by Raine on February 24th, 2008

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Should the ex husband attend his ex mother in laws funeral when he has nothing to do with the ex wife. His ex shows up at all his family functions. He no longer goes to any of their parties because of her there.

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by Firewater on February 24th, 2008
yes he was part of her family afterall and especially if he has kids it is their grandmother. I think its nice for him to show respect.
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by JTP on February 24th, 2008
Did you have a good relationship with the MIL? If so than yeah go, don't let others keep you away.

If not than don't go.
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  by Gingerminx on December 16th, 2008
- You're right, but if you have kids, and you still get along with other members of her family... If you'd go to a friends' mother's funeral, why wouldn't you go to a MIL's? +6
  
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by BigDaddyBS on November 10th, 2008
If they have kids together, for sure! If nothing else, he's there to support them.

By the same token, if they were together for some time, he probably became relatively close to her family, and attending would be a show of support for them, besides giving both sides a chance to "catch up". (When I divorced my ex, it was stated by both sides that I was divorcing her, not her family. They didn't invite me to general things once I had a girlfriend, but for a few years, when I was single, they did. Our kids, I believe, as well as her family, appreciated me.)

Besides, whether he now has anything to do with her, now, or not, he KNEW the family. Don't you think he may wish to show that he supports them in this time of need? (I'm sure they know the whole situation.)

And, if he would attend the funeral of a friend's family-member, he should attend her mothers. After all, they WERE related - A LOT closer than a friend's family member.
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  by BigDaddyBS on December 16th, 2008
- I think it was a troll as we all seem to have been down rated. +6 from me.
  
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  by Gingerminx on December 16th, 2008
- There's a big difference between an ex who wants to show respect and follows the basic rules of etiquette and the ex who wants to flirt with her ex and expects to sit beside him and his new wife. My husbands ex showed up at his fathers funeral without her husband and was taking sympathies from everyone and hanging onto my husband like he 'needed' her to support him. I was there to support my husband and his family. She should've just sat in the back and been respectful to the rest of us. Plus, everybody in his family can't stand this woman...she cheated on him several times before he finally divorced her.
  
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  by grfaircloth1 on May 5th, 2012
- Your first sentence is very true. "Hanging onto [him] like he 'needed" her to support him."... that's a bit much. As for her sitting in the back, that's neither here nor there. Showing respect for the family, for YOU, that is. She obviously doesn't and probably thought she was just by showing up.
  
  As for "flirting"... That's open to interpretation. I mean, what you consider as her "flirting" with YOUR man, may not be, unless HE thought she was, too.
  
  TALKING to him (and you) and other family members... Expressing condolences... THAT was pretty much all she should have done.
  
  And the family members who can't stand her should have accepted that she showed up at a funeral for someone she knew AND WAS RELATED TO for at least a few years, no matter if she had cheated or not. However, courtesy of a "thank you for coming"... maybe a hug... is all they needed to give her. That's for YOU, too. Remember, she and your husband WERE married for a while.
  
  I repeat, though... The "hanging all over him" was a bit much.
  
  I am sorry for your husband's loss, and her lack of proper respect. I hope most of the rest of the day went without too much drama.
  
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by Gingerminx on November 10th, 2008
If he wishes to and it is not a closed ceremony.
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  by Gingerminx on December 16th, 2008
- Guess so! +6
  (I agree - I noticed all of us said yes (within reason). Apparently, just someone who hated their MIL! ;-) )
  
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  by BigDaddyBS on December 16th, 2008
- laughs maybe so. Thank you.
  
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by grfaircloth1 on May 5th, 2012
Absolutely NOT. Here's the definition of divorce just in case you need to spell it out for him. (Like I had to for my husbands EX)

di·vorce (d-vôrs, -vrs)
n.
1. The legal dissolution of a marriage.
2. A complete or radical severance of closely connected things.
v. di·vorced, di·vorc·ing, di·vorc·es
v.tr.
1. To dissolve the marriage bond between.
2. To end marriage with (one's spouse) by way of legal divorce.
3. To cut off; separate or disunite: an idea that was completely divorced from reality. See Synonyms at separate.
v.intr.
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