whoopin' sometimes my dad got so furious he used the belt buckle.. not cool. Bare hand is acceptable in my eyes, altho i still debate bare ass spanking... i am undecided on that topic
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  • No, I think it's a good way to teach them fear and hatred. I believe there is a big difference between discipline and punishment. Discipline teaches children to make good choices when their parents aren't around. Punishment teaches them not to get caught.
  • Violence begets violence. NO VIOLENCE!!!
  • No way! It teaches violence!
  • nope. not at all. the only thing whipping your kid does is make them scared of you....and a child should NEVER have to be scared of his parents... a parent/child relationship should be based on trust & love & kindness....NOT fear, whippings, and violence....please dont whip your children....
  • Let me put it this way ... Say you make a mistake at work ... the boss comes over and makes you grab your ankles ..then he/she begins swatting you with a belt .... What have YOU learned ? Not a DA** thing ! Violence only teaches that Violence is the answer ... to all problems .... A swat on the behind with a hand is ok ... as long as no bruises or welts etc .... BUT; as for actual spankings or whipping with paddles 'n belts ... too damm barbaric ... for MY taste.
  • No, use toilet paper when wiping. Using a belt probably make it messier.
  • If you get anyone to actually admit that they believe it is... I would be amazed. Of course it is a mistake. One people do make though and mostly because it was first done to them.
  • No I do not !
  • no even with all that hypocrital BS from scientist about animal and human shit. having them face a corner taking away privalages all will be good dicsipline methods we dont hit people in basic training for a reason unless its instruction in hand to hand combat training you take away all those nice little privalages they get and bam they straighten up if the kid has brothers and sisters do this to all of them at same time for siblings will deffinantly make sure he/she does not mess up again normally do not recommend mass punishment but sometimes required.
  • better u make some deal with ur clild ? it makes them feel that everything can be achieved by wipping with a belt and they imitate that.
  • a good way to do it is teach the kid what the difrence between right and rong is not that if i hit you then youll never do it agen because they are going to so try doing something that will give your kid a rewardd when he or she does something good like when you go to the stor tell them if you are good then i will give or get you a toy or something healthy that they like in the store. there are ways that some people do things that are rong and whipping is maybe going to create anger for the kid
  • no. the time it takes to pull the belt off ruins the effect of corporal punishment on little kids, and with most older kids other forms work. however there are probably children 5-10 which no other forms of punishment work, but I still say the belt is excessive. the only reason to use the belt is if intending to inflict more pain than your hand could handle and that is too much.
  • NO!! why would you want to physically harm your child with an object? Striking a child with an object is not discipline. I'm sorry but seriously you're making me want to cry.
  • I think it's sadism - and those who do such a thing are sick and twisted. I never had to raise a hand to a child, ( or worse - hit them ), to "teach discipline"....maybe that makes me better than some people but I highly doubt it.
  • Not at all, kid is kid.
  • No. Then you teach the kid to do that to someone else. How pointless.
  • you sound like someone who's living in 18th century

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